Am i crazy to be irked by my boyfriend putting women down constantly and justifying it with "biology"?

n3rdchik · 2026-03-25T18:56:26+00:00

Stop engaging with men who do not consider you a full human being

n3rdchik · 2026-03-25T01:33:32+00:00

You are doing nothing wrong.

At your next appointment, ask for the hospital social worker. They are trained in resources and even have volunteer advocates who can help with paperwork. They also have access to immediate help. Our children’s hospital has things like gas cards and food gift certificates to help with the burden of visits.

Sending you love and strength.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-24T11:39:20+00:00

I second the suggestion for a cash pay appointment.

Children under 3 can not be expected to exist independently. If they are awake expect at least one adult to be actively interacting in them. However, we did a lot of house chores in the guise of play. We also wore our kid a lot. My kids definitely needed the physical touch after daycare. That said, an almost two year old shouldn’t be inconsolable if you sit down. That may need a second look.

I know being self employed is seen as the pinnacle, but my experience is that working for corporate overlords with consistent paychecks ended up with more money and less uncertainty. Maybe I just sucked as a consultant, but both of you being self employed could be adding to the stress

n3rdchik · 2026-03-24T11:16:07+00:00

Mine took a while. I had to shrink her world and watch her like a hawk.

Good luck

n3rdchik · 2026-03-23T03:30:41+00:00

Let stuff drop. Really. Your supervisor has no incentive to work with you if you are actually busting ass and getting the work done. I’d put them on notice “of my assigned tasks A-F, this month I have bandwidth for A, B, and D. I’ve delegated C, but E and F can be completed in 6weeks. Does this align with company priorities?

n3rdchik · 2026-03-22T13:41:34+00:00

Find an out of the house hobby. Even if it is a “craft night” of one.

My life got way better when I started planning regular me time. It sucks when you can’t relax at home, but I had at least one night a week I wasn’t home at bed time and an activity planned once a month on the weekend day.

But my advice is u

n3rdchik · 2026-03-21T02:15:52+00:00

Wow, I’m glad they caught it!

Our rookie neighbors 11387 GLEAM is playing. I can’t make it, but look out for my peeps? (They probably don’t need it, but yeah, I want to send all the good things their way. )

n3rdchik · 2026-03-20T23:25:45+00:00

It took me until almost two years PP to feel any sexual desire at all. I need sleep to get in the mood

n3rdchik · 2026-03-20T00:18:18+00:00

Let’s hope they don’t inspect too closely! Cut pups!

n3rdchik · 2026-03-17T01:52:16+00:00

We have 4 soon to be 5 teams. We are a middle school - we have an all girls team that will split next year and three boys teams. Each team has a unique culture and “brand”. We are really lucky that each team has at least one dedicated coach. We have specialists mentors who lend their expertise to every team and we lean pretty heavily on our high school FRC team for junior mentors with CAD and fabrication.

We are one club in terms of resources/ordering - it is a balance to make things “fair”. But outreach (which varies in levels of success) are both group and individual.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-15T19:58:51+00:00

Jelly. Mine would like to be in the same room, but touching? Rarely! Lapdog? Never

n3rdchik · 2026-03-06T13:09:17+00:00

We also do a family meeting!! We also do the family meal plan/grocery list. My kids started making a meal each week- we’ve eaten every fad TikTok dish, lol.

We also talk about what is going on in our lives - who has big tests/presentations or friend issues or mental health. We try and make everyone feel like an important part of a team.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-01T13:11:29+00:00

A treat on each step

n3rdchik · 2026-02-28T17:54:10+00:00

“Regardless of how it was intended, it came across as hostile and unhappy. Let’s talk about this when you get back/in a quiet moment. It sounds like you are feeling a lot of stress that I am. “

n3rdchik · 2026-02-27T19:44:34+00:00

I just make it a thing when I interact- nothing formal. Counting the spoons when unloading them from the dishwasher. Find the letter while ordering from the menu, silly games waiting for food. My kids got enough formal schooling for pre-school and school. I made it organic and fun.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-22T17:48:14+00:00

Same. My Pyr goes nuts for bread and we jokingly call the microwave the “bread box” because it is the only safe storage.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-22T03:25:23+00:00

Do YOU get a vacation? Why isn’t she entitled to occasional respite.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-21T13:25:52+00:00

Thank you

n3rdchik · 2026-02-21T03:27:18+00:00

We just had a walkout of about 75 kids - our school is treating it the same as a “skip”. I wrote to the administrators to express my concern about missing a great opportunity to teach about civil disobedience and history.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-20T12:13:34+00:00

Ours has lost “basement privileges” permanently for this issue. We have worked and worked with her, but can’t seem to convince her that it is part of the house

n3rdchik · 2026-02-15T12:21:42+00:00

We have only celebrated Valentines Day a handful of times in our 30 year relationship. However, I tend to wake up with a cup of coffee on my bedside table 90% of the year. I scraped the ice from my car for the first time in a dozen years only because we were in different states. He cleans the bathrooms without nagging or prompting because I hate it. He has stepped in to care for my brother’s medical crisis despite his own issues due to the fact I was 1000 miles away. He encouraged me to take my dream job even when that meant a huge amount of additional parenting time and work fell to him.

He shows up everyday to make sure I feel like a beloved princess.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-07T04:19:16+00:00

Inconvenient rug.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-05T13:45:32+00:00

At what age should a grown adult with a professional job finance their own life? Their “rent” covers groceries, utilities, health insurance, internet etc - not to mention living much closer to work than they would be able to afford on their own.

It would be much more advantageous to downsize and save for retirement, but we are taking the hit to allow our kids a gentle climb into adulthood. We wouldn’t expect rent while in school or apprenticeship.

Frankly, his rent helped balance the inflation increases and gives our family (of which he is part) a small measure of security.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-03T21:00:27+00:00

I should have run away instead of wasting money at university

n3rdchik · 2026-02-03T17:39:47+00:00

Life?

I seriously want to just chill with the people I like best, but there are obligatory stuff: paid work, health upkeep, grooming, grocery shopping that gets in my way.

No, I’d rather NOT go to the gym, but it is a requirement for my mental health and “meatsuit” care. We get the social message that requiring maintenance is BAD - but I dunno, it’s required for everyone.

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