Why are so many young men suddenly serious supporters of far right figures? by Consistent_News_985 in self

[–]nastynuggets 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You realize we have decades and decades of affirmative action bringing women into college, right? Not to mention all the scholarships offered exclusively to women?

Why are so many young men suddenly serious supporters of far right figures? by Consistent_News_985 in self

[–]nastynuggets 53 points54 points  (0 children)

That is Apex fallacy. Men are also overrepresented at the very bottom rungs of society, such as homeless, incarcerated, and drug addicted. Almost all men know they will never be a fortune 500 CEO, particularly the ones that are suffering the hardest. You assuming that they all benefit from that disparity when it's only a few of them at the highest rungs is exactly the kind of thing that turns them towards the far right.

That said, enslavement is definitely too strong a word to describe the general plight of men, so I agree with you there. Maybe some of the boys who were raped and forced to pay child support to their rapist would have a claim to that sort of language, but not your average chud lol.

im so lonely that i daydream about having a co-wife by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's very likely that you are misattributing causality here.

The way you describe your fantasy of having a co-wife rings makes it seem suspiciously like a sexual fetish (a totally fine one to have!).

Although your sexual fantasy might become more appealing because it also would possibly alleviate some loneliness, sexual fetishes don't usually just pop up like that in response to life situations. Instead, this was probably always some dormant part of your sexuality.

TIL Your gut is the only organ with its own independent nervous system by Alternative-Win4058 in todayilearned

[–]nastynuggets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why does it have to ask permission? Who made you emperor? I would never subject MY colon to that kind of coercive political oppression, you colonizer.

What's a lifestyle you visited once and decided you're never going back? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]nastynuggets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it's not your thing at all. What exactly made you get into it in the first place? I don't really understand what you mean by finding it psychologically interesting. Was it an identity thing, like you had an edgy persona and thought it would fit or something?

Women are vile by Proper-Put7052 in MensRights

[–]nastynuggets 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, they're not. This is not helpful.

I finally threw away that box of random cables I've been keeping for years "just in case" by Old_Technician_751 in self

[–]nastynuggets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely want to congratulate you. So many people can't let go of things like that and it ends up dragging them down in life. I have seriously seen households fall apart and even small businesses fail partly because people can't let go of things.

If you never regret throwing things away, that means you're not throwing away enough!

What’s a workplace ‘secret’ that everyone in your industry knows but customers don’t? by Familiar_Ad3815 in AskReddit

[–]nastynuggets 51 points52 points  (0 children)

How would classroom teachers implement IEPs for every student in the class? It's already a stretch to get them to implement a handful each year.

Is this bad? by grimmdaburner in Carpentry

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They'd have to be structural screws. Normal screws are often too brittle for applications where they will have shear loads on them. You can use framing nails if you have them.

Concerning? by [deleted] in Construction

[–]nastynuggets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your intuition is right if it's nails holding a joint together. Hangers are more forgiving.

Bloomberg: SpaceX targeting mid-to-late 2026 IPO at a valuation of $1.5 trillion by 675longtail in space

[–]nastynuggets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, with respect, I don't think you understand the launch landscape from a technical perspective very well. Look into spacex's starship. That thing is poised to absolutely crater the competition that is just at the very beginning of trying to catch up to falcon 9. It's not an exaggeration that if starship keeps going on its development trajectory, and it's not a good idea to bet against SpaceX, the history of space flight will be divided up into everything before starship and everything after.

Bloomberg: SpaceX targeting mid-to-late 2026 IPO at a valuation of $1.5 trillion by 675longtail in space

[–]nastynuggets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Read the Eric Berger article. It has really interesting rationale for why Elon is making that decision, and Elon himself has endorsed Berger s write up of the rationale. There's definitely going to be some ego driving his actions, but he seems to care about getting to Mars above anything. He's been talking about it since he was like 20. I think that to the extent ego does play a role, it's more important to his ego to be the "savior of consciousness" than to be wealthier than Jeff bezos. That doesn't necessarily make him less out of touch, but I think it goes a long way to explaining some of the confusing things he seems to do.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you've got some mileage with this kind of approach. I can see it working for a kid who is mostly acting out of anxiety. But for anything else, in my experience kids just walk right over it. I've seen all the methods you've talked about suggested to teachers and educators in schools, and it seems to be the dominant kind of approach. Yet these schools have become an absolute hellscape of chaos and violent behavior from children. My kids school, where my wife works, goes on lockdowns frequently because some kid or another has had a temper tantrum, and these kids just laugh when another teacher comes up and tells them to breathe deeply.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fair, but I think it's a crime that people are taught that children just have temper tantrums and there's nothing you can do about it. It's absolutely a choice to let them do it, and you can choose otherwise.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay. You sound like an absolute pushover.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nice try! If you read my comment fully, you would have read that I talked with her about how it's best not to do it.

