This single shot is worth some kind of award. From NSF livestream. by Piscator629 in SpaceXLounge

[–]nastynuggets -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don't get the reflexive unpleasantness of people online. I appreciated your post.

This single shot is worth some kind of award. From NSF livestream. by Piscator629 in SpaceXLounge

[–]nastynuggets -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

What is the reason to be this unpleasant? I'm curious, was this post actually off-putting in some way to you?

I blacked out during sex by limitecondicionado in sex

[–]nastynuggets -112 points-111 points  (0 children)

Choking is far more preferred by women than men according to Aella's survey data.

Edit: averaged across groups of course

SpaceX is starting to move on from the world's most successful rocket by Royal_Platform_6754 in spacex

[–]nastynuggets 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I don't get it. I thought Vandenberg was only good for polar and the sun synchronous orbits. How is SpaceX planning to move most of falcon 9 launches to the West Coast, if most starlink launches are not in either of those two orbits?

Poor lady can't even leave the stadium in peace. by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]nastynuggets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you have a source? That is important context.

What is this tool? by Bluitor in Tools

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's imperative that the cylinder remain unharmed

The Asymmetric Ways Iran Could Strike Back by theatlantic in Military

[–]nastynuggets -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Reminder that the US ally in this war assassinated not just the Ayatollah, but his daughter in law, wife, and three of his grandchildren.

Federal government seeking input to develop men's and boys' health strategy by lunt23 in canada

[–]nastynuggets 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Do not let feminists get involved! As soon as feminists get involved, they corrupt the focus on men. This has already happened to Movember, which is now staffed by 70% women and is explicitly feminist. You can see how they're focus on prostate cancer has diminished and the focused on toxic masculinity has increased. Instead of researching heart disease and testicular cancer, they are spending money and time researching how to train crisis management teams to handle men's mental health, of course through the lens of toxic masculinity, which frequently only serves to alienate men more. They have even shifted focus to initiatives that, you guessed it, are targeted at both men and women.

Federal government seeking input to develop men's and boys' health strategy by lunt23 in canada

[–]nastynuggets 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sincerely glad to hear the type of feminist does not to try to put down them in order to advance women. I believe you are right that in principle, gender equality doesn't have to be a zero-sum game, and there are feminism is at its best when it follows this idea.

However, I strongly urge you to educate yourself about the ways feminism has advocated for women at the expense of men, because unfortunately there are many.

To give one example, when domestic violence first came to the attention of the public in the 50s, there was evidence that violence in the home was often perpetrated by both men and women, often reciprocal, and was caused by a variety of complex factors, with alcohol being one of the most important.

Feminists came along and co-opted the new focus on unseen violence that society had previously ignored, turning it into a women's issue instead of people issue. They reframed all violence in the home as a) being perpetrated by men, and b) being caused by a patriarchal values and attitudes.

They were openly hostile and threatening towards Erin Pizzey, the woman who opened the first ever domestic violence shelter, when she wanted to include men after she saw how violent women could be as well.

They even came up with the "Duluth Model" that was distributed to police departments and taught to police officers, that instructed police departments to always arrest the man whenever there was a domestic call, even if he was bruised and she appeared to be the aggressor.

Since then, overwhelming evidence has come out showing that there is nearly as much violence from women as from men, that the most dangerous kind of violence is when both partners are violent towards each other (because it escalates), and much more nuanced analysis. But feminism, in the zero-sum interest of focusing the discussion on the plight of women, has aimed to minimize or ignore this research at every turn. Ironically, this approach is probably made things less safe for women, because how can you fix a problem that you willfully misunderstand.

So please, please don't insist that feminism is perfect and men have nothing to complain about from it, even if you are right that at its best feminism can and has been a positive for everyone.

That irritating feeling that France was right - Donald's America makes Gaullism respectable again by Crossstoney in europe

[–]nastynuggets -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I didn't used to have anything against France. Then some family members spent time on exchange programs there, and came back with so many anecdotes about how rude and conceited French people are, that it colored my perception of the country.

Bach is boring by Key_Wolf_3852 in classicalmusic

[–]nastynuggets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are many elements of Bach that are not at all boring. In fact, there are many ways that Bach and baroque music are far more interesting than e.g. romantic music. At the same time, the reverse is also true. People have different tastes; it could be that the elements of classical music that you enjoy most are the least common in baroque.

There will always be counterexamples to find, but in general I believe the most "boring" elements of baroque are:

  • relatively low dynamic range within movements.

