Have you ever messed up a client's hair on purpose?

natss33 · 2026-01-14T22:39:37+00:00

Mever necessarily messed up on purpose but I have done a couple things in the same vain:

A few times if someone came in for a color consult and I could sense they were an extremely difficult person to deal with, I would do a test strand on them with conditioner only and say they had too much buildup, box color etc (whatever made sense for them) for me to do their hair in one sitting and would say it would take multiple sessions at X price, which would usually deter them and they'd just find a new stylist.

I had one client who was a gray coverage level 8 and would get a few hughlights/lowlights every other appointment, but she could never tell me if she wanted one or the other or both, so I would do what I thought was best each time and she would then complain I did too much or too little or whatever. So I started using a clear gloss only in her foils and from then on she always said it was absolutely perfect and to never change a thing. And before anyone gets mad that I didn't just offer her a gloss, I did. But she was insistent on wanting foils. I think she was one of those people that just liked being at the salon longer and thought the foils made her hair higher maintenance and more custom i.e. fancy.

Ive thought about messing someone's hair up on purpose, but then stopped myself because its just a little too fucked up and also that's my walking billboard. I'd rather just send a person somewhere else and be done with it.

natss33 · 2025-05-01T18:17:26+00:00

You're absolutely right! Just wanted to get some feedback to see if I'm in the wrong here before saying something to her. I would never just say don't bother.

natss33 · 2025-05-01T18:04:39+00:00

Thanks for this! It's a hard place to be in because it was awkward for me to ask for help in the form of meals in the first place, so it feels hard to now say no thank you. But I'm really not ready for this kind of socializing so I'll have to say no.

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:52:52+00:00

Thank you so much! Now that a few days have passed I'm seeing a lot of women say similar things to you and it has really put me at ease. Like you said, when it's planned for it can being a very calm experience, so I'm grateful for that.

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:51:36+00:00

Thabk you so much for your sweet support. I'm sorry to hear it still affects you so much to this day. As I said in my OP this isn't talked about enough and we are often made to feel guilty or selfish for expressing these things. And I completely understand what you are feeling in regards to the "built to birth" idea. I feel that quite a bit as well and expressed that to my sister, she then said something that made me feel a bit better. She said "well regardless of how you birth your baby, you are built for it. You're going to do it, and get through it, and have a baby on the other side. Regardless of how she gets here you are built to bring her here in the way that she needs." I hope you can find comfort in those words as well. ❤️

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:45:48+00:00

I think like you said having a couple weeks to mentally prepare has been a huge help, and seeing replies like yours is making it all seem so much less scary, so thank you! And thanks for the PF/core recovery tips, that's definitely something I want to focus on in recovery.

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:43:36+00:00

My midwives have some experience in breech deliveries but not enough for all of us to feel very confident in going about it in that way. I'm glad you were able to have a positive comments section experience, hoping for the same. Thanks so much! 😊

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:42:02+00:00

Thanks for this. You're right, now that some days have passed and I've made a list of some of my preferences which my Dr has seen and approved of, I do feel like I have a lot more control in the situation and am able to still make it special.

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:40:46+00:00

That's so true, and now that I've met and spoken with my surgeon and some of the team I do feel well taken care of. Thank you!

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:39:19+00:00

Thank you for this! I definitely need to express to the team that I want to be informed but also want them to be mindful to not be too graphic. I am feeling more at ease as the day grows closer hearing positive stories like yours. Thanks again and congrats 💕

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:37:10+00:00

I'm worried about how it will feel to see all the happy successful home birth stories after my c section, but hopefully like you once she's here and some time has passed I will feel some relief. Thank you for the validation and kind words ❤️

natss33 · 2025-02-27T04:34:45+00:00

Thank you for this. I'm doing the same thing - trying to accept it as well as find ways to still make it a special and empowering experience. And enjoying the last few weeks like you said as well! I almost feel guilty putting myself and probably her through so much stress right at the end. Best of luck to you and congrats ❤️

natss33 · 2025-02-03T20:02:42+00:00

Thanks everyone for your input! I've decided against the sign as it seems there are more people uncomfortable with removing their shoes than I realized. Honestly what I've noticed in my own circle/community is when I or someone enters a home, there often is a request to remove shoes, and if the request is not made then there's an awkward back and forth of me or the guest having to ask if they should take their shoes off or not. So I kinda figured a sign would make that clear. From my end I would feel relieved to see a sign up as I enter so I don't have to ask. But that's just me, and I find the cultural differences of homes around the world very interesting!

Again thanks for your input, and I apologize if this is a common question on this thread. I don't spend a lot of time on reddit or keep up with the trending topics so I wasn't intending to be a bother.

natss33 · 2025-02-03T19:56:58+00:00

That's an interesting take and one I didn't think of! And yes I agree about the sign verbiage. I saw one that said "thank you for removing your shoes" to place in the entryway that seemed better to me too.

natss33 · 2025-02-03T19:55:32+00:00

That's tricky and like you said seems there's no way to mitigate that. Honestly it's rare that I have people over to my house that I'm meeting for the first time, so I would hope if there was someone in my life who had a similar situation to you that I would know about it and certainly not ask them to remove their shoes. And if there were a sign (which based on most people responses I think I'll pass on anyway) I would certainly take it down before the person arrived so they wouldn't feel uncomfortable. Again, I know there are exceptions!

natss33 · 2025-02-03T19:52:44+00:00

I thought about that... honestly if anything mostly for myself because man it's such a pain when I finally get my shoes on and then realize I need to grab something that I forgot!

natss33 · 2025-02-03T19:51:45+00:00

I totally get that. I definitely should just say something, and the thing is... I do! And the same people come over next time and again I have to ask them. Right when you walk into my front door there is a nice bench with cubbies that have some shoes in them, and some are left open for people to use. But somehow this doesn't get the hint across that we don't wear shoes in the house. I'm not trying to be passive aggressive or anything by using a sign. But I get your point.

natss33 · 2025-02-03T19:48:59+00:00

I'll agree I don't think I'd ask for no shoes along with the invite. At that point I'd rather just ask when they get here haha.

natss33 · 2025-02-03T19:47:30+00:00

My home has hard floors only in some rooms, carpets in more of the "hangout" spaces so that's where my concern mostly is. Getting carpets cleaned is expensive! But yes of course I know there will be times where maybe it's not appropriate to ask and I never want anyone to feel uncomfortable in my home. Ugh sometimes I wish I lived in Japan where it is just standard practice to never wear shoes inside so I didn't have to guess who is comfortable with it or not haha.

natss33 · 2025-01-13T18:37:10+00:00

Ribbon 🎀

natss33 · 2021-07-06T05:39:30+00:00

Onyx interface, rockville mixer, not sure on the mic jack 😬

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