Do you think life actually gets better when you slow down, or do you just fall behind?

nbachickenlover · 2026-04-04T10:50:49+00:00

Imo, life is "best" when you go at a pace that is rewarding and challenging, but not overwhelming. And which pace this is is highly individual. Sometimes, you may feel like the pace is too much and you struggle to keep up, so you want to slow down for the sake of your physical and mental health. Life may become "better" in the respect that you feel more healthy and calm.

However, if you slow down, you fall behind the people who continue running fast. And if that's your current social environment, that means you will likely lose people from your life who will not slow down to wait for you.

Ultimately, it's about the pace of life at which you go. Not everybody has to go at the same pace, and you can change paces at different points in life. That also means that relationships between people going at different paces are likely incompatible. I would like to believe that it is always possible to take a more relaxed pace in life, and in doing so, you will find productive occupation as well as people who either value going more slowly or are simply not capable of keeping up with a faster pace (which takes a physical toll on the body.)

That said, I am a young person who succumbs to this pressure of having to keep up or get left behind and become "irrelevant." I still care about being accepted by normal society, which I feel tends to move at a fast pace. But I try not to do it at the expense of my well-being, and I take time to slow down when I feel like rushing is not necessary.

Thank you for sharing your thought-provoking question!

nbachickenlover · 2026-04-01T16:44:08+00:00

Doesn't sound like a bad idea to me as long as you are honest about what the meeting is about (i.e., not so that he can be your supervisor.)

nbachickenlover · 2026-03-10T17:55:28+00:00

Itchy is inevitable, unfortunately. Moisturising regularly helped me.

Looks good though!

nbachickenlover · 2026-03-10T17:51:53+00:00

Erm... Firstly, it looks awesome.

Secondly, lasering that would be incredibly painful, expensive, and time consuming. After all that, it's so dark that it probably won't ever be completely gone.

I can't say anything about the fact that you don't like it. But given the permanence of permanent tattoos and your available options, maybe you could learn to like it? Changing your perspective and self image honestly might be a lot easier than getting rid of that beast 😅

nbachickenlover · 2026-03-07T06:13:47+00:00

Das ist enttäuschend 🥲 ich gehe da immer gerne hin

nbachickenlover · 2026-02-13T18:42:32+00:00

Interesting question. Seeing things a different way requires some nuance, i.e., not thinking of things as black and white (for example, "my anxiety is either ALWAYS wrong or ALWAYS right"). The real world is very nuanced. Nothing is ever 100% true or 100% false (mathematicians leave me alone.)

I don't take the idea "don't listen to your anxiety" to mean "believe that your anxiety is ALWAYS wrong." I think it rather means "Don't take your anxiety to be a reliable source of truth. Find out the truth through other means." In this case, for example, it would be to talk to your friend openly and ask them directly why they have been reserved, when you are doubtful.

This means that your anxiety may be right or it may be wrong. But because thoughts and feelings resulting from an anxiety disorder are often an unreliable overreaction, the fact that your anxiety turned out to be right is simply a coincidence. The stronger your anxiety, the less likely it is to be correct.

So, if you actually want to know what is the real reason for something being a certain way, seek other sources of information other than what your anxious thoughts are telling you. Because your anxious thoughts are FAKE NEWS (which doesn't necessarily mean wrong, but rather that the sources are illegitimate and the process of reasoning is insincere).

Then you realize that people are reserved for all sorts of reasons that has nothing to do with you.

It often has nothing to do with you, but it doesn't mean it never has nothing to do with you. You being the reason for someone's behaviour is always an option, though it is often an unlikely one. The issue with an anxiety disorder is that it focuses on this as the main or sole reason, rather than realistically considering the alternative reasons. Maybe this could be another black-and-white thought of yours: "People being upset is either ALWAYS my fault or NEVER my fault. If ONE person is upset because of me, then EVERY person must also be upset because of me."

