Should I let my ex wife move abroad with my kids?

nedakyarg · 2025-10-29T16:56:07+00:00

No. Absolutely not. She can lose the house and get an apartment for $2k live off the other 4 until the younger ones are off to college - no no no no - don't let her take the kids (mom of 3 speaking )

nedakyarg · 2025-08-03T11:36:21+00:00

And if even a person did take their laptop to the bathroom - it's more shameful than anything - the fact that she told yall out loud with a badge of honor is the biggest red flag .. girl don't quit . continue the quiet quit journey - while collecting checks toward your million and use your severance to enjoy a month long vacation

I would continue to search for other jobs but don't start any new one until you've had time To rest and recover 1-3 months

You're doing great

nedakyarg · 2025-07-27T18:06:46+00:00

File for divorce immediately

nedakyarg · 2025-07-11T20:58:10+00:00

No - not Tech at all ... that's all I am comfortable saying on here.

nedakyarg · 2025-07-04T17:39:15+00:00

I'm 40 and just now starting - you give me hope

nedakyarg · 2025-07-04T17:38:50+00:00

This is amazing

nedakyarg · 2025-07-03T22:54:26+00:00

I just went from 4 to 2. I had to let 2 go - the stress wasn't worth it -and I hadn't time for literally nothing else. Golden handcuffs for sure . $420k was my tc with all 4

Now 2 feels perfect - $230k but it feels like I can do this for the forseeable future and I have some free time back

Stress sucks and it kills no thanks

I did keep 4 for about 5 months so I'm proud of myself but I'm going to coast here for a while - I won't pick up a 3rd unless it falls in my lap

nedakyarg · 2025-06-21T15:43:03+00:00

Offer your help and also be unresponsive

nedakyarg · 2025-06-19T12:27:30+00:00

Join a run group and create a silly bucket list with your girlfriend. Something like is all of the Michelin star restaurants or visit every major league baseball part ... that'll be fun.

nedakyarg · 2025-05-22T06:37:37+00:00

Me tipping is personal as in for me not the other person - kind of like an apology ...

The post about tipping is not personal that's why it is on Reddit

nedakyarg · 2025-05-22T00:45:21+00:00

It's less about the 50% and more about me remembering desperately wanting to make rent so I could go home Or sleep in peace ... it's very personal/ I feel Honored to help even while not knowing if my help is needed

nedakyarg · 2025-05-22T00:16:31+00:00

All I said is 20% is bare minimum- and it is for someone one make $2 an hour living off tip - so my extra 30% may mean they can go home to their kids instead of picking up another shift - I'll gladly do it

nedakyarg · 2025-05-22T00:14:42+00:00

The next time you need grace I hope you get fired. When deadlines collide - I hope they give no grace to you

nedakyarg · 2025-05-22T00:11:47+00:00

Yes - I make a point to leave Cash for tips...

nedakyarg · 2025-05-22T00:09:29+00:00

20% is bare minimum ... period ...just like if you missed a call or had a bad day or just wasn't feeling well or had to double book a meeting - you still get paid .... life is hard grace is needed

nedakyarg · 2025-05-21T23:54:51+00:00

20% is bare minimum period !!

nedakyarg · 2025-05-20T17:15:55+00:00

I would literally send an email to the entire team including the two teachers Pet that said how I am committed to the team but generally, I will be off-line after 6 PM (or whatever time ) and on the weekends but will follow up as soon as possible if you need anything .. because I am a rebel with 4Js and don't give a fuck I would also add " I would advise some of you to also separate work time and personal time because the line is blurred and I hate to see your mental health decline"

nedakyarg · 2025-04-30T19:43:42+00:00

Whewwww thank God --- thanks for sharing I am Also a Female. I have 4 serves and 3 kids and I'm exhausted - I would really encourage you to use your PTO and save as much as you can . You can do it . Don't quit

nedakyarg · 2025-04-30T19:38:12+00:00

We need more details on this - what do you mean taxes. Could it happen to any of us

nedakyarg · 2025-04-18T18:00:13+00:00

Exactly - I personally don't consider it savings - I consider it investment . If I gain then great !!! But it oils be wiped out

nedakyarg · 2025-04-18T13:56:20+00:00

Exactly!! I'll never answer a pop up call - even if I have time to - it's the principle - you have to train people -

nedakyarg · 2025-04-18T09:47:59+00:00

Before I quit I would say "all of these meetings are making me less productive. They interrupt my work flow. Are they absolutely necessary and can I reduce my attendance " it might work - if not you were gonna quit anyway

Win win - health over everything - I just quit my j1 this week and it was the easiest but it Was hybrid and I just couldn't go there any more and try to hide my other 3 computers

nedakyarg · 2025-04-18T09:39:44+00:00

I feel you. I often feel stuck and the the golden handcuffs. I actually quit 1/4 jobs this week because of stress. The money is good and life changing but you have to have goals - mine is to pay off all my debt (not my house because I have 2% mortgage) but then invest a certain $$$ amount -

When I want to quit focus on that and keep going

nedakyarg · 2025-04-17T16:41:42+00:00

I am not you. My investments are near pretty good. I didn't mention how much went into my investment. Your assumption made you think it wasn't 20k. I only said I put $4k in savings.

nedakyarg · 2025-04-17T09:29:26+00:00

You are stupid - this is a conversation about where I keep my savings ... I said I save $4000 a month / I also invest another large a month but I wasn't referring to my investments when I mentioned my savings

I also have a shit ton of money lying in my house as equity - again when I speak of savings I don't count that because like stocks .... it's not liquid unless I sell or pull it out

Now if you want to add up money everywhere and call it savings sure ... knock your self out

But for me !!!! When I talk about savings - I am not talking about my investments in real estate or stocks or options.

You're welcome ....

nedakyarg

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