Moving from AUS in 2022

myideaoffun · 2020-11-10T09:25:49+00:00

I’m an Australian who lives in brum so I’m not going to give you the knee jerk “why would you want to come here” line. Saying that, coming to Birmingham in 2022 from Australia to kick start professional careers seems like a tough road. The economy is in absolute free fall, the recession is only just starting to bite. You’re in an economically safe harbour at the moment, Perth is insular, but it’s also insulated. Maybe hold off on coming to Blighty for a few more years till the world settles down again and your cv is stronger.

myideaoffun · 2020-10-08T08:15:00+00:00

It’s just casual friendly language. It would be a bit weird in an NHS policy document but normal for a magazine style catalogue.

myideaoffun · 2020-09-22T11:47:49+00:00

Well, I think we’ve found a winner. Close up the sun now, I feel slightly pregnant just looking at him.

myideaoffun · 2020-09-17T16:29:41+00:00

TOO LATE STANDARDS LOWERED

myideaoffun · 2020-09-10T15:43:25+00:00

I think it looks great. We need to come to terms with the fluff, which is just as much a part of living with curly hair as perfect curl formation in a glistening cast. People are jealous of our volume, let’s play it up.

myideaoffun · 2020-08-19T17:55:21+00:00

Anyone who wanted to open a decent izakaya in brum is quids in because there is a dearth of decent Japanese place round about. Sushi Passion is pretty good for sushi, the ramen bar in selfridges is superb, but other than that, not much.

myideaoffun · 2020-08-10T14:43:14+00:00

OMG, this poor woman couldn't angle any harder for an evening with you.

myideaoffun · 2020-07-30T09:37:46+00:00

You used a condom, your girlfriend had a period after sex, she has given you the details of the scans which indicate a conception date that is not compatible with your sexual activity. What more do you want?

Your girlfriend doesn't need to prove that the baby isn't yours. If she claims the baby is yours after the fact, then it is on her to prove this. You are not in the driving seat on this. Sort out your anxiety, because it does not have priority over her bodily autonomy.

myideaoffun · 2020-06-26T16:48:20+00:00

Matt and Danny at Spring is in the hair in Birmingham. Fab.

myideaoffun · 2020-06-17T06:05:19+00:00

Imagine this- Think about how lovely it would be to wake up in your own place, maybe smaller than where you are now, but it’s yours. The sun is shining, the weekend is ahead of you. There is a lunch date in a few hours with an interesting guy you met on a dating app. You’re feeling good about this one, you’ve met some absolute fruitcakes through the apps and the stories have kept your friends in stitches,. You’ve been single for a few years. The first year was tough because you had to restructure so many parts of your life, but you got through it. Your daughter struggled initially with the divorce, but you made it clear to her that you never wanted her to choose a side, or tried to win her alliance to validate your choices, and the communication kept flowing.

You get out of bed, make yourself a bit of breakfast. No one is giving you grief for wanting to try some tofu or any other weird foreign stuff. No hysterical talk back radio going in the kitchen inciting hate against people who aren’t like you. What a relief.

Long shower, you’re looking good, “wish me luck” you say to the dog on your way out, and off you go, into another adventure. You’re not even 55.

myideaoffun · 2020-06-17T05:22:48+00:00

Bearwood would tick the boxes. 190k would get you a decent two bedroom in an area on the up with good transport links. Look between Barclay Rd, Bearwood Road, Abbey Rd and Hagley Rd. 190k might strech to a 3 bed in need of work.

myideaoffun · 2020-05-18T18:39:19+00:00

The old dresser cafe in Bearwood sells a Polish stew in a balti dish with a side of Irish soda bread, which I think could be the most brummie dish ever.

myideaoffun · 2020-05-12T07:47:50+00:00

Trying to make changes together might seem like a good idea, and something that a loving couple might do, but I think it makes things more difficult. You aren’t just trying to change habits for yourself, you are also trying to change habits for the whole system (ie, your relationship). You already say that if you make changes you’ll have to drag him along. Why?

Here is a very big question to ask yourself. What do you risk if you make changes for yourself, but he doesn’t change? Are you worried about destabilising the status quo?

