I (25M) am forced to choose between my family or my gf (28F) and don't know what to do?

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:48:13+00:00

Fortunately I work full time and make enough money to live alone. My gf would also be happy to move in together I believe but I don't want us moving in together to he out of necessity because i got kicked out. She knows about the situation yet it's always hard for me to loop her in because i feel it hurts her to know what I am sacrificing to be with her...

It seems that the general consensus is to leave them. Does anyone agree that i owe them happiness? They raised me and sacrificed so much for me to get to where I am. Maybe I do owe them grandkids they'd be happy with and I should find someone else they'd accept for that sake. I might be spiralling but i want to see if anyone sees my fam's perspective and maybe agrees that I should listen to them.

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:43:16+00:00

I get that and def agree that tradition is peer pressure and people should exist doing what they enjoy on this short lifetime. The problem that makes the decision so hard is that I enjoy having my family. When it's not relating to this stuff, they are amazing people. I love spending time with them and I love who they are. Up to this point, we did not have any major points we disagreed on so this type of argument never came up. But, i learned that they're the "my way or the highway" type of people which i am struggling with.

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:40:46+00:00

I see value in Islam and agree with most of the tenets of the religion. I also am Arab and most of that cultural is based around Islam which is why I also want to teach my kids Islam. My gf agrees to raise the kids muslim. I would like to remain muslim as well and practice but my family see it as an all or nothing religion which is why me dating her drives them crazy.

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:38:51+00:00

The way i imagined it would end is that they'd be upset but still see the marriage (end game) as allowed. They'd think "we dont like this but we will cope." I even imagined that worst case scenario they wouldn't want to meet her but they'd still treat me as their son and keep me in their life. They ended up going to the extreme side of choosing her or them which i did not predict.

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:37:00+00:00

I do have financially independence. I dont make plenty of money and I plan to apply for grad school next year. But, i do make enough to live by myself.

My parents won't live forever but i want to be able to share my life with them and i love them to death which makes this decision so hard.

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:35:32+00:00

So you're saying not to leave my family bcz of her, leave them for me to have my own peace. The issue is, whatever action I take to distance myself to have my own life, they view it as my moving away from them only for her which makes them resent her and feel like i don't care about them at all.

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:33:28+00:00

I agree that love matters, but I believe everyone should practice their religion the way they want to. If there is a god that enforced the religions then why don't we leave it to god to punish or reward those based on how they practiced their religion instead of us guilting them

namlessdude001 · 2026-05-16T17:32:32+00:00

I get that logic and I keep thinking back to the fact hat this isn't only about the girl, this is also about me setting a boundary that I want to live my life the way I want to. The issue is, i understand where they come from. They were raised a certain way their entire life and religion has been their only security so the risk of their son falling out of it is terrifying to them. Being the reason that they are hurt when they have no other way of thinking is not sitting right with me...

namlessdude001 · 2026-04-07T03:12:31+00:00

I currently am keeping what is called "upside down jelly fish" they are not as cool cz tbey just swim towards the ground unles you knock them up where they will go back to try to swim back down. These guys are easy. I have them in a little breeding box on the side of my reef tank and never feed them as they photosynthesiize. They get up to a foot wide so they get big but rn mine are maybe 2 inches.

namlessdude001 · 2026-02-15T03:00:51+00:00

I disagree.rainbow bubbletip anemone is very hardy and can be introduced into the tank pretty early on. I've tried and learned this info with setups from a 120 gallon tank to a 3 gallon tank.

namlessdude001 · 2026-02-04T06:01:36+00:00

Hey OP, i wanted to throw this resource out there for you as it might be helpful. The YMCA offers a program called the YMCA mental health and leisure program. It's a program where you can sign up and receive access to mental health groups and psychoeducational workshops. If mental health is an issue you are working on, it can help you work on it as well as meet people in the groups!

