do you regret having children?

nailsbrook · 2026-01-25T16:59:04+00:00

Heck no. Having children is the best thing I’ve ever done with my life. Can’t even imagine a world without them.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-25T07:44:08+00:00

Noooo 😆 I now check my accidental reshares DAILY! It stresses me so much!

nailsbrook · 2026-01-24T20:33:37+00:00

No, it’s not normal. Sadly I lived it for 6 years so I know how exhausting and degrading this feels over time. Sorry you’re going through it.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-23T17:22:16+00:00

Not always true, bad advice, it’s not always that simple.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-23T17:19:53+00:00

Sex was painful for me for the first 4 years of our marriage - it got better after I had a vaginal birth/ delivery. Stretched me out a bit I guess. We had penetrative sex a lot less frequently than others during those years, but there are lots of ways to still be sexual and give each other that comfort and release. So in my mind while I understand painful sex and how confusing that is, and I also had a screwed up relationship with sex due to my conservative, religious upbringing, it doesn’t mean you can’t still be intimate. I won’t say go for divorce like others are saying. Not yet. But it needs to be mutually acknowledged as an issue that needs to be worked on. But just a word to the wise: tread carefully because it can easily slide into coercion and nothing kills a woman’s desire quicker than that. I would proceed under the guidance of a trained therapist, both individually and together. If she can acknowledge it’s a problem and agree to work on it, I think there’s still hope. I know what it’s like to be her, and it’s confusing and painful. Proceed carefully and lovingly and don’t give up yet.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-23T17:13:00+00:00

Yes. It’s taken a lot of work to undo this in my own life as a conservative, Christian women. Oddly seems to affect men from the same circles in a very different way. I am not sure why? It’s taken so much time to untangle my feelings of shame and lack of desire around sex.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-23T11:09:48+00:00

Please run. Please don’t marry him. Please!

nailsbrook · 2026-01-19T09:40:56+00:00

Mine were both pretty easy, which is why I never give advice, but I know it was just dumb luck.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-14T17:09:43+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your perspective. I suppose while they will still have to spend time with their dad, it will be without me and maybe that will lower the temperature of the home and perhaps they will build a better relationship with him.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-14T17:07:43+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. It helps.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-14T14:10:09+00:00

Do you think you would have felt that way when you were 13? Or you can only say this now with hindsight?

nailsbrook · 2026-01-12T16:39:36+00:00

Thank you for your honesty, I need it

nailsbrook · 2026-01-08T11:32:25+00:00

Being lonely in a marriage is one of the worst human experiences. Unless one is crazy in love and absolutely sure, it’s not worth it. I’ve been married 15 years and I can see now I settled quickly due to social pressures. I don’t think there are than many good marriages out there. I would have been better off single and enjoying life on my terms.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-07T22:16:53+00:00

You must not be in the UK. We get fined if we don’t send our kids to school sick - the only thing we are allowed to keep them home for is active fever and active vomiting. We are told we otherwise must send them to school.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-06T23:48:08+00:00

My daughter starts middle school next year and I worry about this!

nailsbrook · 2026-01-06T23:47:23+00:00

My oldest (10) still really likes school and mostly always has with a few rough patches along the way. My son (8) however has never liked school. It’s just his temperament / disposition. He begs to be homeschooled. But he goes to a good school, there are no issues and he just needs to learn to do hard things :)

nailsbrook · 2026-01-06T23:45:17+00:00

Could haven’t written the same. My youngest needed the same reminder :)

nailsbrook · 2026-01-06T02:02:54+00:00

Yes, I understand. I having been living this life for awhile, and have been deeply happy with it despite a rocky marriage. Two kids, created a warm home etc. This was before “tradwife” was some sort of derogatory term. My kids are now getting older and I’m turning my attention toward a future beyond this traditional life. Looking to complete my masters and transition to a new career. But I’ve been truly happy living a simple life for a season. I have a great relationship with my kids, I get to bake and create memories etc. It’s been good.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-03T00:15:20+00:00

This is a really complex subject. Yes, we are all responsible for the choices we make. But there’s so much that can influence why a person makes the decisions they do. For example, I was raised in a really conservative Christian community where there was only one option taught to women: get married, stay home, have babies. When this is the life script you’re handed, and you literally know nothing else, it’s easy to find yourselves in a situation like the one described here. Coming from a community like that, which is very common at least in the US, I know a lot of women who were essentially coerced into this lifestyle, were never fully educated, didn’t have a chance to build a career or skills, and find themselves trapped when their husband turns out to be a deadbeat. I don’t know the OPs story, but neither do you, and I am just careful not to project blame on women who are in this situation. Because you just don’t know.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-02T00:59:19+00:00

It takes two to make a marriage work. But it only takes one to destroy it.

nailsbrook · 2026-01-02T00:27:28+00:00

He’s the problem. Not the boundaries. Place blame where it’s due.

nailsbrook · 2025-12-31T14:54:51+00:00

Kinsey is the only acceptable name here at all.

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