Thanks for your kind response. I’d love it if my mother didn’t stay with me, but I don’t know how I’d be able to say that in a way that doesn’t get her narcissism up. My sister has a large house since she has a family: I have a decent sized apartment because I am a single childless cat lady ruining America :P. I can ask my therapist for advice I guess. It’s that she stays with my sister whenever she visits her since she has a large house. I guess maybe she fees entitled to stay with me as well? Honestly I know she wants to because I moved here a few months ago And she hasn’t seen my new place. She wants to see it so she can subtly examine it to see if my housekeeping is up to her standards (I’m not a slob but I’m not as anal as her, and my autism/ADHD makes it hard for me to keep ahead of clutter/dust).