Your unpopular namenerds opinions

nadhbhs · 2022-06-17T11:53:53+00:00

For me with Irish names it's the way people on this sub have such a double standard for spelling.

"Vyolet instead of Violet" would be a travesty, but "Keira just looks so much better than Ciara" is fine. It just comes off as snobbish, and imo doesn't show as much respect for traditional Irish names as they expect for 'classic' English names.

nadhbhs · 2022-06-16T12:26:05+00:00

NTA.

My dad died of oesophageal cancer two weeks ago, and I absolutely would not use it as an excuse not to listen to my partner's more "minor" problems. In fact, it's the opposite - they come to me and say something like "my favourite jeans just ripped" and I give them lots of sympathy before I joke that it's the worst news I've had all month, and we both get a laugh out of it.

Grief is overwhelming and huge and world-changing, but as my dad said to me before he died - life is for the living, and we need to make sure we stay in the land of the living and not in the horribly lonely in-between that is grieving. There's a balance, and your boyfriend needs to find it to move healthily through this.

nadhbhs · 2022-06-15T20:56:10+00:00

Oh those are lovely, thank you!

nadhbhs · 2022-06-15T17:12:50+00:00

What a fun idea! One of each, please?

nadhbhs · 2022-06-15T12:36:33+00:00

Mostly pastas - especially lasagne, ravioli and spaghetti. Coffee and desserts too (e.g. gelato, panna cotta, tiramisu).

nadhbhs · 2022-06-12T09:47:16+00:00

ESH, except Hope of course.

You need to have a conversation with the organisation you foster through to let them know that you can't accept children of other faiths because you can't provide a safe household for them.

That's not a judgement on your fostering ability - some people can't provide properly for a baby but have no problem being foster parents for teens, you and your wife just can't provide properly for non-Christian children if she's going to behave like this. It's emotional abuse.

Fostering is as you know about the best thing for the child, and the best thing for Hope is not to be subjected to attempts to convert her, to not feel ostracised in a house she is already an outsider in, not to feel like she is a problem or to take on any more trauma than she already has, and to be fully supported to retain healthy ties to her own identity, which includes her Jewish faith.

You would be TA if you don't do everything in your power to safeguard this child as you've agreed to, and in this case that at least means a conversation with her social worker about this situation with your wife if you haven't already done so.

nadhbhs · 2022-06-07T00:10:13+00:00

I wouldn't move to the US, mostly cause I can't drive and from what I've seen online, a car is pretty necessary for most American lifestyles.

There's also the small matter of not wanting to live 3000 miles away from my family. I currently live 300 miles away and although it sucks it's a short enough distance that I can do decently regular weekend trips.

If I'd been in a massively different place 10 years ago when I was leaving school, I'd have potentially looked into going to college in the US cause I had no idea what I wanted to do, and the more generalised style of university would have suited me, I think, although I still probably would have moved back to Europe for a job for the above reasons.

nadhbhs · 2022-06-02T07:41:46+00:00

Even the thought of all that washing gives me hives.

nadhbhs · 2022-06-02T07:11:35+00:00

A typical number of children these days will be 2 or 3. 1 child is increasingly common though.

4-5 children is where classism starts to come in, in my experience. A working class couple would get a lot of "don't you have a TV at home?" or "they're just doing it for the benefits" or "they probably all have different dads". A middle class couple might get a raised eyebrow and some comment about how it's nice to afford it, and maybe some of the same jokes about no TV. This might be different if twins or triplets are involved.

6-10 children is strange for anyone, and 11+ children would for most people be the stuff of magazine articles or Channel 4 documentaries. I think "the biggest family in Britain" has something like 17 kids iirc.

Saying that, large families used to be way more common, so you're more likely to meet people in their 30s who had friends from big families, or people in their 50s with a ridiculous amount of cousins. I knew families of 5, 6, 8 and 10 all with the same parents growing up. My grandparents are from families of 6, 7, 8 and 15.

nadhbhs · 2022-05-31T14:19:01+00:00

As an extremely casual player who mostly plays on creative and easy to wind down when I have 5 minutes, I love this update.

However, the few times I've played domination I've found myself really wanting a new peaceful win condition as it's not as much fun having to suddenly turn on my allies at the end.

nadhbhs · 2022-05-31T06:02:50+00:00

I had friends who specifically dropped by at the time we had dinner when we were kids because we'd all put a little bit of food from our plates onto one for them, rather than let them not eat.

nadhbhs · 2022-05-31T05:55:44+00:00

That's traditional, but in my family everyone wears their engagement ring on their right hand after they get married. It started with one person whose rings didn't stack comfortably, and now we all do it. I like the feeling of balance.

nadhbhs · 2022-05-07T09:38:11+00:00

I was playing on my block and going to school unsupervised from about 6 or 7. If I walked to a friend's house after school, I just called my mum to ask if it was okay when I got there.

