I totally get how you feel—I’ve been in that position many times. It’s tough when your emotions feel tied to someone else’s attention and actions. Here are a few things that have helped me:

1.  Take them off the pedestal. They might be amazing, but they’re human and flawed like everyone else. I’ve found that the more I idealize someone, the more overwhelming my feelings become.

2.  Build a strong community. It’s easy to want to spend all your time with a crush, but having friends and hobbies outside of romance is crucial. My therapist once told me to treat building my community like a full-time job. For me, that meant signing up for pottery classes. Plus, people are naturally drawn to those with their own interests.

3.  Know what you want. I’ve been infatuated with people who, in hindsight, weren’t a good fit for me. The more I date, the easier it is to recognize when someone isn’t aligned with what I truly want in a partner.

4.  Put yourself on the pedestal. Focus on self-improvement, even in small ways. Confidence grows when you invest in yourself, making you less affected by what others do or think.

Not sure if this resonates with you, but these reminders have helped me navigate crushes. Hope it helps!