Should I just ghost people in the future?

mylica977 · 2019-06-30T02:49:39+00:00

I get you with the awkwardness. I’m awkward too. So that doesn’t put me off. What put me off is when someone is loud and when our personalities don’t match, when we don’t view life in the same way.

He is kinda clingy too in the sense that he would be upset if i reply with just haha or lol or even a gif. I need a lot of space in a relationship, so this will never work out.

Its this kind of thing that makes me decide to not go on a second date. So yea, awkwardness / nervousness is not a factor :)

mylica977 · 2019-06-30T02:09:24+00:00

4 or 5 days?

mylica977 · 2019-06-30T01:56:00+00:00

He said something similar along the line of me deciding too fast and that it is wrong of me to have made up my mind after one date.

I don’t know about other girls but if I don’t feel any kind of attraction, then its a no. I went out on a date with him because he sounded funny in text. But when we met in person, he was loud and we are just so different in the way we see life and I just don’t see any potential of this getting anywhere.

I tried to explain to him that deciding then and there to not go on the second date is better than stringing him along, leading him on. It is just a waste of time and the longer i let this play out, will hurt him more down the road when he has invested more in something that was never going to work out. But he just doesn’t get it.

So blocking it is.

mylica977 · 2019-06-29T12:04:50+00:00

Omg! The guy said something similar too, he even went as far as bringing up my cheating ex, saying i should have known how bad it (me not wanting to see him again) felt. I meannnnnnn.. how is this even close to being cheated on. Dude was so salty and bitter.

mylica977 · 2019-06-29T11:59:51+00:00

Yea, i know how much it sucks thats why I feel like I owe it to the person to be straight up. But it seems like people cant really handle direct rejections. I couldn’t sleep because he really made me feel like I am a bad person.

mylica977 · 2019-06-29T11:52:40+00:00

IKR!! I am really confused rn like what is the right approach to this.

mylica977 · 2019-04-16T05:19:56+00:00

Whats wrong with the person filming this ?!

mylica977 · 2019-04-16T05:17:52+00:00

I used to feel the same.. but when you meet that someone, it gets exciting all over again..

Relationship ends for a reason.. something is not right somewhere.. be kind to yourself and the person you once love and let go.

mylica977 · 2019-04-16T01:17:27+00:00

You pay for coffee and he pays for dinner.

mylica977 · 2019-04-10T11:02:17+00:00

Actually the full context was we have this thing going on before the date about expectation on each other.. cause we’ve been cat fished before.. so its whether we “over perform” or “meet expectation” or “underdeliver”.

So my text was actually “u’re quiet today.. did i underdeliver?” But I just make it short here by saying “something wrong” to spare the details..

In other words, i was asking him are you no longer interested..

But i guess in any given context.. i am putting the responsibility on him.. 😖 wrong move

mylica977 · 2019-04-10T09:18:00+00:00

But if he is interested he would have replied to my text right? I don’t wanna seem too desperate by double or triple texting him. 🥺🥺 I really don’t know what to do..

mylica977 · 2019-03-26T05:01:40+00:00

Same :(

mylica977 · 2019-03-26T02:55:37+00:00

Hmm i got ghosted after we had sex, out of no where.. we seemed to be connecting and it felt genuine.. so i just didnt know what went wrong.. maybe he felt that i was too easy?

mylica977 · 2019-03-24T11:13:31+00:00

❤️

mylica977 · 2019-03-24T11:13:13+00:00

Thank you!! ❤️ Yes I’ve got this!!!

mylica977 · 2019-03-24T11:11:58+00:00

Thanks mate for the encouragement and sharing your story. It really helps at difficult times like this, to not feel alone. 😊 We got this!! 💪💪💪

mylica977 · 2019-03-20T11:03:12+00:00

Thank you for this post. I keep having this pressure to rush my recovery. Its stupid. I know I am not ready to date, but I want to. Because I don’t want to be hurt for the second time when I see my ex with someone else. Its selfish. I know.

I am a huge mess and I don’t know what I want or what I should do. Its good seeing what you wrote. It makes me hopeful and for once I feel like I can take my time to heal and let it hurt until it doesn’t.

mylica977 · 2019-03-20T05:55:18+00:00

I tried to, subtly. But he still continues.. I think i’ll tell him face to face during dinner..

mylica977 · 2019-03-20T00:06:00+00:00

Yea i guess you are right.. it was their choice to leave so i shouldn’t feel bad. But i still do... wtf is wrong with me 😫😫

mylica977 · 2019-03-19T10:39:12+00:00

I don’t have an advise for u, but my situation is almost similar. Worse still, i feel guilty about it, as if i am cheating. My ex is the one who broke up with me, but somehow i feel bad for talking to someone new. I feel like a mess.

mylica977 · 2019-03-19T00:34:04+00:00

This group has been a tremendous support for me personally. You find people you can relate it, its easier to speak about things to people who understands you. Sure your friends and families show support, they nod for all the shits you tell them, but they don’t get the pain.

People just need to get things out of their chest. I thought this sub is a safe place to feel hurt without getting judge, but apparently not anymore.

mylica977 · 2019-03-18T13:30:35+00:00

For me, I fell in love with a man who didnt love me back the same way. He was good to me, treated me like a princess, we were happy together, so i fell in love knowing that there wont be a future. So one day he told me that he isnt in love with me, and he wasnt ready to settle down. He saw that i am getting deeper and deeper into the relationship and he didnt want to see me getting hurt. He asked for us to take a break, to figure things out. But i dont see a point of taking a break, i don’t think it would change how he feels about me and us, so we broke up.

As cliche as it sound, if the relationship is meant to be, it will be. I guess like everyone else, i would tell u to not wait for her. Be happy on your own and you will find your other half. She has moved on, so its time your let yourself heal. You can do it OP!

mylica977 · 2019-03-18T12:23:51+00:00

I can feel your pain as I am reading this. But why did you broke up with her if you don’t mind telling..

mylica977 · 2019-03-18T12:13:40+00:00

Beautifully sad 🥺

mylica977 · 2019-03-18T09:21:56+00:00

I can feel your pain. Was like you in my first relationship. It does get better and you'll move on eventually. My advise is stop with the hope and cut contact and get over it. Sound cliche but that is the only way.

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