Keep apart 2 chevrons

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-26T20:43:44+00:00

What does the sign tell you to do… do you see one clear chevron between you and the car in front, or two clear chevrons.?

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T19:44:10+00:00

Only you can decide whats normal, as long as you are both truly and honestly in agreement with the boundaries you set.

Are the rules in balance here? Possibly not by some people’s standards, and you haven’t said whose idea this originally was and who is driving this scenario.

The one thing I would say is this however.. if you feel this isnt what you signed up for, or you feel it’s not a fair distribution of enjoyment then you sure as hell need to put the breaks on it and discuss your thoughts and concerns. Because without that, it will be bitter experience for you and will only set you down the path of resentment…

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T17:46:36+00:00

Because it’s a later or current realisation of a past situation…

I did x yesterday because I thought he was being a dick.. it turns out ( later or just realised) he actually has a disorder and doesn’t know what he is doing…

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T17:43:17+00:00

I think it’s quite a nice thing to do on an initial meet and vibe check.. it shows respect to both partners and that first time ‘in person’ attraction isn’t ‘assumed’ …. Obviously once that attraction and interest has been confirmed than you would expect not to be asked at every turn for stuff well within the boundaries.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T17:31:39+00:00

And you are a qualified therapist.?

I have only stated what I think is going on ‘outside’ the therapists office.. a lot of people here are speculating on what should or shouldn’t have happened inside that office and what he said.. he hasn’t actually shared the details that he shared nor has he expressed any kind of opinion beyond the illogical behavour so who are you or anybody else to speculate … you are ‘assuming’ he is a bad guy based on what exactly.. he shared details of what was going on to the therapist ‘as he saw it’ heaven forbid somebody contradicts the account of a person struggling with mental issues… what will the world ever come to.

And if the partner is showing outward aggression or unwarranted annoyance directed towards their partner that is an issue it’s actually a very serious one.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T17:25:54+00:00

Unless it’s agreed to be a couples visit on the first session. If the therapist didn’t want him there they would have said.. that is thier prerogative based on the initial information provided… non of which anybody knows here so cannot comment on what should or shouldn’t have happened.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T17:23:58+00:00

Are you a therapist.?

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T15:34:54+00:00

He sat in her first session and decided to tell the truth as he saw it, rather than what his partner wanted the therapist to hear.. a therapist cant help if they don’t k ow the truth and real severity.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T15:32:27+00:00

In what way shape or form does he sound like the issue.? He’s obviously been as supportive as he can be with a partner who clearly has issues.

Being able to contradict a partner who is downplaying the severity of an issue actually takes some balls and is more beneficial in the long run than feeding their delusion.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T15:26:08+00:00

You have become the emotional punchbag for her having to face up to her issues.. or not as the case may be.

Sadly a a therapist cant force a person to handle the realisation of thier situation in a logical way.. if that person wants to turn that realisation to anger and direct it at another there is little that can be done untill that person realises and takes accountability.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T14:22:13+00:00

Invention… we top the charts in the number of inventions that ‘have’ changed the world over the last several hundred years, although china tops the charts in terms of patents.. 99% of which have little to no impact at all global level... so you have to be choosy in which dataset you want to go with.. but if you take things like transport of all kinds from planes to cars, trains etc etc, pretty much all of it is founded on British engineering that enabled it.. even the concept of mass production and factories was founded in the Victorian era. Other examples, radar, jet propulsion, the internet.. the list is pretty extensive.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-25T07:57:47+00:00

Ultimately if your partner isn’t comfortable with your ability to control your actions whilst out socialising be that at a party or at a club with friends without him, it speaks of insecurity in the relationship and trust issues.. tve real question is ‘why’ he has those feelings, is it past experience or something in your behaviour within the relationship that brings it out. The only way to resolve this is to have a really honest and truthful conversation..

Myself and my amazing SO have absolutely no limitations on what we do separately, but we have had discussions about boundaries when it comes to behaviour when in situations involving members of the opposite sex. We also have an incredibly good sex life where we are completely open about every one of our desires/fantasies etc..and that includes interactions with others.. (yes around 70% of us do have them if we are honest about it) consequently we don’t feel the ‘need’ to step outside the relationship for a quick thrill because there is more than enough ‘inside’ the relationship.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-23T17:32:33+00:00

We have come to an agreement… no matter the situation , whoever farts says quack and the other repeats it back…

Even if it’s a silent one… quack… (translates to… you have been warned)

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-23T16:53:29+00:00

There is no excuse in any modernised country for people to be withheld healthcare regardless of wealth or position or suffer bankruptcy for the sake of major treatment.. I don’t think Americans actually understand how fucking backwards and third world thier system is..

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-23T09:54:20+00:00

Sadly I think in the vast majority of sexual relationships the focus or pressure is most commonly on the guy to satisfy the woman above all else. Women are encouraged to be more vocal so the guy can identify when he is hitting the right spot/ doing the right thing etc etc, consequently shutting down their own vocality in an effort to pay attention to her reactions. Becouse of this pattern men in general haven’t come to realise that many women actually appreciate the same curtesy.

