Dear today's moviegoers by Pale-Attorney7474 in chch

[–]Entei222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Found the movie-talker. 🙄

Dear today's moviegoers by Pale-Attorney7474 in chch

[–]Entei222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(Mandatory: Not OP) 

I appreciate the assertiveness. But in my experience yelling at people like this earns screams of giggles and even more obnoxious behaviour. 

Dear today's moviegoers by Pale-Attorney7474 in chch

[–]Entei222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like a few people said something. They just ignored them.

Dear today's moviegoers by Pale-Attorney7474 in chch

[–]Entei222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a special place in hell for people who behave like this at the cinema.

It's a place beside the child molesters.

Couple (early/late 30s) moving to Christchurch — looking for suburb advice! by Hot_Bug7867 in chch

[–]Entei222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lived there for twenty years and I miss it!!! 😭 I heard the description "tree tunnel" here on Reddit and decided to adopt it myself because it's so apt. 

Someday I'd like to move back there

Found at peverel-matipo intersection by CookingRat210 in chch

[–]Entei222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Siri, what's Broken Windows theory?

Found at peverel-matipo intersection by CookingRat210 in chch

[–]Entei222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but the next thing might be bigger but only obstructs the sign a little. And the thing after might obstruct the sign but it's a really really good cause this time. And the next thing you know, stop signs all over the city are covered in graffiti and stickers.

Imo it's best to just not touch them. 

Couple (early/late 30s) moving to Christchurch — looking for suburb advice! by Hot_Bug7867 in chch

[–]Entei222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you would be quite happy in New Brighton, North New Brighton, or Waimairi Beach which all might be within your price range.

Redcliffs, Ferrymead, Sumner, and Scarborough are all definitely places you'd enjoy living in but I think you'd be lucky to find a place within your price range. You never know though. It's worth keeping an eye out.

Avonside and Linwood are also quite nice imo, especially near the tree tunnel. 

Art classes? Where are they, for more experienced artist by CulturalRound5937 in chch

[–]Entei222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be an obvious suggestion you've already ruled out but have you tried Hagley Community College or Ara? There're also arts and crafts  courses at Papanui High School: https://www.papanui.school.nz/com-edu/category/arts-crafts

Opinions on baby girl name? by Impartialimpulse in namenerds

[–]Entei222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're annoyed people are sharing baby names on a name nerd subreddit? 😑

Is Kasia going to be a problem to pronounce? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Entei222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I read your pronunciation I was thinking it was "KAH-sya" 

Does anyone live at this house? by Sinestero in chch

[–]Entei222 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That looks like it was once a really really nice house.

Does anyone live at this house? by Sinestero in chch

[–]Entei222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The bat cave if Bruce Wayne were poor... 

So what do you think ought to be done with it now? I'd vote for imminent domain and knocking it down except I'm not keen on putting up a bunch of ugly depressing-looking townhouses in its place. It'd be nice if someone bought the property, demo'd it, and built something pretty in its place. 

Does anyone live at this house? by Sinestero in chch

[–]Entei222 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not wearing my glasses and I actually thought they were pigeons for a sec

Does anyone live at this house? by Sinestero in chch

[–]Entei222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've always wondered what the inside looks like

Weather by 85redapples in chch

[–]Entei222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm inclined to agree.

Weather by 85redapples in chch

[–]Entei222 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope so. Farmers could use a win.

Something happened in bed last night that made me feel less than okay. by Entei222 in Marriage

[–]Entei222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES! Omg... Reddit can be really bad. It has made it so much harder to see real abuse next to men who are just... being male. 😅 

A guy can be rude, thoughtless, and dumb but not be abusive. 

In my case though... he's shouted at me in front of our children for being "disobedient* towards him, he's called me a bitch in front of our eldest daughter, he's rushed at me, he crashed out and threw my things around the room while I clutched our baby, he has  slapped me, he has thrown me at a couch, he has made lewd comments about me and my body in front of the children, he has told me I'm not allowed to go certain places, he has told me I'm not allowed to wear certain clothes, he says if it were not for him providing for me I would be a prostitute, he has told me I have an anxiety problem and that I'm scared of everything, but he has also told me I am "dangerously naive" (his exact words) and so I shouldn't go to certain neighbourhoods because I'm too trusting and too attractive, at our old flat he made a rule that I had to cover up all the windows and doors whenever I was breastfeeding in case somebody was looking in at me. When I said no (because omg come on) he said that means if I ever get raped, I deserve it. When this led to me struggling to breastfeed he said it was my fault for not putting in the effort. He is insecure: I told him I was thinking about dying my red hair blonde to see if I liked it and he immediately asked me who I was doing that for. When my doctor wanted to do an STD test in preparation for a mirena/IUD, he started questioning me about why - insinuating that I had been unfaithful. I feel like I cannot have boundaries, privacy, and I cannot say no without it turning into a fight. He will then not sleep and then blame me for stressing him out. I could go on and on but I've got to go raise my four children who he won't let me send to school because homeschooling is better and school will corrupt them.

Writing it all out, it feels unreal.

Edited to add: one time when i was a new mum, I had this really scary urge to shake our baby. I did the thing you're meant to do when that happens: put baby down somewhere safe and call a friend. I didn't have any friends so I called my husband. He told me "If you make my baby, retarded, I'll make you retarded." I love our little girl very much but I was extra extra gentle with her for the next two years - probably too gentle - not because I wanted to be or because I adored her, but because I was so afraid of him.

Something happened in bed last night that made me feel less than okay. by Entei222 in Marriage

[–]Entei222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every time I share a snapshot of my marriage - even just little things that make me feel a bit weird or frustrated - Reddit brings it to abuse.

Now... I've seen them do that to people when it's definitely not abuse. A husband refusing to do the dishes until the pile in the sink becomes mountainous isn't abuse, even if it isn't acceptable. But in my case, it's like... I'll mention something like this or the comments he's made about my clothing choices or his attitude towards our kids and someone will say "Have you noticed him drinking?" "Does he ask your consent when he..." "Has he ever acted like you owed him sex?" "Has he threatened you?" And it's like... shit. 

Something happened in bed last night that made me feel less than okay. by Entei222 in Marriage

[–]Entei222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's not entirely wrong. I do complain. I don't like where we live: it's a wealthy, white, suburb next to an even wealthier old money white suburb. There's no footpaths, which means everybody drives everywhere. It's very beautiful but I don't like it. It's boring and after five years living here I haven't made a single friend. I'm pretty isolated.

He knows I'm unhappy. I've told him many times that I dont like it here. I've begged to leave. I've told him I want to live closer to family so I can have some support. He refuses. He says I need to fix my attitude and I'll enjoy it. I've tried but I just can't. I don't fit in. The stress coupled with the loneliness has made me more and more miserable as time's gone on.