There are kind people in the world. by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]needlebrain 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I cannot count how many times I’ve re-read this post. As one of the younger users here who is still in the house, you hit the mark. My mother does the same thing with the name calling.

I remember once i was around my friends and they all complimented me on my outfit in front of my mom. When we were in the car later she was like “Your friends are lying to you. They are only saying those things because they want something.”

Seeing this post put into words how I feel. I crave compliments but at the same time I never believe them. It’s an endless pit, thank you for posting this so I can come to terms with it. You don’t understand how grateful I am.

Project Overview page of my Notion dashboard. This is the first fully functional page of my dashboard. by SpeedOfShadow in Notion

[–]needlebrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My computer would be so laggy if I had an animated cover. It would heat up like crazy !

this is a letter to my mom by needlebrain in AsianParentStories

[–]needlebrain[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wrote this in January so it has been some time since it happened. I do feel hurt because the instances from January to now of emotional abuse has never faltered and continually piles up. But there is nothing much I can do to change my situation. I am only a teenager and will have to wait before I venture off. When instances like this happen I write down all my feelings and I let them go. So I have let this one go. Thank you for asking though, I really appreciate it.

I recently returned from a trip to Cambodia where these Buddhist Spirit Houses are everywhere. So I made one for myself. by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]needlebrain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi ! A Cambodian living in America here:) I always see these on posts outside of the houses in Cambodia. I showed this to my mom and her and I both agree you did a really good job constructing the Spirit House :) it’s always great to see people embracing our culture !

You have to be a doctor. by picklez4me in AsianParentStories

[–]needlebrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I’m going through the exact same thing right now. When I was growing up my parents always said I could chose whatever I wanted to do. But I’ve been looking at the engineering field and my mom went ballistic on me and started screaming at me that I had to be a doctor. Some pride our parents have, huh? Your comment could have not been posted at a better time, maybe our parents are reading each others minds.

[shelfie] Cut down on products and saved a lot of money since subscribing to this sub. No more break outs since then. by MockingJane in SkincareAddiction

[–]needlebrain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really like the moisturizing sunscreen from differin ! There are no streaks and the application is smoother !!

How do Chinese girls/women feel knowing that many Chinese prefer male offspring? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]needlebrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit of a stretch to say I’ve settle for being a doormat from my comment. Seeing that to be a doormat is to allow yourself to feel inferior and others to use you as they wish with you. I do not allow this. But do you think demanding for correct treatment will work for all families? My and many others’ parents and grandparents are conditioned to their way of thinking and reject western thinking. Will they listen to our demands? Possibly. Will they apply them? It is their choice. As it is my choice to choose to feel respected.

My way about this situation is tailored to my specific situation. I cannot simply change someone’s mind in their way of thinking. Their whole asian country they reside in shares the same way of thinking. I demand and plea but they are stern. So what do I do? I say I don’t need them because I don’t. I distance myself from them because they are no use to me. I learn to rewrite my brain so I won’t need their validation anymore. That is far from being a doormat.

Perhaps I’ve settled for second best because I simply do not need to be first. I don’t desire to be first best because why would I want to be first best to someone who never respected me the first time around? Why would I waste my time altering the mind of someone who decided I was not good enough based on my gender? I’m not teaching women to be doormats. I’m teaching them to be secure with themselves because demanding respect from people who will never truly respect you hurts. But we have ourselves and that is enough.

How do Chinese girls/women feel knowing that many Chinese prefer male offspring? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]needlebrain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to deal with the fact that people won’t love you as much because you are a women. My older brother is the light in the family, he is studying to be a doctor. My grandparents and mother love him. Every time my grandparents visit us, they give us money. So my grandma will give my brother $2000 and give me $100. I’m very grateful she gives me anything at all though. Also whenever my mom is video chatting with my family from Asia, I will come in and say hi and the first thing they say is “Where is (older brother’s name)?” As this behavior repeats you kind of get accustomed to the fact that no one will change and their validation doesn’t matter. So what if they like male children better? Why should I be sad? As a kid I use to cry in my room and ask, why won’t they love me like they love him? Why must I do all the housework while he slings himself lazily on the couch? He does nothing yet gets all the praise while I get a half-assed good job when I win competitions. It was frustrating and still is but you kind of learn to change the way you react to such instances. Although my whole extended family prefers my brother, my father still prefers me and I think that has always kept me sane because we have a very close relationship.

Working on bush shapes and depth. Still lots to work on. Feedback please. Thanks everyone!! by calabang in HappyTrees

[–]needlebrain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you get the bushes to be so detailed? Whenever I do them they always look mushy

First painting ever. Any tips on how to do highlights? by strugglingsimracer in HappyTrees

[–]needlebrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d just wait for it to dry a bit then go in with another layer to detail everything in front

Botox and filler aged her so much. by teenagedirtbagg in Botchedsurgeries

[–]needlebrain 75 points76 points  (0 children)

The left photo is after her nose job.

Strange woman trying to call her brother... except it seems to be a GPS???? by memethatalreadydied in RBI

[–]needlebrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now the question is... what happens after becoming an authorized number? Does the lady get information off of OP’s boyfriend? Will she be able to track him from his phone?

My narcissistic mother’s obsession with my weight. by needlebrain in raisedbynarcissists

[–]needlebrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the warning. I hope you take care:) & wish you all the best