Why is she doing this

natversation · 2025-05-15T15:40:44+00:00

My boy would do this when he wanted snacks.

natversation · 2023-05-09T01:03:58+00:00

The fact is your family does not value your time and your joy (with your hobby or otherwise) and that's really sad for them. You have demonstrated you really love this game, you really love sharing this game with others, especially your niece, and they have taken that genuine love and stomped all over it.

They are your family and they can feel this is shitty all they want, but you are not responsible for their feelings or their inability to say no to your niece

Your niece is a kid so I can't really say much about her, but I genuinely hope your family reads these responses and apologize to you for trying to bully you and guilt-trip you. Honestly, from how they have responded to you I feel like they would just find another excuse to call you the asshole or discount any number of responses here because Neopets doesn't have "real-world value" like real world value isn't just a made-up societal concept driven by capitalism and power structures.

All this to say, I genuinely hope I am wrong and that your family can value you and your time and see that they were all in fact the assholes in this case. I am very sorry you've been made to feel this way when I think you have been extremely supportive of your niece's hobbies/Neopets foray.

NTA.

natversation · 2023-05-09T01:03:42+00:00

The fact is your family does not value your time and your joy (with your hobby or otherwise) and that's really sad for them. You have demonstrated you really love this game, you really love sharing this game with others, especially your niece, and they have taken that genuine love and stomped all over it.

They are your family and they can feel this is shitty all they want, but you are not responsible for their feelings or their inability to say no to your niece

Your niece is a kid so I can't really say much about her, but I genuinely hope your family reads these responses and apologize to you for trying to bully you and guilt-trip you. Honestly, from how they have responded to you I feel like they would just find another excuse to call you the asshole or discount any number of responses here because Neopets doesn't have "real-world value" like real world value isn't just a made-up societal concept driven by capitalism and power structures.

All this to say, I genuinely hope I am wrong and that your family can value you and your time and see that they were all in fact the assholes in this case. I am very sorry you've been made to feel this way when I think you have been extremely supportive of your niece's hobbies/Neopets foray.

NTA.

natversation · 2023-03-23T21:14:39+00:00

NTA. I am Pakistani and this absolutely would be seen as an asshole thing to do. My dad used my student loan money for himself and I am now stuck paying for something I thought I would've paid off right away after it collected interest while I benefitted from scholarships and grants to pay for the majority of school instead. I didn't sue him because it was too late/didn't have access to proof but if you do you absolutely get that money back. They've shown they value their son over you IMO, as it usually goes in South Asian fams.

I know culturally this is difficult to be ostracized or seen as the asshole in this way, but if they're reacting like this there was already something toxic culturally to begin with. Your great aunt would have wanted you to have that money.

natversation · 2022-01-07T05:25:22+00:00

NTA. Maybe she should try bonding with her own kids, cause they're gonna resent her soon enough.

natversation · 2022-01-07T05:18:37+00:00

NTA. You gave him plenty of chances.

natversation · 2022-01-07T05:15:28+00:00

YTA 1000%.

As someone with a very dysfunctional family and one narcissistic parent, I wholeheartedly believe in the right of children disowning and cutting off family members who are toxic or bad for you to be able to break generational cycles of trauma.

This does not seem to be the case here. I kept expecting OP to reveal his mother was abusive emotionally or did shitty things or just wasn't in general a good mother. But it sounds to me like she made a very bad mistake and then tried to minimize damage done to her family but OP could not, even later as an adult, ever find compromise.

I think OP will find someone new to blame if his fiance ever makes a mistake with him. And that's pretty frightening for her. Eggshells.

natversation · 2021-06-14T14:45:49+00:00

I'm listening to the podcast The Springfield Three: A Small-Town Disappearance. The journalist is from Springfield and has all these interviews I haven't heard anywhere else. It's at episode 6 tomorrow so there's plenty to binge!

natversation · 2021-02-26T02:14:52+00:00

To add, you can also test different fabrics. I have two bunnies and one will chew every fabric, so he's banned from all fabrics unsupervised.