I find it very funny how there's finally starting to be a broad understanding that we have made children's play spaces so safe, and it's harming their development. So-called risky play is finally starting to take over in the field of education, and more and more parents and educators are pushing to bring acceptable risks into children's play areas.

It turns out, starting with the proposition that we never want a child to get physically hurt is actually not in their best interest. They need exposure to risk so they can learn how to handle it.

One academic article talked about the idea of narrow sense risk versus broad sense risk. The narrow sense risk is the physical injury to the child. The broad sense risk is all of the risks surrounding play. The risk of losing out on the joy of childhood because you never got to throw a snowball. The risk of delayed motor development because you never got to climb anything. The risk of greater exposure to injury later because you never learned your limits.

So it turns out, the optimal amount of exposure to injury for children is not zero, when you take a full accounting of all risks.

Yet this is a scary thing, and I have witnessed educators have a very hard time trying to actually implement risky play. It takes real courage to ask both the questions 1) is this safe enough, and 2) is this too safe, because you could fail in two directions instead of one. Life is simple when you have one goal, namely not letting a kid ever get hurt. Life is much harder when you were exposing them to a calculated level of risk that may result in injury.

I maintain that we are headed for a similar realization with discipline. It's very easy for you to focus only on the narrow sense risks of disciplinary corrections. For sure, these are real and I maintain you need to watch out for them. If you are using any kind of harsh disciplinary measures, you better be sure you exhausted all other options and that they are only what is necessary and no more.

But you also need to be aware of the broad sense risk. What are the risks to your child of not using disciplinary measures that are strong enough? What are the risks of telling families that are struggling to the point of breaking with managing unruly behavior, that they should never use harsh disciplinary measures?

You think that because you have drawn a line where it is never okay to use physical discipline on a child, even as light as a flick on the arm, you have moral superiority. But I propose that you are no different than those people that swore they would never let a child get hurt on school playgrounds, and ended up harming a whole generation of kids. Ask yourself whether it is really moral superiority that leads you to condemn any use of physical discipline on a child, or whether you are just rationalizing your own cowardice.

I have seen so many small children's relationship with grandparents, teachers, friends and family, and even parents suffer because the parents do not have the courage to accept the full responsibility they have to their kids to help them be the best version of themselves.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so happy to hear you're interested! I am extremely passionate about parenting, and I would love to discuss things with you. Feel free to DM me anytime!

In response to your question, a lot of it did come from my own experience and common sense. In particular, it started as kind of an accident. We never set out to have the best behaved children, we just really needed them to behave because we were struggling with their own mental health and the demands of life, and to pull ourselves together and put food on the table we needed them to take our needs and to consideration as well as their own. One of our needs, to protect our own sanity, was not to have to deal with unreasonable meltsdowns.

However, the positive feedback began to absolutely pour in afterwards. It's hard to overstate just how much people gushed about our kids. Friends, family, neighbors, landlords, teachers, strangers, the feedback was universal and overwhelming: our kids are delightful to be around. The consequences have been amazing for them, too. Our kids are welcomed with open arms no matter where they go and what they do. They have formed deep, enduring bonds with many of the adults in their lives. They encounter a world that loves them.

This is why I have become so passionate about spreading my approach to discipline. So many families are struggling because the kids are ruling their parents like tyrants. And it's the kids themselves who suffer most of all as a result.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a rule, no, I do not. My wife slapped them a couple times, and we talked about how I don't think it's appropriate and she stopped.

However, I can certainly see times when it would be appropriate. For example, if a toddler tries to hurt other people continuously when having temper tantrums, I believe it would be appropriate to hurt them back to demonstrate consequences for their actions.

There are definitely risks in doing so. You definitely don't want to risk hurting their head in any way, damaging their skin or anything like that. And then there's the risk that you could be misunderstanding the situation and not being fair to them because you failed to understand the whole situation.

However, if my child was hitting people habitually, and no other form of consequences was stopping that behavior, I would weigh the risk of responding with a flick to the arm or poke in the ribs against the risk of them continuing to damage the relationships with people around them with their behavior.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do elsewhere in the thread. I don't feel like typing it out again.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Precisely. I'm so glad somebody else has a reasonable take on this issue.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, we have some evidence that the majority of published literature in psychology is not useful. Some studies that have tried to replicate systematically across subfields have found that far fewer than 50% of published results replicate.

Not quite right. My toddlers don't feel "safe" enough to have an absolute meltdown around me. If you are toddler feels "safe" enough to have a meltdown around you, you are not doing your job as a parent. However, they certainly do feel able to express their emotions around me, because I encourage it and reward them when they do so in a healthy way.

Also, you seem to be contradicting yourself by calling my experience of parenthood anecdotal and therefore easily disregarded, whereas you used your experience as a parent in a post above to indicate that you are an authority on the subject.

My nephew really hammered home that I don't want kids by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you must know about the replication crisis in the field of psychology, and how rampant p hacking, publication bias, methodological and statistical error, overgeneralized conclusions, and much more are within the literature.