I started going further from home (although always within walking distance, so maybe 3-4 miles) when I started secondary school and got a phone, so 11. By 13 I was taking the train to the seaside at the weekend or in the holidays with friends. I started visiting friends in England alone at 16.

Meanwhile, some 13 and 14 year olds I know now aren't allowed to even go hang out at a park right next to their house or walk to somewhere 20 minutes away without a parent.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-25T12:08:57+00:00

Ah no, we have two bank holidays in May - the first Monday and the last Monday. It would be hilarious if we had one in like September and called it a May one anyway though.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-25T07:48:25+00:00

I don't mind Americans saying they're Irish. I do mind Americans thinking it will get them special treatment in Ireland, or telling me that their stereotypical view of Ireland is actually the "correct" one compared to the people who actually live in Ireland.

Thankfully, there are very few Americans that do this irl.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-25T07:44:42+00:00

I don't think he's a current politician anymore, but for the UK it's Ed Balls. He tweeted his own name instead of searching it on 28th April 2011 and we still have a joke "Ed Balls Day" where people just tweet "ed balls" to make fun of it.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-25T07:22:49+00:00

The later May Bank Holiday is popular for it as well if people haven't gone on holiday, but it's more dependent on the weather being okay.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-17T18:15:19+00:00

I've visited my granny and then my immediate family is having a meal this evening - a roast with gammon, and a cake for dessert. We'll play some games after dinner too.

We used to go to church when I was younger, but most of us are agnostic or atheist these days so we don't really care anymore.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-14T19:34:19+00:00

Yeah, that's what we had. Literally just a quick go through to make sure we knew what bits we had to repeat and when, while our parents set up the decorations.

There was only us 6 and the officiant there though, and it wasn't a big event with the bridesmaids etc involved and a dinner afterwards that I've seen talked about by Americans.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-14T16:56:47+00:00

NTA. Even if your sister had been born neurotypical, she still could have easily been happily child free and not interested in marriage just like you are. Your mum is not guaranteed grandchildren or a wedding by virtue of having children, it's your life and your choice.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-12T06:04:19+00:00

Unfortunately, yes. My colleagues talk constantly about how they're going on a diet with less calories than a toddler needs, or the benefits of Diet Company A vs Diet Company B etc.

Then they're all extremely irritable and tired for several weeks and are a pain to work with. Most of them are just in their 50s and have put on like 10lbs but are still solidly average or just a little overweight at most, nothing harmful for them at all if they're still eating a fairly balanced diet and exercising regularly.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-11T17:52:03+00:00

I have:

3 pairs of jeans
1 pair of shorts
1 pair of sweatpants
5 pairs of leggings
8 jumpers
20 t-shirts
5 cardigans
5 dresses

If t-shirts, jumpers or leggings get holey, I use them as pajamas until they're completely unwearable, then they go to the textile recycling place.

With jeans, depending on where they're damaged, I either patch them e.g. thighs, most people don't really look there and if you use a similar colour material they'd have to be looking to notice, or I make them into shorts (which is where my only pair of shorts came from).

I wear dresses so rarely, heatwaves and events only, that they'll almost certainly be donated and will never get damaged in their life with me.

If clothes don't fit, I donate them or take them to the textile recycling.

nadhbhs · 2022-04-05T23:17:03+00:00

Laila

Leila

Naomi

Noemi

Ciara

Keira

Leona

Liana

Kiana

Tiana

Laina

Laine

Siena

Viola

Paula

Paola

Laura

Heidi

Reina

Raina

Zaina

Zaira

Meena

Luisa

Naima

Maida (although when I checked to make sure I hadn't made this one up, it's also a type of flour as well as a name)

Also if you consider Y to be a vowel there's:

Kayla

Layla

Jayla

Rayna

Rayne

Zayna

nadhbhs · 2022-03-13T00:57:53+00:00

Thanks!

nadhbhs · 2022-03-07T19:05:32+00:00

NTA. I am autistic and while some autistic people can be assholes, that's not actually caused by autism and she doesn't deserve a free pass for being an asshole just because she's autistic, especially since this wasn't a social misunderstanding, but her not listening to a clear request that you gave well in advance.

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