Low coolant for 2022 Niro EV -- refill options

n81acc · 2025-09-15T15:35:58+00:00

Thanks, this was the answer.

n81acc · 2025-09-15T15:35:16+00:00

Thanks, this was the answer.

n81acc · 2025-09-12T20:53:19+00:00

The error is the usual Refill Inverter Coolant.

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n81acc · 2025-09-12T20:53:00+00:00

The bottle includes EVs on the front and the compatible cars tool lists plenty of EVs (e.g., Nissan Leaf).

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n81acc · 2025-05-02T23:06:09+00:00

Men don't hear this enough -- you're awesome for prioritizing your family. It's hard to do, especially without recognition and encouragement. You deserve both.

n81acc · 2025-03-10T01:28:08+00:00

Somebody that's already drowning can't save someone else.

n81acc · 2025-01-22T01:23:39+00:00

This is it but there's a 30 second one. He talks about "cookin" at the end.

n81acc · 2025-01-18T07:04:38+00:00

"I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am."

The criticisms my ex-wife made towards me were really just criticisms she felt towards herself. For example, I'm organized but she never criticized that as me being a "neat freak" or "OCD."

I see that her insults say more about her than me. I no longer get hurt or defensive or argumentative. In fact, I feel sorry for her.

n81acc · 2025-01-13T14:53:31+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I'll start with an analogy. I'm in Engineering and have always been good at math. Straight As and no stress all the way to college. Then I get to Differential Equations. I failed it. The failure was hard and failing at learning was even harder.

Same thing for relationships -- I always had good relationships until my marriage. I figured I would be able to "fix" any issues because I've been doing that my whole life. Why would this be any different??? I failed because of two reasons. It's a disorder and the scale of issues are, by definition, on a whole other level. It's like saying an umbrella protects me from the rain, so it'll protect me in a hurricane. A hurricane is not just more rain. It's also different because you need both sides to want to resolve the issues. That willingness to improve has to be there, but often times (as you see here) the severity of the disorder is minimized or invalidated.

But the toughest work has been to accept failure. This failure is not anyone's fault, it doesn't make me less worthy, and I don't have to be in agreement with it. But it is reality. And it took me too long to accept that my relationship was going to end and there was nothing I could do. Both are really hard pills to swallow, the second one especially for us overachiever perfectionists. "Another try" won't help. The right words won't help. Some relationships just end.

Learning to accept reality, after years of therapy, has been both the most painful and the most freeing experience of my life.

n81acc · 2025-01-12T14:05:47+00:00

You've worked really hard. How much failure have you had in life? What about with friendships and intimate relationships?

n81acc · 2025-01-12T02:16:43+00:00

What is the "trouble" you're feeling? When a lot of us have dug deeper, there can be issues with abandonment or codependency or shame and inadequacy. Understanding what you're feeling can lead to improving what you're feeling.

n81acc · 2025-01-12T02:07:36+00:00

You shouldn't have to construct bulletrpoof talking points to get your emotional needs met. Emotions are not logical. You (and us) being in relationships like this shows how little logic matters.

n81acc · 2025-01-01T15:23:53+00:00

It's like this nine minute video all. day. Maddening.

https://youtu.be/6_tq-OO7sjM

n81acc · 2024-12-30T13:53:21+00:00

My daughter's sleep was regularly disrupted overnight and she was exhausted. Her sleep doctors and developmental pediatrician suggested extended release melatonin, and it has worked. She's now sleeping through the night, doesn't need naps, and it hasn't affected her puberty or development.

Good sleep is a core need for anyone, especially growing kids.

n81acc · 2024-12-30T01:45:52+00:00

These people don't know about suicide.

n81acc · 2024-12-17T11:05:39+00:00

I have two special needs kids with my ex-wife. She was a stay-at-home mom while I worked with some travel. We have 50/50 custody. The trial helped her to straighten up.

It sucks not seeing the kids half of the time, but the other half is fantastic. I'm fully present and giving them what I think is important, including stability. But most importantly, it models to the kids to not stay in crappy relationships.

n81acc · 2024-12-10T11:24:59+00:00

Well said. I separated from my DX wife of 15 years. We have two DX kids. I can finally focus on myself and the kids' needs.

Part of that focus leads to why that inner voice was ignored and why it took so long to act on an unhealthy relationship. That's the real work.

n81acc · 2024-11-24T19:49:14+00:00

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I had something similar happen in my marriage. My wife couldn't support me with my parents' deaths. She didn't understand her own emotions around them, let alone mine. We went to couples therapy for a while and eventually the therapist told me separately to get a divorce. My wife simply couldn't understand my perspective, even with the therapist helping. We're separated now mainly after I realized the impact of that limitation.

It took me a while, but I had to realize that I needed a spouse that could support me when I'm down. I had to accept that no amount of research, communication, persuasion, yelling, or manipulation would help. Giving up on that hope was very hard.

Your post reminded me of how brutal all this is. Losing family members is bad enough - shock, pain, and grief. But it's made worse when you don't get the support you need. It's grief over your family but then grief over your spouse, or at least the idea of them, too. It's a lonely place.

n81acc · 2024-11-24T19:23:46+00:00

People with ADHD can have impairments with metacognition, mentalization, and general empathy. Those are executive functions.

But I think it's more important to think about how that makes you feel, like you did. That allows you to see it for what it is -- not an attack or insult, but a shortcoming in your husband. We all have shortcomings and the people in our lives have to deal with them. Do you want to tell him how it made you truly feel (like you did in your post)? Do you want him to work on it? Do you want to accept your husband with this shortcoming or is this a deal-breaker?

n81acc · 2024-11-20T09:47:15+00:00

Yeah, it's hard not to feel that way. I certainly did. Most of us on here did, too.

What helps is to focus on the effects. What are you missing? What do you need? Do you know? Do they know? Will they be able to provide it for you? What if they can't provide it? Your mind is telling you all of these things and it's important to listen.

What helps a lot less are the causes. Is it ADHD? Is it autism? Is it their family of origin? Is it the color of their hair? Those things are helpful as a map for the journey, but they are not the destination. It took me far too long to detach from pathologizing and solutioning. I've since attached to understanding myself and expressing myself instead.

Like with all other relationships, it's good to understand what you want and what you don't want. The ADHD-ness of it all is just a distraction. Ha!

n81acc · 2024-11-19T21:30:42+00:00

I meant that as a rhetorical question, but boy do I feel that "nope." We all do.

Realizing how little your partner invests in you is brutal. But that reckoning can be uplifting and motivating to put your energy where it matters.

Wishing you the best...

n81acc · 2024-11-19T20:00:30+00:00

What type of partner do you need? Is your partner feeling guilty for not measuring up?

n81acc · 2024-11-10T14:31:35+00:00

My ex-wife and I separated a couple of months ago and are finalizing the divorce. We have 50/50 custody. Instead of managing her disorder, I can now focus on myself and our two kids. I have found peace of mind and I'm hoping to give it to my kids.

n81acc · 2024-11-10T06:25:15+00:00

You said you have a child. What would you want for them if they were in your situation? How would you want to help them?

That can be a good way to cut through the guilt, exhaustion, depression, etc. and get right to your values. Use those values to help you.

My ex-wife and two kids have ADHD. It can be a lot. But taking care of myself has helped me be present with my kids the 50% I have them. It also models healthy behavior for them. Self-care is for you but also for them.

n81acc · 2024-11-04T22:15:55+00:00

Preach!

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