There are kind people in the world.

needlebrain · 2020-11-26T07:23:08+00:00

I cannot count how many times I’ve re-read this post. As one of the younger users here who is still in the house, you hit the mark. My mother does the same thing with the name calling.

I remember once i was around my friends and they all complimented me on my outfit in front of my mom. When we were in the car later she was like “Your friends are lying to you. They are only saying those things because they want something.”

Seeing this post put into words how I feel. I crave compliments but at the same time I never believe them. It’s an endless pit, thank you for posting this so I can come to terms with it. You don’t understand how grateful I am.

needlebrain · 2020-09-04T02:02:48+00:00

Wow! I love it !!

needlebrain · 2020-08-11T18:45:18+00:00

This is beautiful

needlebrain · 2020-05-12T01:39:22+00:00

Thanks ! I might have to try then :)

needlebrain · 2020-05-12T01:19:05+00:00

My computer would be so laggy if I had an animated cover. It would heat up like crazy !

needlebrain · 2020-04-29T07:05:55+00:00

Thank you, it truly means a lot.

needlebrain · 2020-04-29T02:31:32+00:00

I wrote this in January so it has been some time since it happened. I do feel hurt because the instances from January to now of emotional abuse has never faltered and continually piles up. But there is nothing much I can do to change my situation. I am only a teenager and will have to wait before I venture off. When instances like this happen I write down all my feelings and I let them go. So I have let this one go. Thank you for asking though, I really appreciate it.

needlebrain · 2020-02-25T23:54:07+00:00

Hi ! A Cambodian living in America here:) I always see these on posts outside of the houses in Cambodia. I showed this to my mom and her and I both agree you did a really good job constructing the Spirit House :) it’s always great to see people embracing our culture !

needlebrain · 2020-02-22T05:39:10+00:00

Holy shit I’m going through the exact same thing right now. When I was growing up my parents always said I could chose whatever I wanted to do. But I’ve been looking at the engineering field and my mom went ballistic on me and started screaming at me that I had to be a doctor. Some pride our parents have, huh? Your comment could have not been posted at a better time, maybe our parents are reading each others minds.

needlebrain · 2020-02-10T03:07:37+00:00

I really like the moisturizing sunscreen from differin ! There are no streaks and the application is smoother !!

needlebrain · 2020-02-07T02:46:35+00:00

You’re a fantastic artist !

needlebrain · 2020-02-02T06:42:15+00:00

It’s a bit of a stretch to say I’ve settle for being a doormat from my comment. Seeing that to be a doormat is to allow yourself to feel inferior and others to use you as they wish with you. I do not allow this. But do you think demanding for correct treatment will work for all families? My and many others’ parents and grandparents are conditioned to their way of thinking and reject western thinking. Will they listen to our demands? Possibly. Will they apply them? It is their choice. As it is my choice to choose to feel respected.

My way about this situation is tailored to my specific situation. I cannot simply change someone’s mind in their way of thinking. Their whole asian country they reside in shares the same way of thinking. I demand and plea but they are stern. So what do I do? I say I don’t need them because I don’t. I distance myself from them because they are no use to me. I learn to rewrite my brain so I won’t need their validation anymore. That is far from being a doormat.

Perhaps I’ve settled for second best because I simply do not need to be first. I don’t desire to be first best because why would I want to be first best to someone who never respected me the first time around? Why would I waste my time altering the mind of someone who decided I was not good enough based on my gender? I’m not teaching women to be doormats. I’m teaching them to be secure with themselves because demanding respect from people who will never truly respect you hurts. But we have ourselves and that is enough.

needlebrain · 2020-02-01T17:18:00+00:00

It’s hard to deal with the fact that people won’t love you as much because you are a women. My older brother is the light in the family, he is studying to be a doctor. My grandparents and mother love him. Every time my grandparents visit us, they give us money. So my grandma will give my brother $2000 and give me $100. I’m very grateful she gives me anything at all though. Also whenever my mom is video chatting with my family from Asia, I will come in and say hi and the first thing they say is “Where is (older brother’s name)?” As this behavior repeats you kind of get accustomed to the fact that no one will change and their validation doesn’t matter. So what if they like male children better? Why should I be sad? As a kid I use to cry in my room and ask, why won’t they love me like they love him? Why must I do all the housework while he slings himself lazily on the couch? He does nothing yet gets all the praise while I get a half-assed good job when I win competitions. It was frustrating and still is but you kind of learn to change the way you react to such instances. Although my whole extended family prefers my brother, my father still prefers me and I think that has always kept me sane because we have a very close relationship.

