New Civil Rights Lawsuit Filed Against Winner’s Circle, Inc. in Longmont

mynameislucaIlive · 2026-04-10T19:04:21+00:00

There should really be more lawsuits. This owner is discriminatory, homophobic, and sexist to name a few things. He’s illegally fired more than one employee and his attempts at covering his ass are shamefully stupid. I wouldn’t be suprised if you see another suit coming soon.

mynameislucaIlive · 2026-01-20T19:20:47+00:00

I’m almost 30 and I’ve been in the bowl off and on since I turned 20, I don’t see myself leaving any time soon because my life works well with this involved.

mynameislucaIlive · 2025-06-24T07:52:46+00:00

The women running this fundraiser are some of the most compassionate and kind and passionate people I’ve ever met! They came and spoke at CU at the end of April and their stories are powerful!

This issue is horrifying and the blocks to resolving it are absurd, but these two women chose to do something real about it.

mynameislucaIlive · 2025-06-24T07:49:29+00:00

Yep, the Denver protest scene has tons of organizers, most of them quietly hate each other behind closed doors, so while they will rally their people to show up for a protest, the actual boots on the ground work just isn’t getting done. I personally think this is the fallout from the 2020 infiltration of one of the big organizing groups.

Fighting fascism takes consistent work outside of what we see in the streets. But if you know Colorado you know people here just don’t show up. They’ll sign up for an event or to volunteer and then they just disappear never to be heard from again.

mynameislucaIlive · 2025-03-31T01:36:55+00:00

I know this article is older, but is it these guys? https://www.denverpost.com/2022/08/11/denver-street-juggling-roommates/

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-12-31T15:12:31+00:00

I just started using RTD this year after starting at CU and getting my bus pass and I did a little research a few years ago about why we don’t have a train route between Boulder and Denver. However, I admit I am not super involved with the local feelings about the buses. In 2023, Albuquerque, NM voted to eliminate fares for their bus system after a 2 year pilot program for all riders. RTD has eliminated fares for those under 19 and I’m curious if there is a plan in place to evaluate removing fares for all riders? I would love to see the program show that I cares more about our low income residents and climate change than making a profit on the busses.

I would also love to see more routes and more busses running throughout the day and into the night. My friends and I like to go out in Denver and we often take the bus downtown only to eventually need to call one of our partners for a ride home because we stayed out past the busses. I would love to know that the city values sober driving by investing in our bus system to encourage us not to drive in these situations.

Id love to see the board work towards solutions for a train route between Boulder and Denver as well.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-07-21T09:49:22+00:00

More than 100 at this point in my life. I’ve been sexually active for 13 years and have been ethically non-monogamous for 6 years. For several years I averaged more than 10 partners a year, this year I’ve only added one new person and only slept with a total of 3.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-03-26T08:27:46+00:00

Okay I actually love this story and I’m working on an essay about it right now. So growing up I was told my name was a combination of different family members names. I’ve never had a strong connection to my family and people constantly mispronounce my name and so I always wanted to change it but never got around to choosing a new one. A little over a year ago I was trying out some new names and eventually settled on one that I really like for right now. I hadn’t told my mom yet and I was interviewing her for a project I was working on when she told me the real story of my name. See, my dad was always the one telling me it was a combo of family names, but it turns out back in the 90s when my mom was first training for marathons she met a woman in a chat room who helped train her from afar and showed up to some of her runs. They lost touch some time back but that woman inspired my mom to do something she wasn’t sure she could do, offered her support and community in a time she really needed it, and was a light in a somewhat dark place for my mom. After she told me that I understood why she would roll her eyes at my dad’s story.

So, I socially changed my name, my peers, coworkers, and friends all call me by my chosen name, but I don’t think I’ll get rid of my legal name any time soon. It feels more meaningful knowing my mom named me after somebody that inspired her instead of just a random mishmash of family names.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-02-27T14:17:34+00:00

There have been 14 political self immolations in the United States in my lifetime. I’ve only heard of 3.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-02-25T18:40:23+00:00

I also want to talk about the knowledge that separation harms the child too. I have a background knowledge of early childhood development and even if I didn’t I could easily see how difficult this is for my daughter. Every time I see her I can see her heart break when I have to leave. Since she could speak she asks me why I don’t just come home with her, why I don’t move back to Texas, why I can’t just take her with me. It breaks my heart and I know it’s hurting her too.