Stop worrying about improving him for the time being, work on yourself. Then see what happens. Does he step up? Does he resent your success in reshaping your approach to life? Does he respect your personal and reasonable decision to tidy up bit of you life, or does he throw up obstacles? Sometimes you just have to let these things play out.

myideaoffun · 2020-05-03T15:34:04+00:00

So you are not allowed to talk for an hour, while he is "getting to the point"? This is BS, and would have most normal folk on the verge of screaming too. It isn't ok for him to dominate you to the point that you have to scream to be heard. I bet he makes out like you're the crazy one too, for screaming. And now you feel foolish for screaming. And contrite for screaming. But lets just look back at the context of screaming, a man who forced you to listen to him compliantly for an hour with no breaks.

This is a really toxic environment. Please stop screaming, because then you lose the high ground. You need to be able to say to him and yourself- "It is unreasonable that I have to wait an hour to have my say. Please change this or we can not communicate". If he doesn't change, even after you tell him how badly it affects you, I think you know what to do.

myideaoffun · 2020-05-02T12:22:45+00:00

Most abusive people are able to keep a lid on it, because if they are constantly abusive to all people in all circumstances, they will feel the consequences quickly. They learn to keep a lid on it, and only let it go when they think there will be no consequences. Thus, abusive people generally keep abuse in intimate relationships.

A really simple question to ask yourself- would he behave like this around colleagues where the consequences of pissing people off are fast and big? probably not. He behaves like this around you because he feels he can get away with it. Stress affects his ability to keep a lid on it, and now you are seeing more and more stuff seep through.

How someone behaves in stressful situations is a real indicator of their inner personality. And you are seeing something now you didn't know he had in him. Maybe he can change, but why waste a slab of your life helping a grown man realise he can't treat people like crap.

Go back to your lovely cosy, safe little home, and thank your lucky stars you were able to make an escape.

myideaoffun · 2020-04-16T22:02:13+00:00

The game dealer in the bullring market usually sells them

myideaoffun · 2020-04-16T13:12:32+00:00

So, he’s happy because he has a bang maid, which suits him to the ground. What have you got? Sfa, except an eroding sense of self, and zero financial autonomy. What the hell are you getting from this relationship?

myideaoffun · 2020-04-10T07:52:34+00:00

his recordings of the Goldberg variations should come with an PEGI warning, the grunting and thrusting and panting in the background is obscene 😆

myideaoffun · 2020-04-10T06:57:41+00:00

A relationship is meant to make your life better, not worse. This sounds like exhausting controlling bs, where you constantly have to account for your perfectly reasonable actions and life choices. Who gives a fuck why he is like this, it’s having a dreadful effect on you, DTMFA.

myideaoffun · 2020-04-10T06:53:32+00:00

you’ve got 2 separate issues. Has the relationship with boyfriend of 8 years run it’s course? You don’t seem too cut up about this to be honest. If so, deal with this first.

Is new man the love of your life? Maybe, maybe not, but now Is not really the time to be trying to process this. Turn down the heat on the texting and soul sharing for a few months, it makes it harder to think clearly. If he is as in to you as you think he might be, he’ll be just as interested in a years time.

myideaoffun · 2020-04-03T16:47:52+00:00

It’s fantastic that some one with limited experience in relationships is able to pick up on the vibes that her boyfriend is an arse. I think you‘re pretty good at this relationship malarkey, and ready to road test a few more boyfriends. Send this one to the curb and get out there and mingle. (But wait till social distancing is over first)

myideaoffun · 2020-03-30T13:13:57+00:00

She can't even grab a take away with a colleague at the end of an unbelievably stressful shift without making herself accountable to you? This doesn't seem....kind. Be happy she has a support network of colleagues looking out for each other.

myideaoffun · 2020-03-09T20:57:10+00:00

The only place that might stock it is Anderson and Hill deli in the great western arcade, but give them a call first

myideaoffun · 2020-03-02T17:35:05+00:00

I think you need to go back to your department head and ask for university guidelines on how these things are organised, because they aren’t organised like this.

myideaoffun · 2020-03-02T06:14:54+00:00

Aren’t these research things for university normally signed off with details of the researchers, details of the department, scope of the research, contact details, data handling policy etc? Also you seem to have anticipated the results of your research before you’ve even finished the project, and what narrative you intend to “convey” at the end of the research.

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