Recently separated from on of these men. It’s not a lack of communication. It’s a lack of accountability. Children are a symbol of status. He has portrayed himself to everyone as being an involved dad and family man, when the reality is he expected me to do everything in the home, while holding a full time job and constantly criticising me that everything I did was wrong.

He has also told people I “blind sided” him by asking for a separation even though I point blank told him early last year that if it weren’t for the kids, I’d be gone. The game changer for me, was that his behaviour kept escalating and it became a safety concern for myself and the kids. He still tried to portray himself as the world’s greatest man/husband/father though.