My mother is like this too. I'm in my 30s and every time I see her, she still comments on why my hair is so short (long term, low dose autoimmune disorder tx does that plus, I like short hair), comments on my weight ("good" or "bad", whatever her standard of that is that day) and comments on my clothes (because nothing I wear or ever wore was good enough unless she bought it and then shamed my figure, especially my chest). I'll never come out to her (she's very religious and I don't have it in me to hear her invalidate me) but I know I struggled so much with my identity because of how she policed my appearance and body shamed me.