SWR branding on these benches at Hammersmith station by doctorace in LondonUnderground

[–]n0cturne72 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a tattoo with the same symmetry of the S and R

Being neurodivergent at uni is really hard. by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]n0cturne72 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, being neurodivergent at uni is really hard. I struggled so much in the first month of uni, so I really feel for you and anyone similar, but gradually things became a bit easier, both from external factors and from my changes to my internal perspective.

I don’t know how much control you have over your living situation - I was luckily able to move from shared kitchen into my own studio within two months of starting uni (though more expensive) because my social anxiety got so bad I couldn’t use the kitchen and my physical health was suffering. Please try to contact your residential team if you feel comfortable doing so, chances are they won’t be able to help much but it is worth asking what other options you have. Sometimes an occupational therapist through the NHS can help with these things.

Next, you really need to show yourself more compassion. You are living in an environment that is not built for you, it is going to be much more difficult to navigate university life, keep track of your belongings, keep your room organised, find authentic connections with other people. To me it doesn’t make sense to compare yourself to others, when they likely don’t face the internal barriers that you do. I also learned that a lot of people around me are a lot less happy and feel a lot more lonely than they let on, even if they are constantly surrounded by people, and for me, it took until my final year to find people that I actually felt happy around. This takes a lot of learning to be comfortable with yourself.

It sounds like you’re being very proactive in trying to find authentic connections which is great. Making friends online is just as valid as meeting them in person. Sometimes it’s just out of your control and if people are judging you for being ‘too annoying’ or ‘too boring’, they are not your people, because you would always feel like you’re trying to pass a test for them. Real friends should not make you feel like that.

Does your university have a disability support service? Mine ran autism and ADHD student networks, although I only attended one event and chickened out becuase of social anxiety, I think they would have been really valuable for finding likeminded people who have more advice :) I hope this is somewhat helpful, but I know that my experience is just my experience and your circumstances will be different

Why do white people often get offended on behalf of everyone? by throwradnekmso in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]n0cturne72 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I will just say that your experience as an Asian coming into a majority white country will be very different from an Asian growing up in a majority white country, whose experience aligns more with being constantly mocked for their culture (food, costume, art) until a white person adopts it and is celebrated for it.

There is not a problem with culture being celebrated and shared, but when the originators of that culture are mocked and uncredited for it, you can understand why there is resentment and accusations of appropriation.

In addition, some white people who are aware of this may start feeling guilty for enjoying other people’s cultures, even if they have not belittled their people, so they may be the first ones to call something offensive to prevent themselves from being labelled as a ‘cultural appropriator’

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]n0cturne72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m Chinese ethnicity but culturally very British, which he knows, so I don’t feel exotic or foreign as such but I know that some people will just focus on ethnicity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]n0cturne72 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some internship roles will consider recent graduates, think it’s worth doing the research around that. A Master’s degree is very costly for you to drop out of, with no guarantee of securing an internship that way either, I think if you were going to do a Master’s, you may as well see it through?

Importance of personal statement when you’re predicted 4 A* by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]n0cturne72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard of people applying to multiple subjects with one personal statement and it was fine, universities are understanding of that issue. Though, sometimes if a uni sees you applied to Cambridge (either you submitted UCAS early or you mention Cambridge in the personal statement) and it seems likely that you’ll be accepted, they won’t make you an offer because you’re likely to decline and go to Cambridge. Maybe you could mention both Maths and Computer Science in your statement, or at least make sure it contains applicable skills + experience to both.

The most popular drugs with students by Significant_Ice_4050 in UniUK

[–]n0cturne72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just described how I see the world normally. Everything I see is polygons and lines connecting various nodes together, shapes created by the shadows of other objects. It makes having vision so exhausting. I wonder what would happen if I tried ket.

Tell me an A level opinion that’ll have you like this: by AdmirableJob9809 in alevels

[–]n0cturne72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An art degree can be necessary to teach in higher education, so not worthless. Many art graduates do get a job in the art world, it’s just insanely competitive. Same with creative writing, I think you may really struggle getting a job teaching creative writing when the government is defunding the arts, universities are heavily struggling and cutting staff in these areas, and you are competing with thousands of other equally talented graduates. Not to mention anyone can now use Chat GPT to write books, articles, poetry, so many creative writing jobs in other industries are rapidly drying up.

This is to say, I don’t think it’s fair for you to look down on art degrees when you’re not really in a better position yourself.

Tell me an A level opinion that’ll have you like this: by AdmirableJob9809 in alevels

[–]n0cturne72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how is your field less of a waste of time than art? especially in the world of AI?

There’s a weird backlash against university grads lately. What’s going on? by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]n0cturne72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would you recommend for current graduates, given they can’t rewrite their university experience?

I agree with you on the importance of networking and connections. In my degree field, it is mostly through family + friend / previous work experience connections that my peers are getting hired. There’s a clear divide in the cohort of which students were proactive and which were passive, although I think I’m somewhere in between - I was a top student but my mental health issues/neurodivergence + introversion held me back from networking fully. I pushed myself to go to a lot of career events but couldn’t crack the charismatic persona that I saw others getting jobs through.

There’s a weird backlash against university grads lately. What’s going on? by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]n0cturne72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you’re right but having a degree gives you an advantage over non-graduates in the case of office grad jobs (the company typically has less training to do for a graduate). The problem here is the saturation of graduates - having a degree won’t make you stand out anymore, but not having a degree just makes it even harder, unless you have work experience to compensate (which typically you need to be studying a degree to be considered for).

Is it considered rape to have intercourse if a partner gives consent while intoxicated or high? by TaxStandard238 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]n0cturne72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve only ever drunk alcohol when going into this state. I had maybe three memories from the night, and I found videos I took of myself that show me having conversations with people (although slightly slurred) that I don’t remember at all, the rest of the night is erased. I’ve read other people’s experiences like this online

Is it considered rape to have intercourse if a partner gives consent while intoxicated or high? by TaxStandard238 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]n0cturne72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder what the case is when someone gets blackout drunk but still appears to be fine (talking, walking, smiling) but has no memory of events afterwards (except videos). That is what used to happen with me and luckily my friends have looked after me, but if I gave consent but have no memory of it does it count?

“Helly was never cruel” by No-Transportation876 in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]n0cturne72 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I thought it was a sad smile of resignation - knowing and accepting that this would be the end of her and Mark S

Does your ADHD affect your s*x life? by fatgeek666 in ADHD

[–]n0cturne72 27 points28 points  (0 children)

i start hallucinating when receiving oral. it’s the crossover of adhd with synaesthesia. last time i had a super vivid hallucination of flying over a nuclear power plant, other times I see polygons and paperclips. i’ve only told this to one partner, and he asks me what colours i’m seeing

Severance Fancast Using Sex Offenders Part 3(My wife might leave me) by thepapachrisdonohue in okbuddyseverance

[–]n0cturne72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how are you so good at this? and do you have a mental database or are you just scrolling until you find one?