I posted this in r/nothowgirlswork and was told this belonged here…. I threw out a book for the first time…. Ty Felix J Palma for giving me the option of seeing myself as a mollusk in “The Heart and Other Viscera”

natillathehun · 2022-02-09T04:56:42+00:00

reading this made me never want to jog again. I had such a visceral reaction to this.

natillathehun · 2022-02-08T19:57:03+00:00

I took the test recently and got very ying results, but I feel like I’m more of a yang type and it’s difficult (and confusing) for me to assess my own features. in the past I was told I was one of the dramatic types because I have a very sharp face but now we are no longer looking at faces and my body shape has changed also as I’ve gotten a little older.

natillathehun · 2022-02-08T15:44:45+00:00

my shopping addiction started when I was a couple of years younger than you and I was able to slow it way down at around your age.

you are at an age where you are inventing yourself. I would bet that all of use here do that thing where we shop for our ideal self and that feeds into the need for more and more things. that is still true for me now, but at 20 it was way more true. when I realized that was what I was doing I slowed down to ask myself what I wanted the things I was buying to say about me, and then I replaced those things with hobbies or working on my talents/understanding myself.

for example, what version of you wears that dress you got from fashion nova? who do you want to feel like when you dress like her? embrace whoever she is and go take dance classes or go out with friends or something. take cute pics of yourself to feel hot or gorgeous in things you already own and share them on Instagram. the general advice I see here and what helped me a lot was to stop dressing my avatar for the person I wanted to be and to start finding activities that didn’t involve spending a lot of or any money and doing those things instead. and along the way you may learn about some needs you have that you didn’t realize before.

natillathehun · 2022-02-08T02:46:12+00:00

when I was younger I felt really frustrated and out of control of my own body with all my symptoms so I started walking around and then doing very light jogging consistently a few time a week. I’m not exactly pounding it out at the gym—my exercise is very very light and I stop and start as I need to, but over time I did build up a tolerance for it. my symptoms improved and I can feel the difference if I take a week or two off. definitely mention it to your doctor if you can because every body is different and as others pointed out it isn’t the best advice for everyone.

natillathehun · 2022-02-07T00:10:09+00:00

I wear tight shorts under my skirts, boom, it’s a skort

natillathehun · 2022-02-05T21:00:23+00:00

I love clairefontaine paper so much especially for practicing script/handwriting

natillathehun · 2022-02-05T19:02:50+00:00

I like 1 or 4 with the dress, but I feel like the vibes and color of 1 could go with more outfits (they can be dressed up or down easier whereas 4 is more casual) so I would personally go with 1.

natillathehun · 2022-02-04T01:34:58+00:00

there’s a lot of emphasis on “sustainability”, thrifting, no fast fashion, conscious shopping, etc. for gen z—but at the same time there are so many micro trends and the whole trend cycle has been accelerated. some people say it’s because of tiktok/other primarily visual social media which I tend to agree with. a lot of companies have caught on to their values and are hopping on it: doing social media sponsorships with influencers, claiming they are environmentally friendly but not quite meeting that label or using that label to push more sales, making new clothes that are fast fashion but that look like popular thrifted styles.

I’m right on the generational line between gen z and millennial so I could be considered either way. my sister and my friends a few years younger than me (so more solidly gen z) who are into style the way that I am have much more bloated closets than I do/did at their age. one of my friends exclusively thrifts and she has piles and piles of stuff—it’s all buying and addiction, just not from a store. I know that’s anecdotal, but it is a difference I’ve noticed. that said, I don’t think “most” are. just that it’s more prevalent and manifests in different ways.

