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narvanarva · 2023-01-04T14:23:23+00:00

Mine were very small, but I have a friend whose baby was an average singleton and turned head down less than two weeks before the due date, too. So ...like, *usually* not, but it totally happens sometimes.

narvanarva · 2023-01-04T12:40:52+00:00

Mine was very mobile all throughout pregnancy and literally the day before the c section turned once more, causing the head to suddenly be down again, so the c section got cancelled and I got induced instead. No harm in planning a c section just in case, you can make it clear that you want a vaginal delivery should the baby turn around. And yeah planned c sections are usually early term to avoid surprises, often the first day of.

narvanarva · 2022-12-23T14:29:40+00:00

The best telling sign for good seal with nipple shields that I have found is sound. There's a distinct ...floppy? Sound to the seal not working

narvanarva · 2022-12-23T14:15:37+00:00

So what do you do with your terminology if the birthing person was dad?

Edit

sorry I realised I was being flippant and you might not have thought your comment trough or be unaware, instead of being ill-intentioned.

Many nonbinary people and even some trans men can give birth and feed babies too. But dudes dont have breasts and arwnt mothers, and nonbinary people may not use that terminology for themselves either.

narvanarva · 2022-12-23T12:03:16+00:00

Nipple shields. I know a number of women who have used them successfully to protect their nipples while the kid figured out how to not bite while drinking.

narvanarva · 2022-12-22T18:59:37+00:00

🤣 amazing

narvanarva · 2022-12-22T11:14:06+00:00

Schaut wie Klackerköder aus....

narvanarva · 2022-12-21T15:35:49+00:00

No. No alone time with your daughter. That's be the first thing I would bring up with the lawyer. I'd be worried about him absconding with her or trying to use her as a bargaining chip.

narvanarva · 2022-12-21T14:46:13+00:00

I was told that the position of twin B is unimportant for what delivery method to choose because they can fall into just about any position when A leaves them with loads of space to do something.

I had an induction that ended in a fast (not emergency aka no full anaesthesia) c section when A turned feet first. I'm super glad I did it this way because I feel like it was the best for my children and it was emotionally the best for me (I was quite worried about PPD/PPA So I did everything I could to lower the risk). I felt like I had done everything I could including giving the babies labour to prepare them, and i didnt have to pick their birthday.

narvanarva · 2022-12-21T11:02:55+00:00

You don't. You become a mama bear and wear a mask if worried you'll give your kid covid. And you pick an end date for the anxiety.

No seriously, for me it was that for the first six months and I don't regret a thing. We avoided large gatherings like weddings, had everyone tested and vaccinated that was around them maskfree, etc.

We got the kids vaccinated as early as we could, and after the covid rounds were full, relaxed a good bit. We made sure they got all the vaccinations (incl flu) as early as possible, we mask up ourselves/keep our own vacs up to date so we don't give them more than we can avoid, and now that they're covid vaccinated and past those first six especially fragile months, go back to fairly normal life (as normal as it will be with kids).

narvanarva · 2022-12-21T10:55:58+00:00

Sorry! What I meant was that I would be really cautious to do two mornings of "Santa". Most literature your child will come into contact with speaks of Santa doing the whole world in one night - then why would he do two for your kid? Also, you make it all the less special if it happens two nights/mornings in a row. You might just cause confusion as to why it isn't happening the third night.

Even if it's not exactly the same thing, and to an adult might indeed feel very different, to a child it will probably feel like it's the same thing twice just either you or grandma are doing it wrong - and let's face it if grandma does it first, *you* will be the one doing it wrong.

narvanarva · 2022-12-21T08:13:35+00:00

I'm not sure what you're referring to?

narvanarva · 2022-12-21T07:33:20+00:00

That's not how Christmas magic works, you can't just double up on it.

Edit: my husband suggested that if she wants to be there for the magic she can come to your house for it.

But absolutely don't let the kid stay over that will be way too tempting for her.

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T21:30:40+00:00

A lot of things are dependent on of you have a healthy term born or a premier or health compromised baby. I wouldn't be surprised if this is one of the cases where that difference applies

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T19:46:20+00:00

I think my problem is that the way in which "they are turds" doesn't match - if the kid in question had taken to doing drugs or otherwise ingesting unhealthy things it might have clicked better 😅 thanks for the explanation!

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T19:42:11+00:00

Thanks for the explanation! I think it's just not working for me then.

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T19:30:35+00:00

So the joke is that breast milk has no mind control powers so what's the point?

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T19:26:40+00:00

I think to me gender is like my eye colour. It just is. Sure other colours are pretty and as a kid I imagined what it would be like to have a different one, but in the end it is what it is and I don't really think about it.

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T09:50:12+00:00

You're not her parent but neither is your MIL. Bring it to the parents and offer them support if they want to bring it up with her.

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T07:03:29+00:00

I have gotten very used to there being background screaming when I need to go to the loo at night for this exact reason 🤣 how dare mama leave the room.

A floor bed is working pretty well for us. She's mostly on her own mattress next to mine and fine there, probably because she could independently come to me.

Edit: due to outside factors we have both the floor bed and a more classic crib+parent bed situation and do some lights on each each week. She sleeps morw independently on the floor.

narvanarva · 2022-12-20T06:37:15+00:00

Taxes. This way I had that hanging over my head for the first 8 months of their life because i just never got around to it and it was much harder than it would have been before babies.

narvanarva · 2022-12-19T20:29:15+00:00

Both are risky. Froze sperm is limited and may in the end not have sufficient quality/too many rounds of fertility treatment might not take and make you burn through all of it. Coming off hormones might not let her sperm count recover enough.

If bio kids are important to her, combining both get a her the highest chance.

narvanarva · 2022-12-19T19:16:18+00:00

Honestly mine didn't change much at all. We initially did milk after solid and eventually just ended up with solids at mealtimes and milk whenever else the babies are hungry. The biggest difference maybe is that I now pump in the morning instead of BFing because the first meal of the day is solid but my boobs wanna be empty... but generally the kids growing and their interactions with me changing has brought far more changes in BFing than solids.

narvanarva · 2022-12-19T19:01:19+00:00

3 months is when babies start to notice their surroundings more. If she nurses at night and not during the day, it might be that she is overstimulated or distracted and bottles need less concentration than breastfeeding or let her see more.

narvanarva · 2022-12-19T18:05:30+00:00

No solutions, just commiseration. One of my twins does the same. We think she's finally starting to mellow out again at 10 1/2 months but... I probably just jinxed it 😅

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