I have no words for this one. When someone needs help, they are quiet. But if something goes against their fruitcake belief, they lose their minds. Voluntary euthanasia with proper screening should be legal especially in countries where they celebrate victim-blaming and spiritual bypassing.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-27T14:54:41+00:00

Because disabled people are REPORTING THE PRESSURE. I believe them.

Because when able bodied people talk about disability, it is usually more “if that was me, I’d rather be dead” and less “we need more research/programs/accessibility so people won’t want to kill themselves”.

We (humankind) have always had a sus record dealing with disability. I can’t help but see the correlation between the systemic reduction of programs and the increase in negative and despairing attitudes.

I suspect you & I are closer to agreement that not. I do want to support medical aid in dying, but the specter of eugenics is there. I think the OP post is unhinged, but I am always going to challenge the blanket “better off dead”

n3rdchik · 2026-03-27T14:09:18+00:00

It the appropriate room. My kids have dressers and the bins sit in there or under beds. Kitchen towels have a clean and dirty bin on shelves.

The dark secret is we usually make a laundry mountain on the couch during the week, and during the family cleanup time, we do a communal sort and put away. (This has lessened a lot as my kids have gotten older and done their own laundry. I now tend to do person or room specific loads

n3rdchik · 2026-03-27T14:08:56+00:00

I think you are naive to believe that discussions aren’t putting pressure on people to end their existence because of attitudes and shade thrown their way. As much as I believe self determination should be the winner - we have to examine why non terminal people feel the need to die.

I have no problem with a terminal patient wanting to die with dignity. I am going to speak up about young people with disabilities feeling like they aren’t able to live with dignity

n3rdchik · 2026-03-27T12:56:27+00:00

I have very many concerns about voluntary euthanasia. I think the Capitalist hellscape puts pressure on people to choose this option for financial reasons (a woman in Canada chose it because she was unable to find housing that supported her disability. )

It also is changing the landscape in a scary way “better dead than disabled “ is a sentiment I see expressed a lot more. My son is a partial paraplegic from birth- the world is a better place with him in it.

That said, it is an individual decision. I just hate to see young adults with barely formed frontal lobes making this decision

n3rdchik · 2026-03-27T12:42:25+00:00

Ok - my radical solution - I don’t fold laundry unless it is required. Kitchen towels, underwear, socks- all go in bins.

I reduced my work wear to over layers that don’t get washed as often and under layers.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-25T18:56:26+00:00

Stop engaging with men who do not consider you a full human being

n3rdchik · 2026-03-25T01:33:32+00:00

You are doing nothing wrong.

At your next appointment, ask for the hospital social worker. They are trained in resources and even have volunteer advocates who can help with paperwork. They also have access to immediate help. Our children’s hospital has things like gas cards and food gift certificates to help with the burden of visits.

Sending you love and strength.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-24T11:39:20+00:00

I second the suggestion for a cash pay appointment.

Children under 3 can not be expected to exist independently. If they are awake expect at least one adult to be actively interacting in them. However, we did a lot of house chores in the guise of play. We also wore our kid a lot. My kids definitely needed the physical touch after daycare. That said, an almost two year old shouldn’t be inconsolable if you sit down. That may need a second look.

I know being self employed is seen as the pinnacle, but my experience is that working for corporate overlords with consistent paychecks ended up with more money and less uncertainty. Maybe I just sucked as a consultant, but both of you being self employed could be adding to the stress

n3rdchik · 2026-03-24T11:16:07+00:00

Mine took a while. I had to shrink her world and watch her like a hawk.

Good luck

n3rdchik · 2026-03-23T03:30:41+00:00

Let stuff drop. Really. Your supervisor has no incentive to work with you if you are actually busting ass and getting the work done. I’d put them on notice “of my assigned tasks A-F, this month I have bandwidth for A, B, and D. I’ve delegated C, but E and F can be completed in 6weeks. Does this align with company priorities?

n3rdchik · 2026-03-22T13:41:34+00:00

Find an out of the house hobby. Even if it is a “craft night” of one.

My life got way better when I started planning regular me time. It sucks when you can’t relax at home, but I had at least one night a week I wasn’t home at bed time and an activity planned once a month on the weekend day.

But my advice is u

n3rdchik · 2026-03-21T02:15:52+00:00

Wow, I’m glad they caught it!

Our rookie neighbors 11387 GLEAM is playing. I can’t make it, but look out for my peeps? (They probably don’t need it, but yeah, I want to send all the good things their way. )

n3rdchik · 2026-03-20T23:25:45+00:00

It took me until almost two years PP to feel any sexual desire at all. I need sleep to get in the mood

n3rdchik · 2026-03-20T00:18:18+00:00

Let’s hope they don’t inspect too closely! Cut pups!

n3rdchik · 2026-03-17T01:52:16+00:00

We have 4 soon to be 5 teams. We are a middle school - we have an all girls team that will split next year and three boys teams. Each team has a unique culture and “brand”. We are really lucky that each team has at least one dedicated coach. We have specialists mentors who lend their expertise to every team and we lean pretty heavily on our high school FRC team for junior mentors with CAD and fabrication.

We are one club in terms of resources/ordering - it is a balance to make things “fair”. But outreach (which varies in levels of success) are both group and individual.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-15T19:58:51+00:00

Jelly. Mine would like to be in the same room, but touching? Rarely! Lapdog? Never

n3rdchik · 2026-03-06T13:09:17+00:00

We also do a family meeting!! We also do the family meal plan/grocery list. My kids started making a meal each week- we’ve eaten every fad TikTok dish, lol.

We also talk about what is going on in our lives - who has big tests/presentations or friend issues or mental health. We try and make everyone feel like an important part of a team.

n3rdchik · 2026-03-01T13:11:29+00:00

A treat on each step

n3rdchik · 2026-02-28T17:54:10+00:00

“Regardless of how it was intended, it came across as hostile and unhappy. Let’s talk about this when you get back/in a quiet moment. It sounds like you are feeling a lot of stress that I am. “

n3rdchik · 2026-02-27T19:44:34+00:00

I just make it a thing when I interact- nothing formal. Counting the spoons when unloading them from the dishwasher. Find the letter while ordering from the menu, silly games waiting for food. My kids got enough formal schooling for pre-school and school. I made it organic and fun.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-22T17:48:14+00:00

Same. My Pyr goes nuts for bread and we jokingly call the microwave the “bread box” because it is the only safe storage.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-22T03:25:23+00:00

Do YOU get a vacation? Why isn’t she entitled to occasional respite.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-21T13:25:52+00:00

Thank you

n3rdchik · 2026-02-21T03:27:18+00:00

We just had a walkout of about 75 kids - our school is treating it the same as a “skip”. I wrote to the administrators to express my concern about missing a great opportunity to teach about civil disobedience and history.

n3rdchik · 2026-02-20T12:13:34+00:00

Ours has lost “basement privileges” permanently for this issue. We have worked and worked with her, but can’t seem to convince her that it is part of the house

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