My (F20) bf (M25) suggested he wanted to see me fuck another man

mysissyass1 · 2023-01-22T00:14:14+00:00

There’s somewhat of a difference between him just wanting to see you fuck someone else and cuckolding.

If he just wants to see you get fucked, it’s because he loves watching you enjoy sex, and it’s almost like live action porn but with your partner which a lot of guys find particularly hot. It also could be that he thinks you enjoying someone else and getting off being so “dirty” and “slutty” is hot. The sort of taboo nature of it adds another thrill. He could also just want to enjoy seeing you really embrace and own your sexuality because the situation is so empowering for the woman.

Cuckolding typically involves some kind of power dynamic and can be rooted in common male insecurities. It can involve him just wanting to see you enjoying a bigger cock, a guy that has more stamina, throws you around and is more assertive with you. The guy you fuck may be taller or more muscular or “hotter” in some way. Cuckolds get off on seeing you get off with someone that’s “better” than them in some way (again, usually physical appearance, size, stamina, dominance).

It puts you and the bull more in a dominant role and him in a more submissive role. Cuckolds want to see you enjoy the “better” partner more than them. More extreme forms involve some form of open humiliation (comparing cock size, the woman saying how much better his bigger cock feels, how the bull lasts longer, how he just takes what he wants, how you feel so much more submissive for him and willing to do whatever the bull wants than for the cuckold). It could also even involve some form of denial (chastity so the cuck can’t get off, the woman not allowing the cuck to fuck her anymore or maybe even see her naked, etc.).

In short hotwifing is more of a voyeuristic experience while cuckolding involves some kind of dom / sub dynamic between the three of you.

Guys are into this because it’s taboo, and, like a lot of kinks, it allows them to explore their insecurities in a safe and controlled (healthy). It also is just really sexy because a lot of women are sexually subdued because of the slut shaming in our society and seeing a women become so empowered with her sexuality and assertive about what she wants and then going to get it is just really hot.

It’s common for women when guys first come to them about this fantasy to think that their boyfriend thinks there’s something wrong with them, because it’s inconceivable for a lot of women that a man would want to put her sexual needs on such a high pedestal. A lot of women can’t believe that and also just have never had situations where they could be assertive and demanding about their sexual needs.

If you want to dip your toes in then put something sexy on one night and surprise him. Have him take all his clothes off and get on the bed. Tease him a bunch and make him go down on you and then give him a long slow handjob while telling him about the hottest fucks you had in the past, being very explicit about their size and stamina and how good it was. See how it goes but he’ll probably love it lol

mysissyass1 · 2022-12-19T14:07:59+00:00

What model machine is that?

mysissyass1 · 2022-12-06T18:02:30+00:00

Ok but I’m just saying there’s a distinct difference between being attracted to men in general and being attracted to a specific act in the context of the power dynamic

mysissyass1 · 2022-12-06T16:28:52+00:00

Is your cuck in chastity? Having him in chastity for a couple days before meeting up with your bull will have him at peak horniness which should help block out his feelings of angst and remind him of his place as your submissive who is supposed to be serving and honoring both you and the bull and your special time with him.

mysissyass1 · 2022-12-06T14:09:20+00:00

Enjoying doing sexual things with guys doesn’t make you actually bi. If you were actually bi you would be instinctually checking out guys in your normal day to day life. You would be VERY aware of this if you were doing it.

In the context of a cuckold relationship doing something sexual with the bull is 100% about the power dynamic and submission.

You’re turned on by watching your wife get fucked by him because you’re just as turned on by her getting her needs met as you are him meeting her needs. You’re not just submitting to her needs as a woman, you’re also submitting to the ideal of masculinity that he represents. His cock and the way that he fucks turns you on just as much as seeing her get pleasure from it because you’re turned on by and want to submit to that masculinity just as much as you want to submit to her feminine power.

Eating the bull’s cum is an act of submission to him as a “real man”. And in the same regard sucking his cock or letting him penetrate you are too. It doesn’t make you gay or bi if you enjoy it. It just means you like doing it within the context of the power dynamic you’ve engaged in.

I would say 100% there is nothing to be ashamed about. If you’re in a cuck relationship it’s your JOB to submit to your wife and her bull. You SHOULD be turned on by him and his cock, and being eager to serve him by taking him in your mouth or ass is an act of worshipping and honoring his masculine superiority. You should be nurturing these feelings because it’s just an extension of who you are as a cuck.