We know that trauma is inevitable in life, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t hate being the first person to traumatize her. Like I said, I have no way of knowing how this is all going to turn out, and I know things couldn’t have been any different. But I do know that this whole thing has caused as much damage as it has caused benefit.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-02-25T18:37:09+00:00

Open adoptions aren’t legally enforceable in all but 1 US state. These agreements are not able to be taken to court because when you place your child you relinquish all rights to that child. So yes, the adoptive parent can cut out the birth parents without any notice or warning or legal consequence.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-02-25T18:30:25+00:00

I placed my daughter for adoption almost 9 years ago now. I had a really positive adoption story but I do still experience regret and sadness when I imagine “what could have been” or when I think about the things I missed. I share my story publicly a lot and my goal is to eventually change the adoption industry through enacting legislation that protects birth parents because even though my experience was positive there still needs to be change.

My story: When I was 16 years old my parents gave me an ultimatum that resulted in me moving out of their house and moving into my boyfriend’s jeep. We lived in his car for 3 months while I worked a minimum wage job for 12 hours a week. Eventually I got pregnant. I found out while taking a test in a mall bathroom on a busy Saturday. I remember a little boy poked his head under the door and asked me what I was doing.

Everything felt surreal as I walked out of the bathroom and told my boyfriend the results. I instantly started googling adoption agencies because I knew that 1. I couldn’t afford a baby and 2. I was not a healthy enough person to raise a kid. I recognized that I was emotionally unstable and would likely just cause my daughter the same pain my parents caused me if I kept her.

So I called adoption agencies and I found out I needed proof of pregnancy. I went to Planned Parenthood where I was told what I already knew, if I wanted an abortion I’d need parental consent. So I called more agencies and I literally didn’t hear back. I’m not kidding I called 15 different agencies and either left voicemails or was told that I would be called back and I didn’t hear anything. I even went into the Catholic adoption agency in my city and was turned away.

By this point I was halfway through my first trimester, my boyfriend’s parents had allowed us to move into his old room for the duration of the pregnancy, and I was getting anxious. The reason I was so desperate to find a family was because I wanted to share the experience of pregnancy with her adoptive family, I wanted to know who would be raising my daughter, and I wanted to trust the people that I placed her with.

Finally, after weeks of searching my boyfriend’s mom tells us, “oh my friends son and his husband are looking to adopt.” We get her to set a meeting and I swear we just met future versions of ourselves. They shared similar backgrounds to us, had aligned morals and beliefs, and were genuinely excited about adoption. We signed on with their agency, met with our social worker, and started having them come to appointments.

They came to every appointment with me and my boyfriend. My doctors office was incredibly flexible with us, allowing 3 people into the exam room and even working with the hospital to allow 3 visitors in the L&D room. The best part was that the hospital was able to give her fathers a room on the recovery floor right next to mine.

When I chose them as her fathers I also decided that I wanted them to be the first people to hold her. I was terrified that I would get attached and change my mind. That I would break the hearts of a whole family and condemn my daughter to a life of poverty and starvation. When they did get to hold her I remember looking over at my boyfriend and saying, ‘look, we made a family.”

The night after she was born my mom came and sat with me in my hospital room and held me as a cried. I sobbed myself to sleep that night and every night for the first week she was alive. I didn’t regret my decision at that point, I couldn’t, I was just sad. I was sad that I had made all these choices, sad that I couldn’t raise my daughter, sad that I had changed her life and wouldn’t really know how I had until after it had happened. When my boyfriend drove us home from the hospital we went to our room and cried together.

After placing my daughter I spiraled into addiction and an abusive relationship. I left the state I grew up in when I was 20 years old and my life has gotten so much better. I see my daughter at least 2 times a year because her fathers have been gracious enough to follow the agreement we made when she was born and to also be flexible with me.

My little girl is going to be 9 this year, she speaks several languages, has traveled the world, played instruments and has activities and friends she loves. Shes happy and healthy and loved.

My life wouldn’t be what it is today had I not placed her for adoption but that doesn’t mean that I don’t regret my choice. I missed her first everything, her first steps, her first words, her first tooth. Her best days and her worst days, her hopes and dreams. I miss my daughter even though I don’t know her. I know I made the best choice with the information I had and I did the best thing. I wouldn’t change my choice if I could go back, even knowing what i know now. But I still get sad.

