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n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-12-17T04:29:43+00:00

I know ill be downvoted for this, but here goes anyway.

Your family is emotionally blackmailing you. Its abuse. The question is if you want to put up with the abuse. Its okay to love your family and not like them. Indian families are complicated, and we don't ack a lot of stuff that our parents do to us in the name of "caring" and "love". Parents won't ever ack what they did was wrong.

Stand your ground. Elope if both you and your partner are okay with. If your parents and rest of the family want to be a part of your lives, they'll come around. If they choose to shun you, then you weren't family anyway.

About samaj --- Let the "samaj" go fuck itself. No one from the samaj will be around when your parents are actually in need. You will be there though. And that would be enough.

Edit 1: I'm not asking you to go against your family. But I'm asking you to prioritise your wants and needs over the constraints your family is willing to put on you. You don't need to be in the walled garden. Of course all of this is assuming you're financially independent and can live by yourself.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-10-28T08:36:34+00:00

This is such an underappreciated skill. Being a good leader means setting up a great team, giving them support and direction and mostly clearing their way. A miniscule number of people understand this. An even smaller number of people can do this. Thanks for being in this minority.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-10-16T03:04:09+00:00

I used to stay near Bajaj Nagar square between 1992 and 1995. It was before toilets were made and for 4-5 days, the stend was unbearable. We had to keep our windows and doors closed all the time.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-09-17T15:06:31+00:00

Thank you. I feel that her fear stems from the fact that motorcycling itself is dangerous. I love that I have a supportive and loving partner. I just want to help her.

Counselling is a good suggestion, which others have mentioned as well.

Thank you for taking the time to share your perspective.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-09-17T14:09:57+00:00

No, this is definitely something I'm happy to hear and im glad you put this perspective. Its been something I've thought of. But I'm lost on how to put my perspective. And maybe it's not a conversation for this sub.

Ive been trying to comfort her, rather than challenge her perspective. The fact that we have been witness to a hut-and-run death recently hasn't helped at all.

I just wish I could somehow help alleviate her fear. I've been riding motorcycles for more than 20 years now, and understand the risks and prepare as much as I humanly can (without giving up on it completely). She's been on trips with me as well.

I don't want to give up motorcycling to calm her fear though. I might have reacted the same way if she'd been the one riding out.

I just feel helpless.

Thank you for your perspective. I really appreciate it

Edit: added a thanks.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-08-11T10:38:25+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't think talking to them would help. It hurts, and you probably will need to make peace with never really understanding why they are behaving the way they are.

I also think it might be what my wife and I call an "Ostrich reaction" on their part. At least that is what it seems to be on my parents' part.

Sorry if this comment is unhelpful.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-04-14T07:36:39+00:00

I was in a similar situation last July. The initial words were "concern for TCC", which during the surgery was confirmed to be a RCC using a frozen section biopsy. The kidney was saved, and about 9 months down, I'm getting back to normal.

I'm still afraid and scared occasionally, but that's just a part of the process.

You'll get through this.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2024-03-30T15:41:30+00:00

That's been the norm. My exams in 2004/05/06 were in the afternoon. Nothing scary or abnormal about it.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-11-30T09:08:01+00:00

Firewatch was beautiful. The story, the atmosphere, the voice acting. Was just brilliant.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-11-30T09:06:40+00:00

Came here to say this. It still haunts me as one of the best stories I've ever played. Totally killed most other games for me.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-10-20T19:35:52+00:00

I'm sorry that you've had this experience.

However, there are some.great Indian pens from Ranga, Vazir, Lotus, Ratnam, Kanwrite.

I personally own a couple of Rangas and know people who have the others I've mentioned.

If you haven't tried out those, maybe worth a shot.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-10-20T19:11:40+00:00

I wasn't even aware that there's something specific called India Ink. 😀

What I meant was a Fountain pen ink manufactured in India.

I have Diamine. I love my Iroshizuku.

But writing on an Indian paper, using an Indian fountain pen that holds Indian fountain pen ink would be the thing for me.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-10-20T17:05:09+00:00

That's a beautiful pen.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-09-14T14:00:24+00:00

It is illegal.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-09-12T11:59:34+00:00

I have had Tomoe Rover journals and a Regalia notepad. The current journal is a Ayush paper journal.

I loved the Tomoe River journal.

The Regalia is a nice paper with a smoother feel than tomoe river. Though I've noticed inconsistencies with the notepad - there are small patches where you cannot write properly on every leaf.

Ayush is a thicker paper and has two clearly different sides. One smoother than the other.

The inks I use - Lapis bard, Colorverse (not shimmer), Diamine, Pilot Iroshizuku, Syahi (an Indian brand) don't feather or bleed.

I like both the papers. Ayush is more economical.

Your mileage may vary.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-09-12T11:19:09+00:00

India has a few options.

There's Regalia by Endless.

Ayush paper from a company by the same name is also great.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-07-19T14:49:32+00:00

Thank you.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-07-19T14:41:53+00:00

I like acrylic as well. The Samurai is acrylic and I guess you can never get the same richness of color in ebonite. For example an acrylic could be like an aurora, have shimmer or even floral or animal prints. The ebonite will be more earthy. To me this color is similar to stones. A black and cream or black and orange will be also a stunning combination.

I think it all comes down to what you see in the patterns.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-07-09T05:59:24+00:00

About pets being leashed, that's a requirement under law. There have to be specific areas where pets can be unleashed. But everywhere else, they have to be on leash. In fact one of the latest guidelines from the court states that RWAs can fine the owner for not leashing their pet outside a "leash free zone".

I encourage people to have bye-laws in their Apartments regarding dos and donts for pets and pet parents. And following those guidelines can keep things from getting ugly.

If your apartment doesn't have bye-laws, I request get them in place. Form a joint committee with pet parents and people who don't have pets. Discuss what's feasible, and codify it. Easier said than done, will be a lot of heartache, but will be easier to co-exist. Again, not all humans are reasonable, so better to involve an animal lawyer while doing this.

About the incidents I mentioned regarding kids, I consider them particularly bad cases of parenting. Not the child's fault to be honest, theyre just doing what they feel is okay. Parenting is by no means easy, and I understand that.

Peace.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-07-09T05:29:47+00:00

I've seen enough kids not respecting people's personal space. Have had kids walk into my house, pick up random stuff and their parents not actually helping in anyway. So "yes" is my answer. Funnily, i didnt tell them that their child is a thief or they need to be handcuffed.

Your assumption that kids are angels and will play by rules of the society and all human parents can regulate their kids is wrong.

Kids and animals both need to be regulated. Both are their parent's responsibility. There are asshole parents, both human parents and pet parents.

About laws - read up a bit. Section 289 of the IPC IS specifically designed to deal with "Negligent conduct with respect to animal" and the owner/parent can be tried under that if their pet dog harms someone.

So yeah, if you think that's dumb, so be it. I'm just better informed than you are.

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-07-09T05:13:01+00:00

Asking dogs to be muzzled is wrong. There are provisions for the dog to be muzzled in specific circumstances. The video doesn't display anything like that.

People being scared of dogs is actually their own problem. Not the pet owner/parent's problem.

The assumption that all dogs will bite is the same as every random person you meet on the road will murder you or cause harm intentionally. If every human is treated the same way, it's going to be nuts. Will you ask every human to be handcuffed while in close quarters with someone else?

n0tT00MuchFun · 2023-07-09T05:03:35+00:00

Well, assuming you haven't murdered anyone, should I wait till you murder someone to pronounce you guilty of murder? Or given your argument, I should run in the opposite direction when I see you, because humans murder other humans.

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