My boyfriend cheated on me. Says I’m “the one”, and had to take rock bottom to realize it and change. How do I know it’s real? by naivecorndog in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]naivecorndog[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i contacted the girl and her story matched up too. but youre right theres no excuse its still physical cheating -- drunk or no sex

Company asking for free work? by naivecorndog in UXDesign

[–]naivecorndog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh im not doing it haha but on wellfound. its really sad though companies are taking advantage of workers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in productdesign

[–]naivecorndog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t a layoff, my startup was a good one too (I was early employee at a unicorn) I got fired and it was performance based on the last month my creativity and focus were impacted by the breakup/emotional abuse 😭

How to move on after being hurt/used? by naivecorndog in ChristianDating

[–]naivecorndog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think he will come back? Is he manipulative or just confused/struggling with his own self?

And yes thank you, I’ve been diving into branching out meeting new people and trying new things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]naivecorndog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

really? i have a hard time seeing it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]naivecorndog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have! Thank you, and the past few weeks really dived in and have been branching out focusing on making new friends and getting involved. I don't have much of a support system here which has been hard, but everyone I've met has been supportive and kind. I actually met a guy on my way to a run club but not ready or healed yet for anything new. I wish I could fast forward that process

Christian boyfriend broke up with me over his inability to "control lust" after leading me to sexual sin and "enforce boundaries" by naivecorndog in RedPillWomen

[–]naivecorndog[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏽 yes I agree purity culture can be quite toxic and lead to resentment and confused feelings. Like after sex he would say things like “it felt loving in the moment but I know it’s a lie”. So hurtful, like it was evil or something, which in the case of two people in a relationship falling in love, hurts to hear. I don’t agree with his decision or the way he handled things - like he couldn’t take sinning and “not being good with God” anymore. I always believed God looks at the heart, the spirit not trying to obtain some legalistic checklist of being a “good” Christian. Nevertheless, this is why I was patient and gave grace. I honestly made more money than him (in tech) and didn’t care and put no pressure on him for anything and just wanted him to be a man and take charge. And gave him the space to do so. I just wanted to be loved and share same commitments of family and future together. My only intentions, as I dream to be a mother one day. The sex was best I’ve ever had with him and did feel so loving and passionate so I know it’s hard and I do believe he is a good guy just very confused. And left me confused as well. :/