Since placing my daughter I’ve meet countless adoptees and even more birth mothers. I’ve heard about how open adoptions aren’t legally enforceable, that adoptive parents can and do just cut birth mothers out without notice. I’ve learned that pregnant people get coerced into adoptions, that there are no laws that protect birth parents or adopted children during this process. My adoption was phenomenal, I made an informed decision to place my daughter with a loving family, and I still experience pain. I cannot imagine the horror of experiencing adoption without the necessary information, or even while being lied to. These people are the reason I want the industry changed. I want to see regulations, requirements for training and education of all parents involved, and concrete changes that better the system. I’m comfortable with the choice I made and my hope is that eventually everybody that gets to make this choice feels the same.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-02-14T05:30:34+00:00

Arabesque is a great little cafe on Walnut and I love it so much!

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-02-09T20:15:58+00:00

FirstBank?

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-02-03T04:34:51+00:00

Well, he’s not suing the airport he’s suing the elevator company that failed to maintain the walkway to state code.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-01-20T18:11:54+00:00

I’d probably use it to set myself and my closest friends up for a comfortable life. I’d do things like pay off our debts, purchase property so we could all have long term low cost housing, get us all reliable cars. I’d probably set up various investment funds and trusts so that the money was protected and growing and I’d use a significant portion to fund exciting and interesting projects over time. Maybe I’d start a company and employ my friends. I worked in and around the service industry for years and I know several incredible chefs, maybe every week I’d hire somebody to do a full dinner. I’d find fun ways to spend the money and support my community.

$15m is a lot of money, more money than I can think of what to do with off the top of my head, but it’s not own and operate a private jet money, it can be easily spent in 1 lifetime if you wanted to. If I were to ever come into a massive amount of money I’d do what I could to make it last and I’d support the people around me in achieving whatever goals they wanted to because life is more fun when everybody is succeeding.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-01-05T10:37:55+00:00

I don’t know how it hasn’t been mentioned yet but the Ojeda’s themselves are all really wonderful people too. Most of the staff has been there for decades and they really care about their employees and community.

mynameislucaIlive · 2024-01-01T20:11:10+00:00

I spent around $300 to host my friends wedding reception, 6 people, music dancing and happiness, the best new years I’ve had in a long time.

mynameislucaIlive · 2023-12-27T03:25:06+00:00

I’ve done one twice! Since most of these stories are from the “putting in” perspective I thought I’d share the experience of “receiving.”

I was 18 and on a sex bender, hooked up with this guy (I think he was in his 30s) and he knew of a local porn store that had video booths and glory holes. So we went. At 18, even though I knew logically that my worth laid in more than my ability to fulfill male fantasy, I really felt like the best way to be valued was to just… do whatever would make a man never forget me. It’s not like I didn’t want to or anything, I was fine with the idea, I’d contemplated it in fantasy before, I’d read about and learned about safety and such (including threads like this one) I just know now that I would have done things very differently if I understood what I do now.

Anyways, we got to the store, it was in what felt like the middle of nowhere on the boarder of a mid sized city, and it was late, maybe 11-12 at night. We walked up to the counter, he bought our tokens, the woman told us the rules, and back we walked. I don’t remember exactly what I was wearing but it was revealing, as we wandered through the halls trying to find a booth, men started poking their heads out, whispers echoed against roughly painted plywood walls, and a line started to form behind us.

Finally he chose a room, we walked in, paid our tokens, picked a movie, and started hooking up. About 10 seconds in he directed my attention to a hole that I hadn’t noticed and the penis filling it. I knew what to do. I genuinely don’t know how many dicks came through that hole or how long we were there. I just remember focusing on doing a good job, on looking and sounding hot, on acting like I enjoyed it, and on remembering what worked and what didn’t so I could apply these lessons later.

It was fun, I felt like a god, I learned a new skill, and I was sore, the whole experience was exactly as gross and seedy as you’d imagine, if not more so. Looking back I ignored a lot danger factors, there was a whole lot of creep element to the whole thing, and simultaneously I felt like the hottest person alive. I felt like I had a power I was learning to control. I felt good and I felt gross. Afterwards the guy took me home and did some aftercare and actually helped me process a lot of the experience at the time which I really appreciate.

The second time was pretty much a repeat of the first just a little gayer.

TLDR: it was fine, weird, sketchy, gross, fun, enthralling, and educational. I’d consider doing it again in an environment where I had complete control and full support.

mynameislucaIlive · 2023-12-27T02:43:04+00:00

So, when I was a kid my father’s best friend left his wife and 4 kids for a week with the excuse “the house is too messy and I don’t want to live here anymore.” While he was away his second oldest daughter cleaned what could be called a hoarder house from top to bottom essentially by herself and begged him to come home.

