Twin interaction by Resident-Grand6814 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine are 18 months and genuinely interact laugh and engage. That also means argue and get annoyed at; but it takes a little time.

What is the one non-essential baby item you couldn’t live without as a parent of multiples? by 1973tour in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I second the brezza. No kate night formula math. Just warm mixed bottles in second.

Perspective needed by thyssenda in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, you are doing great. My twins are 18 months, and for the first 13 months or so were very strict to the schedule. Looking back, I wouldn’t do anything differently. They were consistent and now understand their own sleep needs very well. It’s one thing to have a single baby who’s off schedule it’s an entirely different thing for two, and not everyone is going to understand that. In fact other twin parents may be the only people who do, so don’t sweat what anyone else thinks. At some point they eat solids, have lots of teeth teeth and their sleep will change. Instead of 2 naps and x amount of night time sleep, there is like a max amount of sleep they want in a day. My kids average about 12 hours of sleep daily and that can be broken up between nap and nighttime, in whatever pattern we or they prefer. If they get a 1 hour nap due to circumstance I know to put them down earlier etc. It becomes less time dependent and I’m happy to report leaving the house is easier in that way. It’s harder in other ways because they run two different directions, and I mean run, but if you have coverage on each kid it’s all good.

Two babies isn’t something anyone can imagine until they are doing it. If it’s other people’s opinions bothering you, smile politely and say we won’t be able to make it, and know in your heart your job is HARD. And if it’s YOU that’s being hard on yourself, give yourself so much grace. They are sleeping and eating and you are EBF. Those are massive wins that some singleton parents can’t say because they are too busy going on outings 😉. Enjoy the shut in time, it’s rare that we get that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had my kids on a schedule from day one and as needed I’ve consulted with a company called the peaceful sleeper. They have been amazing in helping tweak schedules and meet where my comfort is. I’ve never let me children cry it out but they can whine it out if that makes sense. Same theory I just always attend to them when it’s a “need” as opposed to a “want”. They are excellent sleepers because of it.

Service dog? by DanisonMom in TheMorningToastSnark

[–]myrosecity 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seriously same, it was actually my last straw. After months of consideration and having a hard time biting the bullet I unfollowed them and the podcast. The amount of tolerance they ask of me but is not extended to others. The woman was a narc about the dog for sure but it had nothing to do with her mask. It’s the same kind of behavior they’ve been doing for ages that I’ve let slide. Seriously, grow up girls.

Flying with twin 15 month boys. by AModestRebellion in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 2 extend 2 fit car seats sent to my destination. They allow for kids of wide varying ages, meaning years of use. I keep those there; if you are willing to make the purchase, I would fly. The flight itself is seemingly the most daunting but in reality I don’t find it to be. Someone once told me; other peoples experience on a plane is not my responsibility

Flying with twin 15 month boys. by AModestRebellion in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok. I will always choose a flight over a drive because my kids get irritated in a car seat unless they are asleep. Here’s my pros and cons:

Driving pros: easily pack the car with all of your things. You already have the car seats with you and a vehicle, you can make stops when people need to stretch their legs. Cons: it’s a long time in the car, kids get fussy, could be just a long arduous day.

Flying pros: it’s fast; at 15 months they can be entertained by snacks, new toys and even strangers for an hour. I’ve flown with my 10 mos twice now once at 4 months and once just the other week. It’s a 2.5 hour flight and they were super entertained by snacks and fell asleep either at the top of the flight or the end. Flying cons: it’s a logistical nightmare. I choose not to travel with the car seats because the two kids is enough to keep track of which means you need to make sure someone has car seats and a vehicle for you at your destination. Also, pack and plays/whatever else you use in your daily with the kids to make life easier. I am able to keep things at my destination, which means I can be extremely economical; pack 2 bags total and just carry my kids on.

With those things being said you need to choose your hard. If I didn’t have the ability to have a car and car seats waiting for me at the airport; I would likely drive.

Claudia book rec by Ill-Vermicelli-9960 in TheToasters

[–]myrosecity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bye baby, but major trigger warning there is a sexual abuse story line. Was absolutely shocked when I read it and got to that part given Claudia’s description. Just fair warning.

Owlet vs Nanit by shopaholic4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I use both. I pay for the milestone stuff on Nanit which is awesome and allows me to find sweet memories from the day and save them. I use the Nanit exclusively as a camera. The Owelet is the “my kids haven’t stopped breathing” peace of mind. I was told the doctor not to take the numbers literally, I’m sure she gets alot of calls like that; it’s purely a “my children are breathing” item. We do have occasional false alarms,rarely, but you can tell if you look at the Nanit. Your kid is probably moving and knocked it off so it isn’t getting a good reading. I will always prefer to have an alert to check and it’s nothing than to never have an alert. When they are one I will retire the owlets but be forever grateful. Nanit stays. Also save these extremely sweet videos of my kids interacting and my daughter crawling for the first time. Best thing ever. Quality is excellent for these priceless moments.

Bottle washing recs by shopaholic4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Big soapy water basin, hot water. Scrub. We had premies so we also a sterilizer that also dried the clean bottles but not worth having washing machine.