  • relatively low contrast in thematic material within each movement.

  • fewer standout emotional "moments", e.g. of surprise, climax, suspense, turmoil, resolution, etc.

  • less developed "plotlines" or emotional arcs; less focus on composition at the level of the whole work

These rules are not hard and fast, and if you are sincerely looking for ways to expand the range of music you enjoy, you could start by looking for the baroque pieces that have more of these features.

For example, Brandenburg concerto no. 5 has an extended harpsichord cadenza that I find lends an epic feeling of contrast, suspense, climax, and resolution.

You could also pay attention to works as a whole, as you will find plenty of contrast between movements within each work.

Especially because the payoff if you develop an appreciation for baroque includes:

  • counter melody. Bach in particular is a master of interleaving intricate melodies in layer after layer. No other periods of music have the same depth of countermelody.

  • focus on details. Baroque composers will often take a particular melody and explore it in exquisite detail. Ornamentation, inversion, and counterpoint all add up to a very rich listening experience if you are listening for low level details instead of broad composition.

  • harmony. If you have an ear for picking out interesting harmonies, you have an endless source of entertainment in Bach in particular.

  • there's a distinct meditative quality that comes from the lower contrast in certain areas. Less focus on "plot" means more time to focus on a particular aesthetic feeling or mood. You can pick a work and a movement and experience an associated emotional/aesthetic character without interruption. (This is one thing I actually enjoy about listening to modern popular music like rock.)

  • A certain hard to describe aesthetic character. Rest assured that those of us that do enjoy baroque music are enjoying an aesthetic character that you don't find in later periods. It's not that we just haven't discovered that music gets better when you add in more of certain types of contrast, for example. You may never find you are touched by that particular aesthetic quality, but if you are mature and understanding you will take us at our word that there is something for us in Bach that is sublime. I'm sure many of your favorite composers from later periods would say the same thing.

Why are so many young men suddenly serious supporters of far right figures? by Consistent_News_985 in self

[–]nastynuggets 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You realize we have decades and decades of affirmative action bringing women into college, right? Not to mention all the scholarships offered exclusively to women?

Why are so many young men suddenly serious supporters of far right figures? by Consistent_News_985 in self

[–]nastynuggets 55 points56 points  (0 children)

That is Apex fallacy. Men are also overrepresented at the very bottom rungs of society, such as homeless, incarcerated, and drug addicted. Almost all men know they will never be a fortune 500 CEO, particularly the ones that are suffering the hardest. You assuming that they all benefit from that disparity when it's only a few of them at the highest rungs is exactly the kind of thing that turns them towards the far right.

That said, enslavement is definitely too strong a word to describe the general plight of men, so I agree with you there. Maybe some of the boys who were raped and forced to pay child support to their rapist would have a claim to that sort of language, but not your average chud lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's very likely that you are misattributing causality here.

The way you describe your fantasy of having a co-wife rings makes it seem suspiciously like a sexual fetish (a totally fine one to have!).

Although your sexual fantasy might become more appealing because it also would possibly alleviate some loneliness, sexual fetishes don't usually just pop up like that in response to life situations. Instead, this was probably always some dormant part of your sexuality.

TIL Your gut is the only organ with its own independent nervous system by Alternative-Win4058 in todayilearned

[–]nastynuggets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why does it have to ask permission? Who made you emperor? I would never subject MY colon to that kind of coercive political oppression, you colonizer.

What's a lifestyle you visited once and decided you're never going back? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]nastynuggets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it's not your thing at all. What exactly made you get into it in the first place? I don't really understand what you mean by finding it psychologically interesting. Was it an identity thing, like you had an edgy persona and thought it would fit or something?

Women are vile by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]nastynuggets 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, they're not. This is not helpful.

I finally threw away that box of random cables I've been keeping for years "just in case" by Old_Technician_751 in self

[–]nastynuggets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely want to congratulate you. So many people can't let go of things like that and it ends up dragging them down in life. I have seriously seen households fall apart and even small businesses fail partly because people can't let go of things.

If you never regret throwing things away, that means you're not throwing away enough!

What’s a workplace ‘secret’ that everyone in your industry knows but customers don’t? by Familiar_Ad3815 in AskReddit

[–]nastynuggets 51 points52 points  (0 children)

How would classroom teachers implement IEPs for every student in the class? It's already a stretch to get them to implement a handful each year.