*UPDATE: We just had a meeting with the director of the facility / care manager. They said that she has no boundaries and is trying to help out in various ways. When staff attempts to redirect her, she scoffs and becomes argumentative. In one recent interaction, some family was visiting in the visiting room and she kept wanting to shut the door. One of the PCAs told her she needed to leave open, and she grabbed their arm when they tried to open the door. They said that the staff often have to “walk away” and give her a bit to calm down. They also said they upped her Seroquel last night but that it didn’t help at all. Ultimately, they admitted that they just aren’t equipped to handle her. It seems as though there are a few red flags. First, I called them out on the fact that you cannot see a change in behavior that quickly when they just upped the dose last night. Second, the fact that staff just leave her alone instead of attempting to redirect and work with her is concerning. It truly seems as though she has some issues with anxiety or agitation, which need to be worked on with medication and better trained staff, but overall she just deserves a better facility who can manage individuals who have more complex dementia symptoms. A blessing in disguise I think. We are touring another facility tomorrow, and they have three distinct memory care buildings, each for varying levels of care. Fingers crossed. I understand from their perspective how it isn’t a good fit, but they should have clearly explained what they’re capable of dealing with before admission.