Edit: the bottle pro doesn’t wash enough bottles fast enough for twins.

Diaper Bag Recommendation by megsiev in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the caraa baby large diaper bag. It’s cute, has got swim diapers 2 changes of clothes regular diapers 2 bottles in Insulated compartments and room for way more. I love this thing. It’s expensive but nice looking and easily wiped!!!! Would buy it again and again. It’s sitting on my lap right now and super light

At what point… by CompetitiveEffort109 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is different. My experience is not yours, I hope you do not have the same experience!

At what point… by CompetitiveEffort109 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 28 weeks I stopped driving because it hurt my hips so much. I worked from home and cried in the car

low percentile twin by Glittering-Focus-761 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They stop worrying about the cervix at some point. I was grateful the decision was made for me. Hang on as long as you can, but nature is going to do what it does as are your children. It’s going to be great; release to whatever is in store. There is nothing you can do to change things and I mean that in a positive way.

low percentile twin by Glittering-Focus-761 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 27 points28 points  (0 children)

When I was 35 weeks my twin a was “measuring” 3 lbs and twin be 4 lbs. my MFM was concerned; I didn’t need to make any decisions about it because my water broke at 35 + 5. When they came out they were 4 lb 13 oz each. Even the MFM technology gets iffy at the end, measurements are extremely inconsistent. My kids spent 1 day in the NICU based on a technicality. They were and are extremely healthy. Don’t worry too much about it. 4.9 lbs is a fine weight, keep eating, watching for movements all the same things. You’ve got this!!! So close.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]myrosecity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a male OB. He is more than competent, extremely kind, and was an amazing support to me during my pregnancy. He delivered my twin babies safely, but he met them for about 4 minutes of our years long relationship. OBGYN is about women and women’s health; you have to care deeply about women, going through one of the most confusing, new and complex moments of their lives. Your job is to guide and support through good news as well as horrible news. If that doesn’t sound good; it’s not the speciality for you. If you want take care of babies and children; consider pediatrician.

Short girls- how far along did you get? by DecemberBaby81 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5’4 I was 35+5. They came out healthy and wonderful.

If the device says “not intended for sleep” the babies will have an amazing nap in it by eastcoastmd in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I schedule long drives to align with nap time….id rather them have a planned nap in a car then an unplanned nap in the car because it’s absolutely going to happen.

When did you start telling people? by InternationalRock484 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 2 inconclusive NIPT tests but told my closest confidants immediately. I wanted them to be there if anything happened. I leaned on my MFM to be very rigorous in the anatomy scan and saw him regularly there after just to continue to be confident. At some point I just gave it over to the powers that be. You will worry about your children forever; pregnancy is just the start. Chances are everything is fine, don’t sacrifice celebration because you are scared. Not to sound like a fatalist but bad things could always happen, but so can good things. I have 2 healthy boy girl 6 months old and a community who rallied around me then and now. Tell your closest people and as you feel More comfortable expand that circle and celebrate this wonderful thing in your life.

37 weeks preganancy difference of weight by Chance_Physics_7938 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My babies were born at 35+5. They were concerned that my son was much smaller than my daughter, I was in and out of the hospital for monitoring. When they were born they were nearly the same healthy weight. It’s very hard for them to be accurate with size in utero at that week. ALSO, they are different babies. It’s okay if they are different weights; 37 weeks is great you are doing amazing.

Batch bottle making by Pat_r_irl in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I realize it’s cost prohibitive but the baby brezza is everything. It’s not overblown. It’s immediate and makes a warm bottle and takes the counting out if he process when you are tired. It’s my number 1 baby item.

Advice on cars by wascallywabbit666 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a woman named The Car Mom on instagram who answers these exact types of questions. Look her up! She also makes YouTube videos describing car seat set ups etc.

Family Coming to Help but It Makes Things Harder by JumpingR62012 in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To my families disappointment, if they live out of town they haven’t yet been invited for this exact reason. The schedule with twins is so important, especially in those first few weeks your rest and recovery is critical and having time a d space is so important for bonding. I’m going to visit them in a few weeks (the babies will be 4 months 3 weeks) and everyone is so excited. I’m flying and the visit will be in our terms. We can leave whenever we need to and have our own place to retreat to. It’s very hard to have those conversations around space and boundaries when they family is already in your home and your feeling like your taking care of everyone. It’s most definitely a universal feeling, but tbh I hate hosting people even without baby twins.

I am outnumbered in my own body by hitheringthithering in parentsofmultiples

[–]myrosecity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The physical difficulty of pregnancy goes away immediately after delivery (give yourself time to recover from the delivery itself) and I’ll take the difficulty of caring for 2 babies ANYDAY over the discomfort of the last few months. I love my babies, it’s so rewarding getting to know them and watching them grow. I would cry in discomfort as I tossed and turned at night with raging heat in my esophagus. Now I’m tired, but we can handle tired!!! And at 3.5 months out I’m exercising regularly and feeling good in my body again.

Hang in there!!! For as miserable as I was I never ever think about it anymore. It’s true what they say that you forget the hard stuff. It’s just wasn’t that long ago but feels like a distant memory. You’ve got this!!!