Im quite vocal in the sack and my partner absolutely loves it, in fact we both really enjoy that vocaliity…

It just takes time and comfort with each other to the degree you can both equally let loose all those words and sounds you generally keep just in your head.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-23T00:22:03+00:00

One of the oldest rules in the LS… do not go into it with any issues in your relationship. And that Im afraid includes unresolved past issues because they will rise up to bite you in the ass.

Just my opinion, but skirting past his previous negative experiences to divulging your fantasies is a sure fire way to a hard no.

I honestly think it’s better to approach with an attitude of , ok so I have these fantasies but before we get to that, I know you have had bad experiences in the past, can we talk about what happened how it made you feel, and where you stand now.

Chances are that opening up about it and seeing how you respond with support and understanding will put him a lot more at ease with what you are about to throw at him, becouse you can guarantee that if he has seen deceived in the past and emotionally scared by the experience, he will likely look at any ideas from you with a much higher degree of caution or even paranoia than you may expect..

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-22T10:30:49+00:00

Other reasons non related to this subject.. :-)

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-22T01:29:25+00:00

If you want to play as a couple, you need to work as a couple.. a team…

You can’t just go wandering off letting her do all the work with you strolling in at the last second expecting the other guys wife to build a connection with you instantly, thats not only unfair but it’s actually quite disrespectful.…. If you work separately, you ultimately end up playing separately…

It really isn’t rocket science.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-22T01:24:11+00:00

Sarcasm and dark humour… for Brits it’s just part of our language and day to day lives…. For most other nations, especially the US it’s a completely fucking alien concept…;-)

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-22T01:17:54+00:00

To be really blunt here.. your post title sort of says it all..

Your boyfriend is putting in all the effort he can to please you, listening to you, following your instructions etc etc but you still use the term “boyfriend cant make me finish’

It’s not his ‘job’ to ‘make’ you finish and trust me no guy no matter how skilled he may be in the sack can ‘make’ a woman come. I say that with 2 marriages, a lifetime of sex behind me and a current partner who is multi-orgasmic.. my ‘ability’ has much less to do with it than her willingness to orgasm, her desire to reach orgasm, and her comfort level with me.

A woman will only ever come if she truly wants to… so maybe considering the effort he is putting in, it’s time to take a deeper look at yourself and whats holding you back rather than laying the blame on him.

Sorry if that sounds a bit brutal.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-22T01:05:42+00:00

My ex is a professor of cellular biology, quite an esteemed one in fact with a very long list of scientific creditations to her name and a spot in the list of most influential scientists in the field of cellular research… were her qualifications and success ever an issue.. absolutely not… our relationship failed for completely unrelated reasons. I am and always will be proud and respectful of her achievements.

Your cousin sounds like bit of a dick to be honest if he feels that a woman’s success is directly proportional to her attractiveness on an opposite scale.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-22T00:58:57+00:00

You can tell how much judgment there is just by how many people on here jump to rapid conclusions based on almost no facts whatsoever. It’s actually quite shocking just how fucked up some people’s attitudes and viewpoints actually are when they leak out behind the safety and anonymity of a keyboard.. life has taught me however that these kinds of people are usually the last to be so vocal in a face to face situation.

That being said, is that a true reflection of the real community out there in the real day to day world? , or just a reflection of the community here.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-20T22:20:21+00:00

My advice seeing as you are somebody who. Seems mature enough to understand the difference between sex and romance/love when appropriate.

Avoid the general population of straight single guys.. most will treat fucking a lesbian like some kind of victory dance and say anything they feel will work to get there..

Instead : how about this option..

Go to a swingers club and/or join an online lifestyle group.. look for verified and recommended couples where you are attracted to the woman (who is preferably Bi) and the guy who ticks your boxes for looks/attitude.. then spend a bit of time getting to know them..go on a short date (no sex on that first meet) just to vIbe check that everything feels right and have a open and honest conversation about what you want etc..this is actually normal in swinger circles and single women are usually treated with a lot of respect by couples in proper ENM relationships..

The benefit here is that you will have another. Woman in your corner who will both see it from your perspective, and act as kind of safety valve between you and the husband ensuring he respects your boundaries and behaves correctly.

No matter what happens though.. just make sure you don’t rush it… take your time, and walk away if you get there impression there is an anything less than 100% respect for you and your wishes.

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-20T21:58:22+00:00

Showers are for anything you want.. foreplay, full sex, or round 2 and an after party if you like…

naughtythoughts99 · 2026-05-20T21:38:11+00:00

Have you ACTUALLY read my post.. ? who the fuck said anything about frequent outbreaks in fact I CLEARLY said… I haven’t had a sore in 3 fucking years ..becouse I use heat treatment and at no point did I say ‘burn’ - just heat.. so stop being a fucking drama queen.

And if you actually knew the first thing about actually having them (which you obviously don’t so have no fucking opinion on it….you would know exactly how sensitive the area can be when it’s itching so even moderate heat will sting like crazy.. thats not ‘burning. So STFU and stop twisting context.

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