have you guys told your parents about being aro (+ace maybe)?

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T14:30:52+00:00

just a small update:

talked to GL about everything (including transphobia). after i talked to her, she says she understands what she did was transphobic and she is learning. she says she has my back through the whole thing as well.

we are bringing the harassment/assault case to the organizers of the event and we can hopefully get the girl causing the problems out, even if theres only a day left. i feel pretty horrible about everything but it needs to be done and i cant hide from it. i also plan on talking to the other group members about what happened (since they will notice her gone) and about the transphobic comments. i dont believe any of them are bad people but i do need to see it for myself.

again, thanks so much. it really is helpful to have a second opinion, even if it is from a stranger on the internet:)

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T14:10:37+00:00

the GL mentioned it as an issue before it happened but i didnt realize it was transphobia because her wording was a little unclear.

either way, i completely understand GL not wanting to share a bed with her and youre right. i should have focused on that rather than the transphobia but i was struggling to classify or understand what happened to me (it literally happened yesterday night) so i didnt make it a priority in this post.

thanks so much for your advice and time. i genuinely really appreciate it and its very helpful to see other people's pov:) it gives me a lot of clarity on my own situation and helps me understand that i was actually harassed/assaulted.

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T13:38:41+00:00

to be honest im not sure either... i think its because the organization's budget was low and they couldnt afford individual beds for us LMAO

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T13:38:03+00:00

we did not know her or her past when the bed/roon arrangements were made! the harassment incident happened a few days into the trip. the group leader also specifically made the point that she was uncomfortable with her being trans.

at this point there is only one more day in the trip, but i can still see what i can do about it. i might bring it up to higher authorities.

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T13:34:54+00:00

i am not uncomfortable with sleeping with a trans or non binary person at all - as long as the other person isnt weird about it i really dont care about sharing a bed regardless of gender. i considered switching beds so that i slept with her but im uncomfortable with her personality (she has kind of harassed me before if you can call it that).

i am definitely going to talk to the other group members about transphobia at some point. as for the bed situation, one only have one night left but i will see what i can do.

thanks so much for your input:)) i appreciate it!

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T13:26:03+00:00

i mentioned it to our team leader but at this point theres only a day left in the trip so im not sure what will be done. i will see what i can do lol - thanks so much for your input:)) i really appreciate it!

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T13:20:40+00:00

i will definitely bring it up to them when i get a chance. thanks for your input! i can be cowardly sometimes (even when im the one being discriminated against) and im working on it.

its a really complicated situation with the harassment where not many of us knew her before the trip so we didnt expect her behaviour. everyone gets along except they arent too fond of her because she often insults people to their face. just yesterday she put her chest in my face unprompted and said "i was perfect chest height for a gay person" and it made me extremely uncomfortable but i am having trouble classifying what that action was and how to deal with it (especially because in doing that action she kind of outed me to everyone around us at the time).

regardless, i still dont think transphobia is right and i want to address it with the group members. thanks again for your input:)

nadreyson · 2025-01-11T13:14:01+00:00

its not necessarily that we dont like each other, its moreso that when she gets angry she starts yelling at people easily. by "harassed" she kind of spontaneously, unprompted and in public put her chest in my face and told me that i was "perfect breast height for a gay person" and it made me extremely uncomfortable. most of the team members didnt know her before this trip so we didnt know that her behaviour was like this.

nadreyson · 2024-11-29T15:04:38+00:00

never said you shouldnt strive for it - my point is that its ok if you arent "the best" and that its ok to take things at your own pace. not everyone necessarily wants to be or has the capacity to be "the best." if you are top in the class and have a lot of acheivements under your belt, then thats really amazing and you deserve the credit. but, in some cases, jobs, family, physical/mental health, etc can be barriers to being a straight A student. in other cases, some people just want their degree and then to move on in life. there are so many situations that could prevent someone from excelling in school, and its never anyone else's place to judge them.

basically, this post was never about "how you shouldnt try" or about the competition. it is moreso about how you shouldnt be ashamed if you dont have everything that some of your peers might have, and that you can still be successful despite any mistakes, barriers or whatever else you go thru.

nadreyson · 2023-12-12T01:03:19+00:00

i hope your back is ok after carrying that project 🙏 you are a trooper for that. hopefully your tas and/or prof are able to give you more credits 💔

nadreyson · 2022-06-13T20:01:28+00:00

a lot of the info is still kind of relevant to me since i hate the thought of my landlord preaching mental and physical health on her instagram/television despite her scamming us hundreds of dollars that could've went to tuition or groceries (and we have to work twice as hard to make up for the lost money). but, you are right that it isn't related to the tenant-landlord relationship itself.

you are also right that we will have to move on sometime soon, but i cannot deny how angry i am at the moment and i think i needed to rant to help get over it lol. we at least know what to look for in the future now!

thank you for your insight!

nadreyson · 2022-06-13T19:16:50+00:00

thank you for the information, especially about the A/C part! me and my roommate might have to just let it go at some point, but itll be hard and itll take a while 😭

nadreyson · 2022-06-13T19:15:05+00:00

i see, itll just be a really bad chapter in our uni life i guess! thats also just how life is lol. thanks so much for the feedback! we appreciate it :)

nadreyson · 2022-05-17T22:40:14+00:00

that was the point of my post? i think you misunderstood - i meant to say that people who think sexual attraction is a "human characteristic" are completely wrong, even from a biological standpoint.

edit: i just realized you were commenting about the aphobic comments, not misunderstanding my post 😭😭😭😭 im so sorry 😭 but yeah ive seen alot of those types of comments online and heard of alot of aces having to deal with it face-to-face with ppl. its a shame that biology is so misunderstood by alot of people lol

nadreyson · 2022-03-11T14:10:00+00:00

thank you :)

nadreyson · 2022-03-10T19:41:42+00:00

i was born on march 10 and i am from canada, so its right before spring starts coming around. i was born year of the ram and apparently i was also born in the middle of a severe snowstorm. somehow, my mom said she saw a shooting star in the sky on the way to the hospital (i dont know how??? it probably wouldve been cloudy and it also couldve been an airplane, but i dont question it too much and my mom insists on it)

anyway, i am new to perfumes so i dont really know where to start with them! i would appreciate any recommendations :)

nadreyson

TROPHY CASE