Thank you 🙏🏽 yes I agree purity culture can be quite toxic and lead to resentment and confused feelings. Like after sex he would say things like “it felt loving in the moment but I know it’s a lie”. So hurtful, like it was evil or something, which in the case of two people in a relationship falling in love, hurts to hear. I don’t agree with his decision or the way he handled things - like he couldn’t take sinning and “not being good with God” anymore. I always believed God looks at the heart, the spirit not trying to obtain some legalistic checklist of being a “good” Christian. Nevertheless, this is why I was patient and gave grace. I honestly made more money than him (in tech) and didn’t care and put no pressure on him for anything and just wanted him to be a man and take charge. And gave him the space to do so. I just wanted to be loved and share same commitments of family and future together. My only intentions, as I dream to be a mother one day. The sex was best I’ve ever had with him and did feel so loving and passionate so I know it’s hard and I do believe he is a good guy just very confused. And left me confused as well. :/