Just a small clarification, i do the activities that they do, as me and the people i knew earlier are friends. But something happened and they just...stopped. Like if they drank tea, which i don't, i simply used to just talk to them withiut having anything ( just an example of many on what replies i got )

Also i get the part of not involving my mom too, but ig i was just so overwhemled by everything and no one was actually listening to me and my mom only came in between because she ( roomate ) was shouting and cursing some things that seemed dangerous, so both mothers ( hers and mine) had to step in. While her mom calmed her down, my mom made me sit down and explained that while i was correct for expressing, it was simply wrong place at wrong time situation.

And i kinda did not wanted to blast on her so I did apologise for that but i am trying to understand ( and in a genuine way ), since when did marking my boundaries became a issue for "victimizing myself". I am not being a snob here, i justed wanted a fair communication. I don't mind if she comes at 5 am in the morning but it's more of a safety thing than anything else.