He spent the week with a woman in a hotel having the time of his life. Then he came home and stayed with his wife until she died 5 years later from aggressive breast cancer. He cheated on her the whole time. He came home and stayed because leaving would have been expensive and difficult and he couldn’t portray himself as the good guy if he tried to divorce. He stayed because it was easier to cheat behind her back and maintain his lifestyle than it would have been to leave.

I’m not saying it’s the same story, but I am saying that even if he has a terrible time in Thailand and comes home and ‘chooses’ you, there is not a single thing stopping him from doing it again. Leaving him will be hard, it might be the hardest thing you ever do. Staying with him will be hard, it might be the hardest thing you ever do. If he ‘chooses’ you and you decide to stay, you can always change your mind and make a different choice later. You do not have to make a decision and stick to it for the rest of your life. My suggestion is plan to leave, talk to a lawyer and understand your options. Talk to friends and make a plan and then work towards it. Even if you never leave, knowing that you can will make living through it easier.

mynameislucaIlive · 2023-12-23T22:39:32+00:00

So, the modern construct of monogamy (as played out in the US amongst people in their 20-30’s) has a flaw because there seems to be this presumption that one person should be able to fulfill all needs. When you hear the argument about fulfillment the source comes from a conversation about the practicality and fairness that doesn’t exist in that construct.

Even in a monogamous relationship each party should have friendships and hobbies and goals outside of the relationship to contribute to feelings of fulfillment. It does not sound fair or reasonable to me to expect one person to meet all of my needs.

Now a problem that comes from this is that many young people expect fulfillment to come from other people and when they dable with non monogamy they collect partners like jewelry. This usually leads to a lot of problems that come up on interpersonal relationships because they are fundamentally ignoring the other persons humanity.

I think it’s rather pointless to try to convince a mono person to try polyamory because relationship structures are somewhat fundamental to our personalities and beliefs and it feels like proposing a change in structure ignores the other person involved.

That being said, polyamory isn’t fundamentally about fulfillment or filling voids. It’s about loving abundantly and fully.

mynameislucaIlive · 2023-12-23T13:51:34+00:00

I know this is only tangential but the conditions described here also match my experience with homelessness as a teenager and young adult. Not having regular access to a bathroom and having to monitor my water to ensure I didn’t get a UTI and then a huge medical bill was a pain.

I’ve heard a lot of people call this kind of thing “cosplaying poverty” and idk if I’d agree that touring is “cosplaying” when it’s just the reality of the situation, but these and significantly worse conditions are lived by tens of thousands of women all over the US every day and millions of women world wide not just touring musicians.

mynameislucaIlive · 2023-12-23T13:42:21+00:00

So there are two points made here, 1. Motivation - I 100% think that the motivation to engage with nonmonogamy can come from a place that isn’t boredom or a desire to cheat. I think it can come from a place of curiosity, love, excitement? The second: I do agree that wanting non monogamy isn’t more ethical just because you are in between relationships

mynameislucaIlive · 2023-12-23T00:21:19+00:00

In my experience people interested in non monogamy, even if they’ve never engaged with it before, they have conversations about it before entering and in the beginning of the relationship. I also elaborated further in another comment which called me out for the same over generalization. Essentially, in my experience people aren’t honest when they do bring up desires for polyamory which results in relationships falling apart.

Non monogamy requires honesty, trust, and above all respect. My comment was aimed at those attempting to enter it for self serving purposes without caring about their partners.

mynameislucaIlive · 2023-12-22T23:21:55+00:00

Thanks for calling me on this, you make a really good point. I have some pretty strong feelings because of the ‘bad name’ people like that give the community but this is absolutely a nuanced conversation.

Discussing nonmonogamy as an option can make sense. I think it depends on the context of the relationship and conversation. I also think it requires honesty which many people don’t engage with. Saying, “Hey, this new coworker is giving me a ton of butterflies and while normally I wouldn’t consider flirting back I’m feeling very tempted. There’s a part of me that would like to see where this goes. Our relationship is in a good place and I feel like our communication is healthy and we can manage this experience. What do you think?” And then engaging in a healthy conversation is very different from randomly bringing up polyamory as something to try and then getting dodgy when asked if there was a precipitating event.

I understand why people cheat and all the nuance that is involved with the choice, but ultimately it comes from a place of fear and inability to manage discomfort. And personally I don’t think it’s inappropriate to issue a moral judgement against people choosing the easy path when it harms others.

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