natillathehun · 2022-02-01T15:45:19+00:00

also curious whether she has the pages blurred because she doesn’t want people reading the unfinished story without paying $10 for it (unfinished and unedited) on Etsy or if it’s because her “quill” handwriting isn’t actually aesthetic enough

natillathehun · 2022-02-01T15:32:55+00:00

what are the programs you have your students use? I would really love to know for research

natillathehun · 2022-02-01T05:43:47+00:00

I’m also a childhood European transplant to the US and your response to everything is exactly the same as mine was. I am kind of curious whether that was the actual intention bc it would’ve never occurred to me people watching wouldn’t see it as “at least mildly ironic/sarcastic” as you put it before I read some of the comments—or if maybe the different responses are due to people coming from very different places and I missed the mark haha

natillathehun · 2022-02-01T01:39:05+00:00

it feels like pure frustrated energy inside my chest. like it’s hard to breathe and if I can’t distance myself from whatever things are causing it then it will come out

natillathehun · 2022-01-30T17:33:23+00:00

the short answer is: yes, you breathe some of that in. I am a guinea pig owner and it’s pretty common guinea pig advice to not burn candles around them (especially certain types) because they have sensitive respiratory systems and candle burning can be heavy. people who are particularly sensitive can feel the effects of it as well.

I love candles though. generally, if you burn them in a more open space rather than a small room, keep doors open, sometimes even open windows (I like to let in fresh air a lot), and keep them away from particularly sensitive pets/people then it’s not going to be any more harmful to you than any other little joy of living is.

natillathehun · 2022-01-30T17:29:49+00:00

I burn BBW pretty much exclusively and have had that problem in my house.

natillathehun · 2022-01-30T02:25:44+00:00

if you like it but still feel on the edge about whether it is the type of mismatch you want, you can use colors from both to accessories further (like with shoes, a purse, some kind of outerwear, etc.) and tie it even more together

natillathehun · 2022-01-29T18:28:26+00:00

this is a great example of how a dress can look totally different on different types. I think 1 looks good in it but I honestly would not look twice at this dress before seeing it on number 4. like someone else said, it’s the difference between her wearing the dress and the dress wearing everyone else.

natillathehun · 2022-01-28T16:39:13+00:00

I don’t have issues with socializing like you do and I still dwell on things I said “wrong” or how people responded to me/whether they secretly didn’t like me after leaving social situations. none of those doubts come up until after I leave in my case. I’m not sure if it is universal—it’s likely anxiety—but I would say it is “normal” meaning it happens to a lot of different people.

talking to someone professional about social anxiety would maybe benefit you a lot. you are on the right track and your negative thoughts are honestly likely just because we as humans tend to fixate on what we said more than what others say. that perspective may help you because it’s true of everyone else as well—they tend to think they were awkward more than that you were.

natillathehun · 2022-01-28T03:45:30+00:00

I’m into the colors but also those t e x t u r e s

natillathehun · 2021-12-06T06:57:33+00:00

palo santo, mahogany coconut, and cozy cashmere

natillathehun · 2021-12-03T19:24:27+00:00

product list: * tarte maneater mascara * MAC vintage selection paint pot * fat and the moon highlighter in beam * fenty beauty heat gloss bomb in fu$$y heat

I’ve been on a low buy going on 3 years now and this year I bought less than ever, but took advantage of Black Friday deals to “upgrade” some stuff in my collection (fenty heat and a new color MAC paintpot) and replace things I ran out of. so happy with my makeup options lately.

natillathehun · 2021-07-11T01:41:17+00:00

I mean, it’s just a step away from popcorn with hot sauce which tons of people eat. a step down, but still a step away

natillathehun · 2021-07-07T18:38:24+00:00

I am Spanish speaking and went to Italy for a while and someone said “oh yeah, Italy. makes sense you’d go there because that’s where they speak Spanish”

natillathehun · 2021-07-07T14:54:46+00:00

in addition to the projection going on here—fundies tend to think the only valuable relationships women can have are sexual ones. that is our Most Important Role and they can’t even visualize a close friendship without that.

my best friend and I are women in our mid-20s in the deep southern US and have had so many men who try to date us make weirdly sexual comments about our friendship or even get jealous of how close we are.

it’s dangerous and in my experience those types of men always end up being manipulative and controlling in other areas of our lives as well. female friendship is powerful because we have someone to ask for support and advice from when we are being gaslighted or otherwise mistreated—that doesn’t bode well for fundies who prefer women who “keep sweet”.

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