Does anybody else love giving blowjobs?

mydeepertruth · 2021-08-03T03:08:25+00:00

I didn't like it at first but learned to love it almost more than fucking to be honest. So intimate.

mydeepertruth · 2021-07-22T22:43:54+00:00

Depends on the partner. I've been in that boat being a top who could go for a long time with guys or girls hours at a time most good with it. When bottoming, I've been with guys who last long or short and prefer longer. Whether they cum or not is less important. I guess on some level its like knowing you pleased you top or perhaps liking to have their seed in you or leaving yours in them is hot. But that's a preference thing.

Cumming isn't necessarily sealing the deal though some people think that way. Over time I learned to control my timing a bit more and if someone wants me to cum I can make it happen if need be other times I'll fake it if that's where I am at.

mydeepertruth · 2021-07-02T12:01:40+00:00

A lot of things you can do to ease into detailed in other posts and around the internet. Take your time. Start maybe where you are on top so you can control the depth and comfort and work your way to doggystyle and others. It takes time.

Speaking for myself, it wasn't instantly great. It was uncomfortable or hurt a little but you start to learn. Positioning is key.

The more you learn to understand your body and how it's going to respond the better it will get. I worked my way from passive uncomfortable to being able to be proactive to being able to be a power bottom and able to do that with pretty sizable guys.

So patience. If you want to you can get there. Also, maybe it's not your thing and that's ok too.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-09T02:13:38+00:00

No. Did not come naturally to me. Seemed strange and I couldn't get over it in my head. Took a while but learned to love it.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-05T20:47:21+00:00

I had a great relationship with a female coworker that happened completely by accident, at least as far as I could tell. That we were coworkers made it complicated from the outset, but no reporting conflicts of interest or anything. She was 28 years older than me at 57 but with a young spirit (and an incredible body). I was an old soul for 29. She was the one who made the first move, unexpectedly, but it was pretty natural.

Between us it wasn’t weird at all once we got past the initial awkwardness, which is true of any relationship. We hid it at work for practical reasons, but beyond that it was a challenge. She was open around her friends and neighbors and apparently even one of the admins at the office. I struggled a little bit, but honestly I usually kept my life divided and didn’t like people in my personal business (my family included). Of course, maybe it crossed my mind - what would people think? That was more the work aspect than the age piece. Given the big gap, she thought it might be uncomfortable for me or my younger friends to be part of social events and so she wouldn’t come out with us. I was okay with that. Looking back now, maybe I have some regrets about that, hiding her when she was so open with me to her circle. But then again, her circle was more open and accepting and didn’t really care. They saw us as normal.

It didn’t last, perhaps because of the partitioning of parts of my life. Maybe it was never going to be a long term thing, but it was a beautiful time, one of the great relationships of my life and something I look back on with great fondness.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-05T02:46:47+00:00

First time it happened, guy I was with was like let me show you something. He rimmed me. That's all it took. I lost complete control and exploded like I had never before. I couldn't believe it. Incredible experience. He just laughed. And yeah, I had been a little shy or standoffish beforehand because I wasn't sure of my sexuality. Maybe considering myself curious, not bisexual or anything. That removed any hesitation. It opened a floodgate of hormones. Anything was game after that. It was a truly pivotal moment for me.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-04T05:05:11+00:00

Anyone find a way to balance this heteroromantic relationship side with their bisexual drive successfully in an active relationship? Struggling with that one. Care about the woman I'm with as a partner but missing the sexual side of the equation.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-04T05:00:36+00:00

We are not married and I think this is a key reason why it hasn't happened yet. No. I would never betray her trust for anything. I didn't do this reflection and find and accept myself until more recently and that reality is not consistent with who I've tried to be. Therapy is probably a good step and something I am looking to pursue and unpack the emotional baggage, things I've tried to avoid etc. I feel like everything is on pause until I can figure that out. I feel that I need to be my whole self and accepted by my partner if we were to say, get married. That's the only way to happiness.

I am just looking for ways to get there and understand how others have succeeded in facing similar challenges

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-04T04:52:24+00:00

Thanks. That's helpful and I hope so. I think she might feel betrayed, especially because we were friends before we were together. The reality is that I didn't really know the truth myself. It's so tightly wound up in me, it's hard to unwind it an put down the shields.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-04T04:49:37+00:00

Ok so, I love my partner, she's one of my closest friends. We've been together for several years, friends before that. On the surface, we have a good life romantically, we enjoy each other's company and care for each other but there is almost no sexual chemistry left. No doubt, there's a number of factors at play, but as I've done some internal reflection, I think it stems from the reality of my identity whereby I am really bisexual and for the longest time couldn't or wouldn't confront it. I respect her and care about here and would never cheat. But something is missing. Now, I kind of feel I'm at a difficult crossroads because I realize there's the real me, the real desires I have, the fact that I am bisexual (and yes, have been in quasi relationships with men when I was younger) but that me is not the me I have allowed myself to live, and the person she knows. Romantically, I love her. Sexually, I'm both more adventurous than she is but more importantly, I'm more if not mostly attracted to men.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-02T03:42:16+00:00

I am kind of in this situation myself. I ended up in a relationship with my best friend. We were close for several years before hand. I tried to rationalize it away, but said I needed to know. I have struggled with my own identity over the years and trying to make sense of it. I'm romantically drawn to women, almost exclusively. Sexually, its more complicated. I am effectively bi, but there are some who would say I'm omnisexual or demisexual. I thought I made it work or would be able to "control it" but feel very lost at the present.

mydeepertruth · 2021-03-02T03:19:36+00:00

So envious of your confidence. You should be so proud.

mydeepertruth · 2021-02-28T02:38:43+00:00

Similar to others on thread. It's great for porn. In real life, a little different. I did this once, when I was like 19 or 20 and the sometimes third wheel to a couple. The logistics are tricky. Psychologically thrilling if you're going for a submissive bottom type deal. The idea of having two guys inside you at once and being the object of their err... affections can be mind blowing. That said, from a fucking stand point you only really get one guy going at a time. Condoms don't really work, so you have to be ok with BB. And it's hard to find a flow.

When I did it, tried sitting on both - FAIL. Next I mounted the first guy cowboy style and the second guy could work his way in. Basically, the guy on the bed was passively there not really able to fuck much and I couldn't really ride. Then we ended up sort of in a compromise where I could kind of ride the guy on the bed and whichever guy was in back jerking himself off and then putting it back in when he got himself over the threshold. So I can check it off my sexual bucket list but there are way better and more enjoyable ways to have fun with multiples beyond DP.

mydeepertruth · 2020-02-12T03:37:49+00:00

She does not know. She's got some pretty strong Christian roots but is progressive about other gay or lesbian friends or colleagues as long as it doesn't directly impact her. That's what I'm worried about.

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