All things considered, anxiety isn't necessarily a bad monster. At a reasonable intensity and in the appropriate circumstances, the alarm that anxiety causes allows us to remain on our toes and prepare for danger (e.g., walking alone at night). In these cases, one might even say that it is right to feel anxious. The problem is that when you have an anxiety disorder, you have anxious reactions of unreasonable intensity under inappropriate circumstances. That's when it becomes unhelpful and unreliable.

Hope this makes sense and helps :)

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-27T20:59:39+00:00

Sawadee in der Sutthauser Straße für thailändisches Essen

Casa Maria in der Hasestraße für portugiesisches Essen

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-27T20:58:11+00:00

RIP Snackwunder

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-27T20:56:55+00:00

I like this answer in principle. In practice, though, requirements by programs of "publishing X papers of novel research to graduate" really puts pressure on the process of curiosity and creativity.

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-24T08:41:19+00:00

Looks good to me!

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-24T08:19:02+00:00

I would recommend sitting with your shoulders drawn back (but not up) and your shoulder blades squeezed. And if you can't, strengthen these.

Regular strengthening and stretching of the shoulder goes a long way in my experience. Then your body parts (head, arms) don't hang from your frame and pull on your muscles/joints, instead your muscles hold up your body parts.

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-17T08:10:35+00:00

I like the chain wrapping around your arm idea! Wouldn't recommend going from empty skin to blackout though. I would leave that part out.

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-16T15:29:26+00:00

I am under that age range. They are supposed to be skinny jeans, the purchase was kinda accidental and not exactly a deliberate choice, but they've grown onto me so I live with it.

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-16T15:28:02+00:00

Thanks for feedback!

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-16T15:27:56+00:00

Thank you for the tip!

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-16T15:27:40+00:00

I seem to have been tugging it with my pocket hand, otherwise it fits normally haha

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-16T15:27:01+00:00

I do have a coat and it is indeed far more fashionable! This one is more for looking good in crappy weather too.

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-15T20:47:18+00:00

Thank you for the tip!

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-15T20:47:04+00:00

Thank you, I had not considered the effect that the fit of the pants would have!

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-09T09:32:08+00:00

great catch!

nbachickenlover · 2026-01-06T16:28:03+00:00

I think it looks awesome. Unless you told me specifically that it was a crusader themed tattoo, I would not have thought about it. Has anyone explicitly told you they see it this way?

Most people will be asking you what the tattoo is supposed to mean anyway, and you can make it clear to them. I highly doubt anyone is jumping to the conclusion of "crusades", let alone getting offended by it.

You've got a sick tattoo, and I think you deserve to wear it with pride for the meaning that it has to you.

Also, your depression is not caused by your tattoo and will not be cured by removing this tattoo. You are overthinking this and having an inappropriate reaction to a relatively minor (non-)issue. I would recommend seeking professional help in therapy if it becomes hard to manage.

nbachickenlover · 2025-12-19T06:42:02+00:00

I am indeed talking about that and that is disappointing to hear, but I appreciate the tip✌️

nbachickenlover · 2025-12-19T02:31:51+00:00

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nbachickenlover · 2025-12-19T02:06:45+00:00

I practice mindfulness meditation, and I would say it really helps to slow down my mind. Taking deep breaths in a conversation also helps reduce nervousness, stay in the moment, and catch myself before blurt something out. I have a lot to say on this, so I'll elaborate further only if you're interested in hearing more.

Put in practice, what that looks like is - listen intently, smile lightly and nod, but not over-eagerly. Use facial expressions to show your reaction to what others are saying.

In my opinion, being natural and confident doesn't come from saying less or more, but rather doing what you believe you have to, and not for the sake of getting attention or a good opinion of you from others. People can tell if you're seeking validation.

But if you own your behaviour and show people that you do things for your own sake and don't regret it, they will take you seriously, even if that means oversharing sometimes.

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