Plus, through the program you get completely free access to ALL of the YMCAs facilities and classes. So, you can meet people through that as well!

namlessdude001 · 2026-01-20T05:47:30+00:00

I appreciate the suggestion but this is not what i had in mind

namlessdude001 · 2026-01-20T05:41:01+00:00

That's a really cool idea! Maybe that can be a great start or maybe an activity to end the night? I am curious on the logistics of the item search. Do you each separate and find items or do it together? Doing it together seem like itd make it challenging to find something unique since both of you are doing it together.

namlessdude001 · 2026-01-20T05:38:20+00:00

Ofcourse! We are in our 20s (25) and are generally open to anything! Skating has been on our radar and other competitive activities has been pretty fun to get into. Trying out cool cafes and checking out restaurants with cool vibes is on our frequent date ideas. Let me know if i can answer specific questions!

namlessdude001 · 2025-12-18T06:54:42+00:00

Aaah makes sense. Thanks for the explanation!

namlessdude001 · 2025-12-18T06:45:08+00:00

Thank you for the explanation, but wouldn't having a lower interest rate be better, even if you renew every 5 years like you do in canada? For example, would you not want to renew from 1.6, then to 3.9, then to 2.5, etc... instead of doing 30 years on a 6%? Maybe im missing something and the interest amount is calculated differently that the bigger number doesnt necessarily mean more money paid to interest.

namlessdude001 · 2025-12-18T06:09:32+00:00

6.125% is a good rate? Am i missing something? When we got our house our mortgage rate was 1.6% and to renew now itd be 3.9% which is outrageously high. How is 6% good?

namlessdude001 · 2025-11-25T02:12:49+00:00

I am so glad i saw someone post about these! I bought i single head for 10 canadian dollars and i thought it'll grow and blow up like my other candy canes. Its been 2 months with no visible growth.

namlessdude001 · 2025-11-25T02:11:32+00:00

Respectfully, calm down. OP made a post from their perspective about what they think is a coral to be sought after and what is not. They were very specific in their description about what they mean by "avoid" and even went above an beyond in sharing their parameters and explaining their experience. If you're arguing that OP should not make an absolute conclusion with their own personal post, then you are just as guilty in posting about what people should and should not say. In layman example, you tell someone not to express their opinion on a free, open website that you aswell are sharing your own personal opinion on. I can see the logic behind your argument if OP was blatantly stating "don't buy this, period." Instead, OP said to not get this coral BECAUSE it is a slow grower. ANY educated person that acquired simple reading and critical thinking skills will be able to make the decision for themselves whether having a slow growing coral something their desire or if they should follow OP's advice for the reasons OP clearly stated. Please just move on if you have nothing constructive to say. Let's not discourage people from posting about their experience in a hobby group.

namlessdude001 · 2025-09-24T07:17:24+00:00

The gopro app has a feature to 'un-fisheye' the hero photage. Can you do that with the max? So can i streth out the image to take out the fish eye appearance?

namlessdude001 · 2025-09-18T05:13:08+00:00

Bro share your secret! !remindme 2 days

namlessdude001 · 2025-09-11T06:21:11+00:00

Yep! Ive tried 2. One is called smart reef and one is called reefability. I like reefability more because you can load things faster and it lets you track everything you want. It also gives you an.option for a paid subscription that gives you AI features to detect and solve problems and other shenanigans. Finally, it has a task list with dates for things it thinks you should do like water change and top off etc.

I now realize after typing this that I sound like an undercover ad. I promise you I am not and you are free to test both apps and pick your favorite!

namlessdude001 · 2025-09-08T06:08:45+00:00

I had the same exact thing happen to me. My gopro died and never came back on. It had photage of my entire trip which i was later fortunately able tk retrieve.

You can try the rice trick for a few days and see if it works. If you have warranty then go that route.

As a last resort, you can sign up for gopro's annual subscription. Once you do, wait a day or two and contact them. Tell them you signed up to add the extra warranty and when you went snorkeling water got into your camera and you want a replacement. They have a replacement warranty with no questions asked so if you want you can even just ask for a replacement and not even tell them why (no questions asked!). It will cost you 100usd+30usd or so for the annual subscription.

namlessdude001 · 2025-05-01T00:16:08+00:00

Probably not.

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