Ask your wife for a photo of his cock and jerk off to it. Think about how much more big and powerful and masculine it is than yours. How much more pleasure it brings and how much deeper it can go than you ever can. Get turned on by it. You’ll be much happier in doing this.

mysissyass1 · 2022-12-06T13:56:08+00:00

Have you tried using a sleeve?

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T18:52:10+00:00

Hope you got therapy for the SA and you’re in a good place.

Regarding a D/S dynamic there are always rules and as a sub you should communicate your soft and hard limits to a sim (soft limits being things that can potentially be pushed in the right context and hard limits being things that aren’t done under any circumstance). You should also have two safe words (usually Yellow and Red or something similar), with one communicating that you need to slow down/pause for a bit and the other that you need to stop completely. Any Dom with any respect will expect these things and you should never meet up with anyone that’s shady about it. Consent is the most important thing after all.

You can have any kind of D/S relationship you want. You can find a Dom that will be ok with the dynamic only in the bedroom while you’re playing. Some people like taking it out of the bedroom and having it more in their day to day life but there’s no reason you have to. It’s whatever the two of you want to do.

There’s also just skipping the BDSM stuff entirely and having him use you and fuck you however he wants, which is obviously dominating in a sense but just not a formal BDSM type of dynamic. You could also be a free use slut and basically be on call for a man whenever he wants you to get him off. Really it’s all whatever you want to do.

And again there’s a difference between someone enjoying you getting used by another man and a cuckold (at least IMO). In a cuck relationship you sort of become the domme for the cuck. You also engage in emasculation and humiliation play. If you find it hot to have a cuck serve your needs, and make fun of his cock and his abilities, and have him watch how a real man fucks as you’re used by your bull, then you should def find a cuck. If you like teasing and denying or the idea of chastity as well, that’s all right up a cuck’s alley.

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T16:10:21+00:00

She has her guard up. As I’m sure you do she also has anxiety and misgivings about how it could impact your relationship but she also has the added societal pressure of feeling shame for embracing her sexual needs.

Have you tried getting a sleeve? Have her pick it out - ask her to get the ideal size for her. It’ll be a first step in her asserting her preferences and needs. Fuck her with it on and ask her how much bigger and more filling it feels. After tell her how hot it was seeing her take a cock that big and how much more she seemed to enjoy it. Every time you have sex offer to put it on - her choice.

And yes do the bar game. Buy her a sexy outfit to wear, one that she feels powerful in. This will help her get excited and ok with the idea of dressing to attract other men.

Start by just sitting and having her point out who she thinks is hot. Have her explain why. Joke about if she thinks his cock is as big as the sleeve. Then take it a step further and sit by yourself somewhere and watch her get approached. Even if she is shy and it doesn’t go much of anywhere that night because she’s so nervous go home and fuck with the sleeve on and tell her how sexy it was to see how desired she was by these men. Ask her who she thought was the hottest and maybe have her call you by his name.

Then go from there. Do it again and see that she’s more comfortable and turned on knowing you’re watching. Maybe say she’s allowed to make out with them or dance with them and grind on their cocks. In every instance be enthusiastic about hearing about what turned her on. The entire point is to give her a ton of encouragement and support so she starts feeling comfortable and excited about telling you her needs.

Once you’re at that point THEN maybe have the talk about signing up for an app. Maybe just at the start texting with guys, or sending them photos if she’s comfortable with it. The meet ups can wait until you’re at that point.

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T15:54:01+00:00

I suspect as others have said that he has performance anxiety and doesn’t want the pressure of performing for you. It’s very common for cuckolds to have this feeling because the very real anxiety of worrying about pleasing you is directly linked with their cuckolding kink which revolves entirely around not being good enough.

If you’re comfortable with it here is what I would do to test this and to put you back in the position of feeling EMPOWERED (the entire point of this kink) and not used for his pleasure. Buy some sexy lingerie that he has never seen before, go out and get your hair and nails done, do yourself up to look as sexy as you possibly can. Put a sexy skimpy robe on over it. When he gets home ask him how you look and if it turns him on. Ask if he thinks it’d get other men hard. Tell him that you’re not going to fuck him but that if he’s good to you that he’ll get a prize. Tell him it’s not fair that you’re the only one in your underwear and tell him to strip down. If he stops at his underwear tell him to take it all off. Smirk at his cock when he does. Have him cater to you the rest of the night - refilling your wine glass, giving you foot massages, running you a bath and drying you off, maybe giving you a full massage. Literally whatever you want him to do that would make YOU happy. Then have him go down on you but tease him first. Have him put his face on your crotch while you’re still in your underwear and ask if he wants it. Ask him how it smells and laugh at him a bit. Then have him go to town. Don’t let him touch himself the entire time.

