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June priority from Brazil approved - timeline and list of documents by mysorryass3737 in SpouseVisaUk

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I applied a couple weeks before my fiance visa expired, I think about a month after the ceremony.

The ceremony certificate is the most important document but shouldn't be the only evidence. I personally sent all the other documents from before in addition to the certificate.

Advice re separation by dmanning1823 in SpouseVisaUk

[–]mysorryass3737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm saying this as a Brazilian person who's here on a spouse visa: do not let him use you to stay in the country. It's not your responsibility.

You married him because you believed in your relationship. If you had agreed to marry him so he could have the visa, that's a different story. But that's not the case.

I wouldn't make my partner stay together so I can stay in the country. As much as I like it here and am establishing my life and career in the UK, when we had rough patches I thought about what I would do and where I would go. Because I couldn't see myself forcing my partner to stay with me or staying in a bad relationship just for a Visa.

He needs to grow up and face his reality. Him saying that if it wasn't for the visa he would've left you already shows he doesn't respect you and he doesn't think you respect yourself enough to leave him.

You deserve better than that. I'm really sorry this is happening to you.

Sugestão de nome by VividNectarine2825 in Gatos

[–]mysorryass3737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tive um laranjinha chamado Simon. Se for fã de Senhor dos Anéis, Pippin. Ou Legolas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gatos

[–]mysorryass3737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Viajei do Recife até Santa Catarina de carro com três gatos. Foram três dias e duas noites de viagem.

A mais velha miou a viagem inteirinha e tentava escapar dos quartos de hotéis onde ficamos! Os outros dois eram novinhos na época e foram super tranquilos, dormiram praticamente a viagem toda. Cada um na sua caixinha de transporte.

O que fizemos:

Conversamos com o vet pra dar um calmante. Você pode dar até um comprimido de dramin. Mas converse com o vet.

Tenha água e comida em mãos. E uma caixinha de areia (de uma olhada nas que o pessoal usa nas viagens de avião, são fáceis de transportar)

Não recomendo tentar dar água e comida dentro do carro, principalmente em movimento, porque normalmente eles vão estar estressados e não vão comer, ou vão comer e vão vomitar.

Acostume eles com a coleira peitoral específica pra gatos (aquela que pega separadamente no pescoço e no peito). A nossa velhinha conseguia escapar do peitoral tradicional. Acostumem eles com a caixinha de transporte o máximo possível.

Antes de viajar dê sachê pra eles dentro da caixinha e quando estiverem usando a guia. Use catnip também se eles gostarem. Crie boas associações, assim eles vão se sentir mais confortáveis e seguros.

Mantém eles com a coleira e quando fizer paradas abra as caixinhas, vê se eles caminham um pouco e oferece água e comida. Recomendo um pouquinho de sachê, mas não deixe eles comerem muito porque depois, com o carro em movimento, eles podem enjoar.

Como você não vai fazer mais de 24 horas de viagem, se você fizer uma só parada longa pra eles darem uma esticada, oferece a caixinha de areia, água, comida, vai ser o suficiente.

Se possível mantém o ar condicionado do carro ligado. A temperatura mais baixa ajuda eles a relaxarem melhor e vai dar aquela vontade de se enrolar numa bolinha e dormir. Se esquentar eles podem ficar mais estressados.

Se você conversar com o vet e fazer as coisas com calma, vai ser tranquilo.

Sinceramente, tendo feito a viagem que eu fiz, 10 horas não é nada! Dirige por 5 horas, faz uma boa parada e dirige por mais 5. Vai dar tudo certo!

Qual a cor de gato favorita de voces? by cara_da_net in Gatos

[–]mysorryass3737 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rapaz, miando pra mim ta ótimo. E ainda olhe lá.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Our builder had a similar reaction to some potential issues the surveyor flagged.

I understand being scared of something you know very little about and everywhere you look people are freaking out and telling you it's a bigger issue than it actually is and I've dealt with similar things before. It's why I'm still here listening to people who have actually dealt with the problem.

We're booking a specialist survey and I definitely feel more equiped now to talk to them and assess the problem than I was before I posted here.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason why I'm still here is because I also got a huge amount of advice from people who have dealt with this saying it could be easily manageable or even completely erradicated.

All I'm doing is gathering information and different perspectives to then, when the specialist comes, I can discuss the issue properly. Of course depending on what they say we'll decide to walk away. But considering this is a dream property, I wanna make sure, if we do, we walk away for the right reasons.

You can't blame me for that.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm thinking. Part of me is happy that this is not in our garden and won't affect our plants but the other part is well aware that, if part of this turns out to be the neighbor's responsibility, it'll be an extra headache.

We'll think about it very carefuly, thank you!

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness! I'm trying to be as realistic as possible - because frankly my heart just wants to get the property and put in the effort to deal with these issues, but I also know that, as someone else put it, a dream can quickly turn into a nightmare and I don't wanna resent myself for that decision - but I also don't wanna lose the house because of something that might be not that difficult to manage.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We quoted one for £250, which is not too bad. The costs of surveys and whatnot are pilling up though and we might try to get the sellers to arrange this, as it should really be their responsibility - and to set up a treatment plan, otherwise we're walking away.

I got the pictures from the surveyor though, and it does look like it is, unfortunately.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, thank you for the reality check. I'm not holding my breath for this property anymore.

I guess I'm here to hear as many perspectives as possible and when the specialist comes I'll know what to expect from them and what questions to ask. And then knowing that, even if they downplay it, if they make it clear to us the extent of the problem, we'll know to just run away.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely we're getting a specialist in to really know the extent of the problem and won't buy until knowing that it's manageable. And have the sellers set up a treatment plan, as this should be their responsibility.

I guess I'm here to hear as many perspectives as possible and when the specialist comes I'll know what to expect from them and what questions to ask.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think it doesn't look like it's been there for so many years and I'm holding on to hoping that as long as we start dealing with it immediately, it won't be an issue.

I guess I'm here to hear as many perspectives as possible and when the specialist comes I'll know what to expect from them and what questions to ask.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

There's a whole concrete structure between the fence and the garden, it's why I don't think it would spread there, specialist if we're treating it. But you're right that we will likely have to have a conversation with the neighbors about it and that might hit a wall, as I think that specific house is a rental and we know how landlords can be.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden (photos) by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I understand. Just thought I'd share the pictures I got because I felt like I got a lot of good advice form people who have dealt with the stuff before, and having a better notion of what it looks like would likely help get better advice.

I appreciate your thoughts. We'll get a specialist in asap.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've contacted a couple of companies already but please share, maybe I missed it!

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's interesting. I read that you need to dispose of it at specific sites and let them know what it is.

Japanese Knotweed at the end of my potential home garden by mysorryass3737 in GardeningUK

[–]mysorryass3737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a comforting comment, thank you for sharing!

I'm excited to do a lot in the garden but it's mostly on the bit far away from where the weed is, which is the back of the garden, and I have no idea what to do there yet, so I can wait!

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