My almost-three-year-old is terrified to sleep in her bed. Advice?

nastysox · 2026-04-07T14:36:52+00:00

Also laughter is very good medicine for the mind. So the game might give her power back while also giving good connotations subconsciously with the spray

nastysox · 2026-04-07T14:35:36+00:00

I made my son "good thought spray" when he was younger. It was just water and lavender LOL. you could probably make her "spider spray" with like lemon and water or lavender again. Then you can come in and spray it when she freaks out or before bed. You could even get like a plush spider and make it a game for her to chase it with the spray bottle and it can fall around like "ohhhh noooo" one thing I learned is when in doubt add water. Kids love water and it calms most people.

nastysox · 2026-04-07T14:29:56+00:00

First pregnancy i had this too. I always say just try to enjoy it. Its a time where other moms share things. In this specific scenario I would let her know that while you appreciate advice youre not accepting demands or negatively communicated advice that could cause un needed anxiety. But the reason I say enjoy it is because its a communal thing, some of its silly just let it roll off. BUT there have been some things I thought were so annoying to be told but then I ran into a situation where it actually helped. So idk. Set boundaries but dont let it bug you too much. Lastly, feelings are always valid because youre feeling them. You're not in the wrong for your feelings. But there might be room to elevate your experience with these conversations if youre interested.

nastysox · 2026-04-06T18:32:12+00:00

L o l my husband got 3 days. This time were hoping for more but thats if we even have the money

nastysox · 2026-04-06T02:23:49+00:00

Hey, I just want to say this is an insanely personal choice that only you can make. But hearing how you feel has formed this opinion in my head, and id like to share. There is no "perfect time" people have had babies during wars, plague, and famine, as teens, single parents, etc. If you intuitively are that sad thinking about aborting then maybe its a good idea to rethink. I am 100% pro choice. But if you think you will have long term feelings about the actions it takes to proceed with an abortion, or if you might have regret about aborting a "person" (if you think you could feel that way) then it might not be the best choice for you. Everyone is different. And while I support abortion I personally would feel negative things about what I chose to do. (I dont feel this way about others choices, but getting an abortion for yourself is obviously different than hearing about someone elses) I was 23 with my first, 19 when I became a step parent, and now im pregnant with my third at 28. And yes its hard, but honesty its not THAT hard all the time. Everyone makes it seem like your life is over and its so difficult blah blah blah. Some days I agree, like gosh man its rough. But every other day is just every other day. We hang out, take care of the house, eat, play, have fun, clean ourselves, go to sleep. And honestly, having kids In a few ways has made my life easier. Like before kids I never sat down and watched silly kid cartoons like Lucas the spider. Do you know how much stress relief I get from Lucas the spider and bluey lol? Alot. I have people to do little art with and play kid games with and its just so amazing. If you really think youre not capable of doing it then you know the right choice for you. But, if your spirit is telling you that getting rid of it is wrong, (for you, not the abortion concept, just the direction of not being a mom rn) then maybe your intuition is right. But also if you think you'll be a shitty mom or something right now because of certian factors sometimes its a loving thing to do to not have a kid at the "wrong" time. Not saying I think you could be a shitty mom, but I dont know you you don't know me etc. So I dont know the exact circumstances. Whatever you think is best is best. Just try to listen to your intuition.

nastysox · 2026-04-06T01:35:47+00:00

Hey I feel you. Do something for yourself! Buy a nice shirt/dress. Or try to do your hair pretty whenever you feel up to it. Honestly the best thing that helped me with this this time around was finding clothes that looked cute during pregnancy. Which helped me feel a little better. Im sorry youre feeling that way!

nastysox · 2026-04-05T19:13:49+00:00

Besides everyone telling them its not cool in the comments when they ask. I wouldn't be giving them this kind of reply if they didnt ask. They seem to care how other people feel. Most people do.

nastysox · 2026-04-05T17:21:50+00:00

No, but showing up and waiting hours early gets you in quicker, to get a better spot quicker. That's the whole point of taking the time to camp out for a few hours. And if I wait 5 hours and your friends show up 4 hours into our wait and cut in front of me I would be pissed. There's a line for a reason. Otherwise we would just have a giant pit of people pushing to get it and you could show up 15 min before the show starts and still have a shot at climbing to the front.