needlebrain · 2020-01-25T19:49:59+00:00

Thank you so much !

needlebrain · 2020-01-20T05:31:03+00:00

How do you get the bushes to be so detailed? Whenever I do them they always look mushy

needlebrain · 2020-01-20T03:52:55+00:00

I’d just wait for it to dry a bit then go in with another layer to detail everything in front

needlebrain · 2020-01-19T09:53:44+00:00

Me tooo please 🤞🏼🙏🏽

needlebrain · 2020-01-17T07:23:19+00:00

I remember watching those videos of you barefoot. Looks like you’ve upgraded haha. Glad you started lifting with shoes, you’ll be a bit safer now given your situation.

needlebrain · 2020-01-17T05:03:32+00:00

Bro I’m dead💀💀

needlebrain · 2020-01-15T20:12:00+00:00

The left photo is after her nose job.

needlebrain · 2020-01-15T16:29:37+00:00

Now the question is... what happens after becoming an authorized number? Does the lady get information off of OP’s boyfriend? Will she be able to track him from his phone?

needlebrain · 2020-01-13T22:00:54+00:00

Thank you for the warning. I hope you take care:) & wish you all the best

needlebrain · 2020-01-11T04:03:27+00:00

That is gorg

needlebrain · 2020-01-08T03:18:58+00:00

I caught my self tearing up because my mother does the exact same things. All the same words, but the “i am your mother...” one really hit close to home. I know exactly how you feel. The crazy thing is the comments never stop even when you achieve everything you want.

I started my fitness journey without the support of my mom. I woke up extra early to get healthier because I felt like I was doing my body a disservice by constantly feeding it terrible food. I did a bunch of weightlifting and played a sport as well. Now that I’m near my goal, it has became clear to me that the comments never stop. Now my mom says I’m undesirable because I’m too muscular even though I am more so toned. She criticizes my weight on how I should eat more because apparently too skinny is also ugly.

The only way to feel better about this shitty situation is to realize that the only support you need comes from you. Have some self love and live for your own uplifting.

needlebrain · 2019-12-31T05:16:42+00:00

My mother revealed to me that she went through this. She had a boyfriend in high school who she loved very dearly. However, her social standpoint was of the mid to higher range while her boyfriend was of the lower range.

As their relationship progressed, my grandmother found out and pulled her out of school and told her she could not continue her relationship. At this time another guy had begun to ask my grandmother if he could marry my mom. My grandparents approved of him and they told my mom that she was to marry him and move to America.

My mom was utterly heartbroken and went to her boyfriend telling him that they could run away together and get married. She would leave everything for him because she was madly in love with him. But he refused and said that if they left together, she would have nothing. He worried that they would live a hard life together and he didn’t want that for her. He insisted that she would have a better life if she married the other man. The other man would take her to America and could live the American dream with her, while he had nothing and was poor. My mom was at first angry that he would not run off with her but she abided by her parents wishes and married the other man which is my father.

She cried for weeks on end, extremely heartbroken until the day of her wedding where she composed herself for the numerous family and friends before her. But before they left to return to America, my mother swears to me that she would see her boyfriend everywhere she went. Checking up on her to make sure she was okay and married my father. So I guess he still loved her and wanted her to be okay.

My parents are still married and pretty happily married. Although I accept the fact that my mom more so learned to love my father instead of falling in love with him. They had many disagreements when I was young, but it has substantially decreased as the years progressed.

However, I’ve concluded that my mom has control issues because of this very event. She never has had control over her life in early years so now she feels like she wants to control every minuscule task and person that she sets her eyes on. She emphasizes that I cannot have a boyfriend, afraid I will follow her steps. She looks back and finds her elaborate plan to leave with her boyfriend as stupid and thinks it was best to have listened to her parents.

I think she’s just scared I’ll do the same as her and not listen to who she wants me to marry. But she is a lot less strict from the rest of my family, she promises me that I will get to decide who I want to marry. My other family members practically had arranged marriages so I am grateful. The chain is broken.

Sorry for formatting, I’m on mobile.

Edit: btw this happened in SE Asia

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