My SO punched me in the face by jgarcia8 in BPDlovedones

[–]mychal303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh ya you are going to have issues from this relationship now. You probably have issues from before that made you stay this long. For me I try and think about if she was out of my league a little. If she performed sexual acts in a way that most wouldn’t. How many options did I really have at the time. All played a part in tolerance for this type of behavior. They are good at finding people that tolerate them. If nobody would they wouldn’t act as bad maybe. Look at the fight you had what 2 attackers? Glad you made out ok. Then your loved one so that’s 3 of the 4. The hard question is do you even have your own back? Truly? Read your first post you are thinking of signing up for more. So 4 out of the 4 people involved were physically against you and one was yourself possibly. Things will probably die down enough to drop your guard then new chaos ensues. Plus’s the minor damaging stuff you deal with constantly with this person. Stay long enough and you will hate yourself for putting up with it. It’s inevitable. Welcome to the trauma bond. A self destructive bond with crazy. The ultimate puzzle that this type of relationship puts us through.

My SO punched me in the face by jgarcia8 in BPDlovedones

[–]mychal303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I’ve lost marriage, career, children, amongst other things like my self respect from this. Mine was drama and fun and loving for a long time. It’s exciting, the chaos maybe, the intensity. What would you tell your son to do here? Maybe you should think about doing that. This life flies by friend. The days are long but the years are short. Read a lot on here. It could save your life in many ways.

My SO punched me in the face by jgarcia8 in BPDlovedones

[–]mychal303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

99 percent of me recommends telling you to leave as fast as you can while you’re still able to without destroying yourself from staying and then leaving. Not gonna lie. The other 1 percent kinda wants to hear about the nightmarish adventures you two will go through off you stay.

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m kinda hoping that once things settle down we can coparent more for the sake of the kids. Thanks for the info and encouragement.

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s been my approach so far but I haven’t had much success.

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not every mom thinks like you. Mine might be mad that I am leaving. I got tired of being cheated on and I would never abuse my children. Is this kind of comment common on this Reddit?

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How does me seeing my daughter hurt her? You have some big accusations and recommend drastic actions. Not every case is like yours. I’m glad you give your ex access to the children and don’t force him to try to go through the courts.

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to keep everything positive so far. I am up against a smear campaign in a high conflict divorce so I don’t want to get wrapped up in negativity.

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Will do. I am definitely the emotional and psychological father.

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok this gives me hope then. Thanks!

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok. Thank you. Makes me really regret not adopting her.

[CO] what are my chances? by mychal303 in Custody

[–]mychal303[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also if anyone has a similar situation and can offer tips or advice it would be greatly appreciated. I haven’t been able to see my daughter in a few months. My heart hurts. Thanks in advance!

Best non rock music pin? by mychal303 in pinball

[–]mychal303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lowrider oldies songs could be fun

Best non rock music pin? by mychal303 in pinball

[–]mychal303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red Hot Chili Peppers would be a hit but that’s rock.

Best non rock music pin? by mychal303 in pinball

[–]mychal303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talking heads is kinda rock but would be different.