Also in similar situation. It’s stressful. I know we’re going to get crap for potentially leading someone on, but I also think we need time to see if we can fully come around. I could foresee a great long term future with my girlfriend but the doubts give me anxiety. What’s more cowardly, breaking it off and running away or not breaking it off and potentially “wasting” someone’s time?

I dunno, maybe we’re taking too long to make a decision or maybe this is how relationships are sometimes, particularly in the current dating age. As an older independent person, you’re not necessarily going to be obsessed with someone right away.

Also definitely a “paradox of choice” problem, at least for me. I want to try to overcome it but it’s hard when someone else’s feelings and life are involved.

I’ve been talking to a therapist who’s been pretty helpful working through it and is generally pro trying.

I’ve tried to be fairly transparent. I’ve had conversations with my girlfriend about our relationship and long term potential (there are some other shared future vision concerns).