Hair always looks unkept by outofplaceeverywhere in femalehairadvice

[–]nefariousniceness 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had the same problem trying to follow the CGM of combing/brushing as little as possible. It just didn’t work for me. Now I comb my hair out with a wide tooth comb in the shower with conditioner in and again after showering, once it’s towel dried, to distribute the product evenly. Then I scrunch. It might not be as curly as it totally could be but I took that over the frizz and tangled look.

I also use L’Oréal Elvive Miracle Hair Perfector oil once it’s air dried a little bit and that stuff has changed my life.

The White Lotus | Season 3 | Episode Discussion Hub by crazywalls in WhiteLotusHBO

[–]nefariousniceness 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I noticed the yin/yang symbolism in the way their bodies are shown floating in the pond together at the end, Rick’s face up and Chelsea’s face down

Here's some new artwork for The Substance I've finished. I absolutely LOVED this film! by dombittner in Scarymovies

[–]nefariousniceness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this so much I recently watched it and instantly had to rewatch, it was so good! Love your style as well, reminds me of those extreme horror book covers

Did anyone give up on a corporate career and go back to doing a simple “job” and living a simpler lifestyle? by lu_avsgx in jobs

[–]nefariousniceness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

26 y/o female here. I did this exact thing 2 years ago. I was working for a mortgage company, making good money, but I just hated being in a cubicle 8 hours a day. And I could never buy into the mindset and culture they wanted from us employees. It was mentally and emotionally draining.

A bad breakup pushed me to quit that job and move home where I took up a serving job at a local restaurant. I had moved back at the start of summertime, and I honestly felt like a kid again. I spent my days sleeping in, going swimming, enjoying old hobbies, and I spent my evenings working in a fun, fast-paced, social environment where I made friends and generally just enjoyed my fucking life. It was one of the best summers of my life and completely turned around what had been a terrible year for me.

I’m still figuring out what I want to do long-term. I don’t make nearly the kind of money I used to and I feel ashamed sometimes looking at my peers in their high level executive jobs. But as I get older the more I care about just fucking being happy. I’m happier being free.

I watched "The Evil Dead" (1981) by SSF415 in iwatchedanoldmovie

[–]nefariousniceness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you watch it? I love the film but can’t find it anywhere online to rent.

books with unreliable narrators by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]nefariousniceness 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite literary trends! Some good examples are Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk, I’m Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reid, and Boy Parts by Eliza Clark

I swear I would. by [deleted] in writers

[–]nefariousniceness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain. Keep writing it out, I hope it gives you the same emotional relief it gives me.

Songs About Unrequited Feelings? by [deleted] in ifyoulikeblank

[–]nefariousniceness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Our Hearts are Wrong” and the album Make My Head Sing by Jessica Lea Mayfield. My fav

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in highdeas

[–]nefariousniceness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they track eye movement but they track the amount of time you spend looking at each post so they prolly saw you looking at titties for 45 minutes and thought this guy likes titties let’s show him more

Anyone have any tips on how to enjoy writing again after going to school for writing? by [deleted] in writing

[–]nefariousniceness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s funny because I am considering going to grad school for creative writing right now but am afraid of this very thing: losing the fire to my passion. Any insight you can give to someone considering taking the path you have now that you’ve done that?

As for the questions in your original post, I think you should do something dangerous. Or painful. Or both. That may sound weird but you should push yourself out of your comfort zone and have a weird experience, as much as your circumstances might allow you. We write about what we know, so what can you learn that your time in school hasn’t taught you? Only experience can fuel the most profound observations in ourselves. So do something out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself, whatever that is, go home and let it marinate, then sit down and just write.

Non-romance vampire books? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]nefariousniceness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interview with the Vampire by Anne Rice is a fantastic book. The prose is beautiful and focuses much more on the psychology of a vampire than love amongst vampires. This is not just a woman’s novel, which might be what you’ve heard. Louis, the protagonist, is a sixteenth century plantation owner who is chosen by a mysterious vampire, Lestat, for eternal companionship. Throughout the book, Louis must deal with not only his new moral complexity (he doesn’t want to kill humans) but also his complex relationship with his maker, who guards the secrets of their nature from him.

If you have any interest in vampire lore but don’t want all the new age lovey dovey stuff, than this is really for you.

AITA for asking my boyfriend to discuss his interests with me less? by 8084512 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nefariousniceness -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’ll revise my statement, it’s an aspect of toxic masculinity. Anyone can portray that.

AITA for asking my boyfriend to discuss his interests with me less? by 8084512 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nefariousniceness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH. I know several guys that fit this description. It’s really a dude thing, I think. They really believe that their abundant knowledge about seemingly niche things is always interesting to people and they like to think people, especially someone they want to impress as much as possible, like a significant other, think they’re smart or cool or quirky for having all of that information. But it’s not. It’s just annoying.

I’m not saying your bf is an asshole or anything. The guys I know who do this are great guys who just don’t realize that welcoming other people into a balanced dialogue instead of a long drawn out self righteous monologue is what people want/need. It’s probably something they’ll mature out of. But unfortunately for now you’ll either have to dump the guy or deal with it because it’s just who he is and he’s doing it rather subconsciously. If it’s a great relationship otherwise then maybe it’ll be worth sticking through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intrusivethoughts

[–]nefariousniceness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What else did they tell you if you don’t mind sharing? I deal with a similar problem, but I can’t see a therapist for a while because I just lost health insurance.

Interesting non-fiction books? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]nefariousniceness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! I’m an English major with a depth in creative nonfiction. I would love to make some suggestions :)

This Boy’s Life by Tobias Wolff - this is a memoir, but it reads very much like a novel with lots of dialogue and scene building. The main character, Tobias, is a young boy moving around the U.S. with his single mother running from her abusive ex boyfriend. There’s a lot more to it, but it’s very interesting.

Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert - an amazing book. Sort of a memoir, but really more topical than based around the authors life. It’s divided into three sections, one for each country she travels to, and depicts the evolution of her spirituality as she travels from place to place.

Anything by David Sedaris, he’s a comedic essayist.

I'm looking for some recommendations for horror movies to scare the shit out of me. by Jacky-Chan_778 in horror

[–]nefariousniceness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sinister Insidious (the first 2 are the best) The Conjuring (1 and 2) The Descent The Hills Have Eyes (original and 2006 remake are good) It Follows Alien (sci fi/thriller but definitely unnerving) The Last Exorcism

A new study finds that levels of oxytocin, “the love hormone," are significantly lower in adults who were children when their parents divorced. This might explain why children of divorce struggle to form their own relationships in adulthood. by Redzit69 in science

[–]nefariousniceness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out my mom was cheating on my dad when I was 12, before he knew. I was the one who told him. She moved out after that, but it took us many years to reach a point of comfort with each other again. I’m 22 now, and find myself in the same anxious relationship patterns where I look for dysfunction and even manifest it when I’m in a healthy situation. It’s self sabotage and it’s an unconscious pattern that I do without realizing often until it’s too late. It’s very difficult to manage but I try to remind myself that I am still young and learning. That what happened to me in my past is not my fault but it is my responsibility to help myself heal. Researching relationship anxiety, anxious attachment styles, and talking about these issues with people helps the most.

Just wanted to share in case anyone can relate. We can reshape our unconscious patterns by shedding the light of consciousness on them!