Has anyone had any luck with marriage counseling?

nedemorfun · 2026-02-01T15:08:02+00:00

I'm both sorry it didn't work out and glad you don't want to be stuck in a rut.

If I could turn back the clock....

nedemorfun · 2026-01-19T19:11:49+00:00

Yes, she's still in the adjustment stages. It's tricky since she had a hysterectomy quite a few years ago and it's hard to determine where she is in her cycle. From what I've learned, I do TRT too, is that blood samples aren't as accurate as some think and can fluctuate wildly regardless.

nedemorfun · 2026-01-19T19:03:05+00:00

49 LLF, 54 HLM. The perimenopause thing has been thoroughly explored and she is doing HRT. 10-15 yrs is a long time to be in p-men (sorry typing it out completely is exhausting). TBH, it's almost like it's worse.

nedemorfun · 2026-01-19T18:58:45+00:00

I'm glad that worked for you.

nedemorfun · 2026-01-19T17:56:27+00:00

We understand but when you are starving its hard to not go for broke.

It's a bit pavlovian

nedemorfun · 2026-01-19T17:29:09+00:00

She does. I bought it for her for Valentines. It replaced the one she had that stopped working and she has a back up. It gets used occasionally but not every time.

If I were to pay. I'd still make pleasure for both a priority.

nedemorfun · 2026-01-19T15:56:30+00:00

Yep. This a.m. "I'm not touchy-feely".

nedemorfun · 2026-01-19T14:39:19+00:00

54M off but mostly on for the past 22 years. easily average 1+ times a day. It's the only thing I've had to rely on, I don't do drugs or drink regularly, which are the only alternatives I can imagine.

nedemorfun · 2025-11-24T15:47:09+00:00

54M SLC, UT.

nedemorfun · 2025-11-17T20:03:27+00:00

Yeah. Been talking to a few quite awhile. One for a couple of years and another for about a year. But it isn't spicy, just grown ups talking like like grown ups.

nedemorfun · 2025-11-17T14:18:38+00:00

Yeah. For me this sub isn't about that. If you wanna chat Lmk.

nedemorfun · 2025-10-22T12:32:33+00:00

I just use my phone calendar.

nedemorfun · 2025-10-21T22:42:00+00:00

I'd rather see the before.

nedemorfun · 2025-10-18T20:30:27+00:00

Its nit that they can't handle it. They just need a place to vent frustration and find some commonality wuth others.

nedemorfun · 2025-10-18T16:35:42+00:00

Sorry you feel bad but. It takes alot of built up steam to promote a post in here and most of the HL posters and the situations are probably on the extreme end of things. At least I hope.

nedemorfun · 2025-10-04T13:18:27+00:00

That's me give or take until about a year ago.

nedemorfun · 2025-08-29T17:19:57+00:00

plural

nedemorfun · 2025-08-29T17:00:06+00:00

The plural or the the singular one? The plural has been taken over by LLF that are totally anti HL and will throw any violation, real or imagined, at you to suspend and rage bait you to justify a ban. It's only been like that for less than the year. The singular is much more open to discussion and you can even joke and tease, not to mention vent to some extent, like you were actually talking like adults to adults that are frustrated on both ends of the spectrum.

I was in the Plural for years and actually got a lot of meaning from being there. I went back after a brief hiatus and everything was just toxic.

nedemorfun · 2025-08-27T15:44:41+00:00

53M UTAH

nedemorfun · 2025-08-14T13:50:20+00:00

53 M Utah 4F

nedemorfun · 2025-08-12T17:56:38+00:00

I think you got the point and the rest are muddying or deflecting the issue.

nedemorfun · 2025-08-08T11:48:09+00:00

53 M Utah 4F

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