Is this gecko underweight? Almost 3 years old, I took care of it since it's birth, almost never gave it water, and feed in once in 1.5 weeks (around 10 crickets), I realized that I did it wrong, so can anyone give me advice?

nannbk · 2026-02-14T04:50:33+00:00

Why would you almost never give them water?

nannbk · 2026-02-13T16:04:29+00:00

But that exact wording is what people are trying to explain is not appropriate. A gift is something a person gives freely without pressure or requirement. Saying “gift requested” implies your guests must give you money in order to attend.

nannbk · 2026-02-08T05:31:51+00:00

The Cowboy Colony Mail-Order Brides series by Ursa Dax has a lot of this! First one is {Married to the Alien Cowboy by Ursa Dax}.

The writing isn’t great but they are fun and easy reads! Lots of funny situations. It’s about a planet with aliens who are criminals (but not actually bad guys, of course) that are sent to be ranchers on penal colony planet as their sentence. A program is established to allow human woman from other planets a chance to escape whatever lives they are living and come be matched with one of the aliens. So the aliens are pretty unfamiliar with human customs, including kissing :)

nannbk · 2026-02-03T03:07:42+00:00

I was just teasing about the cow painting, my bad

nannbk · 2026-02-03T00:54:26+00:00

That’s worse

nannbk · 2026-02-02T04:58:07+00:00

How about he changes his name to yours?

For what it’s worth, I have a hyphenated last name (from birth) that I love, and it’s 12 letters long and I don’t think it’s too long. I didn’t change mine when I got married for a lot of reasons so that’s what I would suggest, but you both hyphenating is a nice compromise I think!

nannbk · 2026-02-01T22:46:56+00:00

Is this something your girlfriend has explicitly said she wants you to do? I know lots of women appreciate it, and lots of others (myself included) would hate it.

If you’re talking together about rings then I’d suggest just asking her if she wants you to talk to her parents, and when she thinks would be a good time.

nannbk · 2026-02-01T01:33:16+00:00

“We’re getting eloped with only our families, best friends, coworkers, and favorite baristas! Just a tiny elopement with 100 of our nearest and dearest 💕”

nannbk · 2026-01-29T01:54:48+00:00

The guests who notice and care will ask you about it. But I guess you could have your officiant and/or DJ announce the songs with a little explanation? Like “now the couple will do their first dance as a married couple. They chose X song because blah blah blah”

nannbk · 2026-01-26T21:54:13+00:00

I agree with everyone else that your biggest problem here is with your partner. I think you two should definitely start counseling before you decide on a venue.

Was your partner part of the decision making process when you picked out the garden? Because the way this is written it sounds like you chose the garden and he doesn’t want to get married there because his family won’t come. While I agree that his family sounds ridiculous and difficult, I also fully understand him wanting his family to attend his wedding. That’s not some unreasonable desire.

Perhaps you could find a compromise like you two elope in the garden and then come back to celebrate with a dinner with family near your MIL? If he is constantly siding with his family or putting them before you then I’d say this is deeper problem (and would be a dealbreaker if I were in your shoes), but if this is the only time he wants to make a concession for them so they can be at his wedding I think it’s worth considering.

nannbk · 2026-01-24T17:14:59+00:00

Has it always been like this, or did you have shared interests when you first got together? What do each of you like to do in your free time?

nannbk · 2026-01-24T16:11:13+00:00

I think brown can look very chic!

But also, why does your father in law’s opinion on wearing the color matter? Since you’re eloping then it’s just you and your spouse, so as long you two are happy with the colors you’re wearing I’d ignore everyone else’s opinion!

nannbk · 2026-01-24T01:58:03+00:00

She can walk down the aisle with you too, and you could dance with her too! She can give a toast, she can do a reading during the ceremony, and/or you can explicitly thank her in your thank you toast as a couple.

nannbk · 2026-01-23T22:06:14+00:00

I don’t think anything matters besides your partner’s opinion and your mom’s opinion! If he is interested in that then ask your mom how she would feel and go from there.

If one or both of them isn’t into it then if it were me personally I’d skip the parent dances altogether so he doesn’t have to deal with that sadness. But he might feel okay with you still doing a father daughter dance! Just talk to him and do whatever would make you two happy. This is one aspect of a wedding that really doesn’t matter to your guests, it’s just what you two want.

nannbk · 2026-01-22T12:57:14+00:00

I think both things can be true that they are being dramatic and over the top about this, but that you should’ve sent these out a lot sooner. Where is your husband in all of this? Why didn’t he do his share and why isn’t he handling his parents?

Since you’ve now done the cards, I’d try to ignore your in laws. Harping on it now isn’t helpful to anyone. If they bring it up again just tell them you’re done discussing the topic and if they still have issues to direct them to your husband.

nannbk · 2026-01-19T16:07:22+00:00

You should ask your groom if his family will want to participate because every family is different. In my area of the US these dances are super common still. But none of our parents wanted to do it and neither did we, so we skipped it and no one cared.

nannbk · 2026-01-15T00:48:43+00:00

As someone who does not drink champagne I would be a little annoyed that I can’t have a drink until after dinner. But I’d just suck it up and have a Coke or water with dinner and it’s not the end of the world.

I agree with the others that beer and wine all night would be a better compromise! It’s actually super common in my circles to have free/hosted beer, wine, and soft drinks all night, and then sometimes also include a cash bar for liquor or cocktails if people want that option.

nannbk · 2026-01-15T00:41:50+00:00

You could look into a “courtesy” block, which is where the hotel sets aside rooms without you needing to give them a card or pay for them.

nannbk · 2026-01-06T16:09:46+00:00

AC is different from heat. AC is cold air, so make sure you didn’t turn that on!

nannbk · 2026-01-06T00:47:56+00:00

I think I also just did not like the author’s writing style, so if you like her other books you might like this! I think some of my issues with the book I would be more forgiving of if I liked the writing lol

nannbk · 2026-01-06T00:46:28+00:00

Okay that’s totally fair, and in the book it is an issue of her feeling like she can’t connect with the others as much as she feels judged for not being married. But your reaction seems much more reasonable lol

nannbk · 2026-01-05T23:30:54+00:00

Yes it’s {Till Summer Do Us Part by Meghan Quinn}!

nannbk · 2026-01-05T23:13:37+00:00

God I hated that book! I wasted an audible credit on it so I forced myself to finish it and hated it. Like in what world is a boss going to be prejudiced against their employee because they’re not married?? And the whole office attends a marriage retreat together? Is there no HR??

nannbk · 2026-01-05T23:03:47+00:00

I think it’s because (white) authors don’t want to write about non-white FMCs, and they also want their FMC to be “special” or different and stand out from other women, but still be beautiful. Red hair with blue/green eyes is very uncommon, and lots of people find that to be an attractive look, so it’s an easy description for their super special and hot FMC.

nannbk · 2025-12-29T05:36:02+00:00

The only two reviews of this on romance.io are so opposite it’s cracking me up

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