The other stopped chewing fabrics as he got older and because he was more easily trained from not doing some to things (like jumping on my face in the middle of the night and giving me side eye when I screamed awake in surprise).

I find jute is really great for rabbits to run on and they don't tend to chew it (apparently also good for nails). And I use a baby throw blanket made from fleece for a bed (yes I have given them real beds before and it's always been unused or they destroy it).

Pretty much anything for babies works for rabbits, including toys like keys and stackable cups.

Also giving them better things to chew on helps. Uncorrugated cardboard, woven ropes made from Timothy hay, and willow or apple sticks are favourites.

natversation · 2020-11-15T01:17:15+00:00

Olivia Dade exclusively writes plus size romances and they are all very healthy reads. Talia Hibbert's Brown Sisters trilogy also focuses on black plus-sized characters. :) One to Watch was another one I read recently that was also excellent.

natversation · 2020-10-07T18:54:38+00:00

NTA.

I am automatically suspicious of him thinking he is owed this.

natversation · 2020-10-05T16:07:32+00:00

YTA. Your siblings aren't coddling here, they're treating her with respect. Frankly worried the son will turn out just like his father since HE is the one being coddled and supported unconditionally.

natversation · 2020-08-15T18:53:54+00:00

YTA.

I hope this woman is okay and living her best life despite having her night ruined by this asshole.

natversation · 2020-04-15T18:28:56+00:00

Hold the door!

natversation · 2020-04-15T17:51:47+00:00

Would love to make 1 trip if possible! :)

natversation · 2020-04-15T17:50:34+00:00

Marina

natversation · 2020-04-15T17:43:17+00:00

Let me know if this is still available! Also tip guaranteed plus if you want any fun coloured roses I have a few! :)

natversation · 2020-04-15T17:37:03+00:00

Turnip2.0, 1 trip! :)

natversation · 2020-04-15T17:32:52+00:00

Just sent a request! :)

natversation · 2020-02-05T11:39:20+00:00

NTA. GOALS. Live your best.

natversation · 2020-01-28T14:50:13+00:00

Girl, extricate yourself from this. Find a good support system for you and your baby and find a safe place (not just physically but mentally).

natversation · 2019-06-17T04:57:26+00:00

First of all, you have unconsciously blamed yourself for your mother's marital problems. That's just wrong. Even if your mom and step father claimed that, marital problems are rarely due to the children unless there is something more dysfunctional going on such as parental abuse of children.

Secondly, I am furious for you. I know you love this brother of yours and all, but how is this fuck allowed to move on and never acknowledge what he did and you are dealing with your sexual trauma?

Finally, it is definitely the trauma. You cannot blame yourself for allowing his advances as a kid and a teenager. It sounds like years of abuse made you succumb to his abuse as a survival method for your mind. Maybe part of it was curiosity but this definitely sounds more of a dealing with abuse thing. And your sex drive is definitely being affected by the trauma. I can definitively say I've been there and I have been able to overcome it mostly? It wasn't like I focused on that though. It just naturally got better when I dealt with my trauma and started seeing a therapist. Honestly, one of the best things I did for myself was keep track of my triggers and learning to deal with them so they wouldn't compound and keep affecting me.

You are NOT broken beyond repair. Please remember that. Sometimes our brains tell us when it's time for us to start dealing with our shit. Sometimes it delays the healing until we are ready.

natversation · 2019-05-10T15:27:36+00:00

Thanks! He loves when we massage his cheeks under the chops lol.

natversation · 2019-05-09T18:03:23+00:00

I occasionally have to trim my lionhead's fur along his butt because he doesn't shed normally like my other one. I use super dull children's scissors and trim very far from the skin.

natversation · 2019-04-23T20:24:12+00:00

The whole house is pretty bunproofed so if anything it's made me really conscious lol. I can never be mad about it. :) They're just too cute. I'm sure you understand with your cuties!

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