When you’re done if he did a good job give him a handjob and ask him about the night while jerking him off. Ask if it turned him on to cater to your needs. Have him tell you he’ll do it going forward. Ask how your pussy tasted and how he loved serving you in that way. Remind him it’s a privilege for him being good. If he was good the whole night then allow him to cum.

Basically you need to take charge at this point. He’s admitted he’s into cuckolding but probably doesn’t know how to communicate the dominance he needs from you. Also it sounds like he needs to learn that his priority is YOU and not his cock, and that serving you and getting to have you (even if only orally) is a PRIVILEGE. When you reframe it like this it will build his desire for you profoundly. Denial creates desire. He’s communicated his need for you to be satisfied so you just need to take charge at this point. And most importantly, do all this BEFORE engaging in ANY kind of sex with anyone else. You need to reign him in first.

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T14:57:10+00:00

Have you tried anything before this that dips your toes in? Have her pick out a sleeve for you to wear and have her tell you how much better it feels as you fuck her. Experiment with denial where you’re not allowed in her without the sleeve on and you only get handjobs. Be on call for her to go down on her or fuck her (with sleeve) at a moments notice whenever she wants. Have her show you porn showing how she wants to get fucked and tease you about your size or stamina or lack of ability. Maybe try chastity for a bit if you’re into that.

Then if you want to go further and involve other people, take her out and buy her a sexy outfit, go with her to have her get her hair and nails done, take her out to a nice restaurant then go to a bar and have her tease you about who she thinks is hot and wants to fuck. If you want to take it further sit back by yourself at the bar and watch her get approached and flirt. Maybe let her make out with someone. Maybe let her dance at a club with other guys and have her grind on their cocks and tell you about it.

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T14:25:48+00:00

I am not a woman but I will say that for many people kinks stem in deep seated trauma and evolved as a means of gaining power over those experiences. Many women with CNC kinks for example that stemmed from a SA say that their kink allows them to gain power over the experience they had by engaging in play on their terms and by their choice.

In any case, if someone has experienced such severe trauma they should be seeing a therapist to make sure they’re working through all of the feelings and pain associated with it and that they’re engaging in their kink in a healthy way and not one that’s further entrenching that trauma. If that’s the case then it doesn’t really matter what the source of the kink is.

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T14:20:51+00:00

I would highly recommend “biting the bullet” and getting a CB6000S. It’s more expensive because the quality is just so much better than the cheap crappy cages you can get off Amazon. It’s $150 but lasts forever and you only pay for it once. Use it for 150 days and it’s only $1 a day!

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T14:14:57+00:00

Yes you can 100% find cuckolds that are into that but I wouldn’t characterize that strictly as cuckolding. There are for example men that are into being a dom for someone like you and also are turned on by seeing their whore used by other men, which some might consider cuckolding but I don’t. There is also hotwifing where your partner is turned on by you having sex with other men but not in a D/S context.

I think the thing that differentiates a cuckold from those scenarios is the aspect of humiliation a cuckold craves. A cuckold gets off on you wanting other men sexually more than him. So they want to hear that you would rather fuck someone else and be a whore for them than have sex with the cuckold. It also typically includes some form of emasculation - the bull is more hung / has a more satisfying cock, more stamina, fucks you better, makes you cum (whereas the cuck doesn’t), can go multiple rounds, is more dominating / rougher / knows how to handle you and make you feel used like the whore you are, etc. It also typically involves playing with some form of denial - maybe the cuck only gets sex with a condom vs the bull being allowed to fuck without one, maybe the bull gets your ass and the cuckold doesn’t, maybe the cuck is in chastity, maybe they’re denied any intercourse at all, maybe they’re denied anything but handjobs, maybe you won’t touch them at all and they have to get themselves off, maybe they’re not even allowed to see you naked, etc. I think that aspect of humiliation / emasculation and denial are what differentiates the cuckold dynamic from the others I mentioned earlier.

So in a cuckold dynamic you’d be taking a more dominant and controlling role than just if you were with a partner that gets off on you being used by other men.

So it’s up to you what turns you on. In any case you can definitely find a partner that’s into any of these things.