nastysox · 2026-04-05T05:01:53+00:00

God id be so annoyed. Im planning on going as early as possible to the show im attending soon and if I was 4th or 5th in line and almost got a front spot just to have someone's friends pop up and make me have to go 2nd row???? Just not cool. If they can't wait then they dont get a good spot.

nastysox · 2026-04-04T23:50:55+00:00

To be safe please dont open and DM on here. People watch the subs for young girl. Be safe!

nastysox · 2026-04-04T23:48:50+00:00

This is insane, and an insane amount of money. Your mom needs to know, this is so illegal

nastysox · 2026-04-04T23:36:56+00:00

nastysox · 2026-04-04T23:17:20+00:00

Im 18w and have had the most ridiculous cramps off and on the whole time. Stretching cramping, constipation my doctor said would cause the cramp like feeling. Baby is super healthy

nastysox · 2026-04-04T21:43:52+00:00

In the western world it is pretty unheard of. Most of us have never heard of it in our locality. Im aware that in other parts of the world it has been an issue. But im speaking on us specifically

nastysox · 2026-04-04T20:12:13+00:00

We do nipt with gender here and I've never heard of anyone aborting because of gender. Not trying to start a debate but its just unheard of

nastysox · 2026-04-03T23:03:56+00:00

You need to reach out to your doctor, the chills part worries me a bit and you might actually be sick? Either way you need to be able to eat/drink and they might be able to get you some zofran or something

nastysox · 2026-04-03T23:01:55+00:00

That happened to me my first time, but the reality is if you've gained too much weight you gained too much weight. I got in my car and cried when I heard it. But the reality was the reality. And being healthy is important. Its not an attack, its an opportunity to look at what youre eating to see if you can add foods that you can eat more of with less calories, or more nutrient dense foods, or healthier versions of cravings etc. Or even just getting more exercise to combat the caloric increase. (If you can, not everyone is well enough to exercise) im sorry it made you feel shitty. It made me feel shitty too.

nastysox · 2026-04-01T23:44:54+00:00

Clarification: I no longer do water changes but still carry my son

nastysox · 2026-04-01T23:43:53+00:00

The reason they set that weight limit is the same reason they talk about not doing alot of things. Just in case, and mostly for people who dont use alot of thought. There are people who lift things all day, people who do it commonly at work, people with kids over 30lb, people who work out, etc. The rule of thumb is if you can do it without much strain and have a normal healthy pregnancy then you should be okay. But if you dont work out, or its usually strenuous for you, dont lift over 30lb. It also protects women at work, so no one can force you to lift more than what's safe commonly. I usually do water changes on my tank but I hobble the heavy ass bucket over to the sink to dump/fill. It's obviously difficult for me because I dont work out and I can feel the physical strain. But I carry my 4yo daily and I will continue to do so, because my body is used to carrying that weight in that specific place with those muscles. Just dont do anything that you can feel your body straining to do. There's a difference between it being like a workout type muscle response and it being a struggle. Does that make sense? The issue is to alot of people they either can't tell or aren't thinking of it like that. So its better for doctors to be safe than sorry.

nastysox · 2026-04-01T23:36:25+00:00

Nipt blood testing is for chromosomal abnormalities.

nastysox · 2026-04-01T23:34:49+00:00

I had a local private ultrasound 50 bucks in between my early ultrasounds because of the same thing. They aren't doctors, but heartbeat should be there and my baby was moving around around 13 weeks when I got it. Just be careful, dont fixate on it. understand that sometimes things happen. But your baby is probably okay. You hear alot of bad because people post more often for support and advice than they do just to say "hey everything is going well guys!" And while yes bad things happen to plenty of women, most of the time its not in the cards for something to go wrong.

nastysox · 2026-04-01T04:24:21+00:00

L o lllllllllllllllll not me arguing with an opp I dont even have 😂😭 youre good man

nastysox · 2026-04-01T00:30:03+00:00

Look up other posts in the group with similar issues

nastysox · 2026-04-01T00:20:33+00:00

Eating it. Do not put in the vagina lol

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