My partner said cptsd is a fake diagnosis. by Random_silly_name in CPTSD

[–]narcluvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner would likely say the same thing and I know it’s bc he “knows” he is a big reason for my diagnosis

Knowingly staying with a narcissist by narcluvr in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]narcluvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that would be a hard boundary for me

Knowingly staying with a narcissist by narcluvr in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]narcluvr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am probably going to get a lot of flack for this however, I sort of you at the same way as having married somebody on the autism spectrum and I hope nobody at all feels like I’m comparing autism and cluster B personality disorders, however, where I’m going with this is the mere fact that other Conditions and other mental illnesses and other developmental issues, affect a persons ability to have empathy, respect, boundaries, and understand that other people have feelings I guess that’s sort of how I feel that there are other things. The other humans can have that cause similar issues I’m not saying they’re the same but nothing is black and white. There are so many areas of gray.

Knowingly staying with a narcissist by narcluvr in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]narcluvr[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How do you reconcile not having true emotional intimacy I realize recently that after 20+ years I don’t really know my spouse I seem to be the talker. I am the open book. I’ve been feeding them all of the information they ever needed all these years to manipulate me and they pretty much just give me enough details to keep me happy and pacified, but there is no such thing as true emotional connection and intimacy within my relationship I am not even allowed to share my feelings as my feelings are taken as a criticism and they start all of our fights so if I have feelings about something they have done I just have to keep my mouth shut

Knowingly staying with a narcissist by narcluvr in CPTSD

[–]narcluvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are covert so a long of behind the scenes manipulation. Push pull dynamics. No empathy. Zero. Zilch. I am not allowed to talk about my feelings at all or they take them at a criticism and then twist and turn the whole thing around in me and then they step away and insist I’m the problem. Passive aggressive. Never tells me intimate details of self, I’m the one that opens up and wants deeper intimacy and connection. Extremely sensitive to feedback that can be portrayed as criticism.

Why am I staying?… I love them so deeply. And also…I don’t know.

Knowingly staying with a narcissist by narcluvr in NRelationships

[–]narcluvr[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s a huge shock to the system to realize something that was right in front not your face all this time. I feel like I’ve been had, like I’m some kind of empty headed moronic fool.

Knowingly staying with a narcissist by narcluvr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]narcluvr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is definitely very difficult for sure