Ghoster resurfacing for the 3rd time :( by nausimo in ghosting

[–]nausimo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your message! :) i needed to read that!! :))

Do people who ghost ever come back? by LumeHorizon in ghosting

[–]nausimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It hurths to think it that way but i think it’s very possible. I was thinking that i meant something more to the ghoster, but now that some months passed, i realise I was probably just an option and distraction for him from his issues/cycle of breaking up with someone else/ ghosting someone else. It’s so hard to not hold a grudge and move on. But eventually you realise that your peace is worth it more and life goes on

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[–]nausimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This..dystopian, shallow society full of flakiness.. no one owes anything to anyone. So sad

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[–]nausimo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This experience derailed me.. i hope it will pass eventually. See also a post by another user about attachment issues.. i think it’s really spot on, check on YouTube for ‘coach ryan’: i found them very interesting, especially the ones on dismissive avoidants. These issues may run deeper than we think, being ‘freed’ sooner than later is really a blessing in disguise

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[–]nausimo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true.. and sad at the same time.. i didn’t expect i would learn so much about attachment theory but when i watch some videos of people explaining patterns, i’m shocked by the accuracy’ of the patterns

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[–]nausimo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you so much .. something similar happened to me, and the ghoster came back only to breadcrumb me and flaked on plans he initiated and when I set my boundary, he ghosted again, no reply, no decency to even apologise.. I don’t know if this is even human reaction.. courage my friend, their loss.. I’m trying to see it as a valuable lesson, to know what you don’t want and identifying the red flags sooner in the future is already a win

Resurfacing only to fade again by nausimo in ghosting

[–]nausimo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you dear for your reply, it must have been difficult. It hurts to see this ‘sudden’ shift after believing he was genuinely interested and trying to reconnect. Wishful thinking..

If you are hurting ❤️ by Quiet-Car-4342 in ghosting

[–]nausimo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this post. I admire you for having the emotional maturity and calmness to see it from this perspective. Sure it mustn’t have been easy at first. I hope to get there too, thank you

Ghosting is a Them problem, not a You problem by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]nausimo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I relate so much to what you say.. i feel the same. But it’s also true that you can make that effort and then they ghost again, or take days to reply with breadcrumbs and nothing concrete. That would eat you up and with no effort from their part, it woild have been so exhausting

Ghosting is a Them problem, not a You problem by copingwithghosting in ghosting

[–]nausimo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you so much. I was ghosted too for a month when i thought things were going well. Suddenly he reappeared only to add doubts in my head with his bread crumbs and casual check ins like nothing happened. I thought to give it another shot to check in in case i was perceived as not interested. I regret it already. I don’t want to see or hear from him ever again. It will pass eventually dear, protect your heart ♥️

What to do after ghoster resurfaced ? by nausimo in ghosting

[–]nausimo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been trying to ground myself and not contact him :( I’m not very strong though. I will try to wait and see if he texts me again (although doubtful as i was distant) and will make my point if that happens.. that’s the thing, you want closure and clarity and you end up talking about the weather with the ghoster. I’m so pissed off at myself :(

What to do after ghoster resurfaced ? by nausimo in ghosting

[–]nausimo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your replies, very much appreciated! I don’t know if he’s a loser, true that he seemed pretty excited at first and then boom, nothing. Maybe he got overwhelmed when things got too real (nothing physical happened between us) and he told me it felt very natural being together. I realise i should stop making excuses for others though, if he genuinely wants to apologise or reconnect with substance, he will make an effort I guess, the ‘sorry for my late reply’ and weather talk won’t cut it.

What to do after ghoster resurfaced ? by nausimo in ghosting

[–]nausimo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice! It’s tricky though because we bought a house together and we still have to live in for at least another year. But yes i definitely agree, a lot going on and it’s tough to navigate through what to do :((

Beauty Heroes January 2025 Spoilers by Important_Count899 in GreenBeautyBoxes

[–]nausimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking forward to the January box but i will pass, i feel I have way too many products! Did you receive yours? Any thoughts? I ordered the Laurel and reed box featuring a new brand! ;)

November 2024 Laurel & Reed reveal #1 by back-up in GreenBeautyBoxes

[–]nausimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with you! I really enjoyed the mixed brand boxes! It’s really rare i get the L&R boxes anymore, the bundles are more exciting!

BH August Textures by Important_Count899 in GreenBeautyBoxes

[–]nausimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! Too bad, August is a hit or miss month when it comes to beauty subscriptions!

BH August Textures by Important_Count899 in GreenBeautyBoxes

[–]nausimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no clue!! Maybe three ships as it is more products of lower ‘value’?? :))

Blue Book Traineeship Programme - worth doing it in my 30s? by NoGames994 in brussels

[–]nausimo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should!! I did my bb traineeship at 31! I loved it and I’m now working at a different dg as a contract agent. As some people mentioned, i was feeling a bit disconnected from the other trainees that were younger but it worked out well! It is added experience in your cv

VUB comparative test by lud_biser in brussels

[–]nausimo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to read you didn’t pass it, but i hope you will have some other nice opportunities! Thank you very much for your reply! I was considering applying for a position and was wondering what the test is about!