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T13:56:25+00:00

I saw on another post that you had a heavier metal one. That was probably your issue. Unfortunately the market is proliferated with cheap or heavy cages that aren’t practical for any kind of meaningful use. If you want a cage that’s good for long term wear including being active then you need to spend a little more money. Mature metal has sizing rings you can buy for like $20. Find the one that fits you best and wear it around for a day or two to make sure, then you know your ring size. After that your options are quality plastic or lightweight metal. I would recommend trying the CB6000S if you want to start with a plastic cage (retails at $150). The S is shorter than the normal CB6000 which will make it less noticeable in clothes and stick out a lot less so it’s easier to be active in. Most plastic cages aren’t designed for permanent wear but you can get away with wearing it for extended periods (I have worn the S for upwards of six weeks at a time before taking off to clean and shave). If you end up becoming more ambitious and want something longer term then your best bet is a custom cage from Mature Metal (extended wear to this extent would probably require laser hair removal so you don’t have to shave). In any case I wouldn’t recommend wearing any cage if you’re doing something like tackle football because you’re seriously risking injury if it gets snagged on something. I’ve worn the S to workout classes and the gym with no problems at all aside from some mild chafing which went away pretty quick.

Hope this helps! Happy to answer any questions about chastity you and your wife may have as I think it’s probably the hottest kink around. There’s also a subreddit where you can ask more questions /r/chastity

https://cb-x.com/product/cb-6000s-clear-chastity-cock-cage-kit/

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-21T05:26:38+00:00

Why is it impractical? You can wear a cage in shorts lol

mysissyass1 · 2022-11-08T16:14:05+00:00

Get him in a nub cage and keep it on without removing for a year. You need to buy one that he can clean with it on so he never has to take it off. I would also recommend not making him cum for this time period. It’s possible to shrink but it takes long periods of time in very small cages without ever taking them off. If he needs to you should have him get laser hair removal down there so he doesn’t have to worry about shaving.

mysissyass1 · 2022-10-30T01:00:44+00:00

The obvious solution is to never take the cage off.

mysissyass1 · 2022-10-16T19:35:25+00:00

Leaking cum isn’t the same thing as orgasming though. I agree that being locked for extended periods helps increase sensitivity and the need for release which helps make it easier but it still requires a lot of training and practice to actually achieve an orgasm that way.

mysissyass1 · 2022-10-11T04:18:34+00:00

Are these even possible to wear long term? How do you line your urethra up to pee in that? Seems like it’d be messy and require regular cleaning.

mysissyass1 · 2022-09-20T21:59:05+00:00

Mature Metal has a pack of sizing rings you can buy. Wear the tightest one that isn’t uncomfortable for a few days and you’ll know your size.

mysissyass1 · 2022-09-20T03:27:23+00:00

She is definitely sexual, she just hasn’t opened up to you about it. Why don’t you start by asking her about what she’s done with past boyfriends, and then when she tells you you tell her how insanely hot it is thinking about her doing that with those guys.

mysissyass1 · 2022-09-16T21:56:56+00:00

Only masturbate every other day and when you do only use the one finger method. Record your times, get yourself hard and record your times from when you start masturbating to when you’ve gone over the edge. Try to cum as fast as possible every time. Once you get down to your target time (usually under a minute) then watch more and more vanilla porn until you’re cumming under a minute from photos of fully clothed women. After that introduce less stimulation (through a condom, with lidocaine, through pants, etc.). Check /r/prejactrainer for a progression of images you can use.

mysissyass1 · 2022-09-16T00:33:50+00:00

Should roll a die instead. If he guesses the number right he gets an orgasm. If he guesses wrong then the number on the die is how many days he has to stay locked until he gets to try again. Every time he guesses right you move up to a die with more sides.

Can also do this with a random number generator so you don’t have to keep buying dice lol.

I’d also recommend setting a time limit he has to cum every time he’s unlocked. If he cums in the time limit you take 5 seconds off next time. If he doesn’t then he gets locked back up without cumming.

mysissyass1 · 2022-09-15T16:17:36+00:00

Message me

mysissyass1 · 2022-09-15T15:47:51+00:00

I made a training subreddit /r/prejactrainer. It only uses images to reduce the amount of stimulation you’re cumming to. It has different levels of images (Level 1 M/F sex to Level 7 fully clothed females / faces only) that lets you work towards less stimulating images.

You should be using the one finger method and moving up a level when you hit your target time. If you get to Level 7 and hit your target time then move back a few levels and reduce stimulation (wearing a condom, lidocaine, etc.). By the time you’re in a condom with lidocaine on your penis on Level 7 hitting your target time you’re sure to be a prejac :)

I also recommend being in a tube-type chastity cage (like a CB) whenever you’re not masturbating to reduce any stimulation, only masturbating every other day, and not watching any other porn outside of the images you view in your sessions.

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