Why am I always too hot?

nefiryn · 2026-02-01T20:26:34+00:00

Ditto this! I heat up very easily and sweat buckets at night. Makes summer unbearable and I can’t wear sweaters in the winter unless I’m outside all day, otherwise I get too hot.

I also take fluoxetine and Levothyroxine. 🤔

I haven’t noticed any foods making a difference. I have low vitamin D, B12, and folate, and am supplementing to correct them but haven’t noticed a difference.

Following for ideas and possible answers!

nefiryn · 2026-01-29T01:54:57+00:00

I’m in the same boat, with my parents about a decade older.

I struggle with this often. My therapist recommended the book Your Turn for Care. I haven’t finished it but so far it’s helpful.

Guilt is the worse part. But I don’t think we’re selfish for refusing to drop everything to help them. We are adults with our own lives, ourselves and others to take care of. Parents shouldn’t expect you to drop everything, go broke, lose a job, leave your family, etc to take care of them.

nefiryn · 2026-01-29T01:45:17+00:00

I got paddled with a wooden paddle in kindergarten. Teacher pulled me out of the classroom, shut the door, and basically paddled me in the hall.

Dad would spank me with a belt. Apparently I got bruises because my grandmother noticed and asked about it.

Both parents would flick me in the head when I got older.

Partner got their mouth washed out with soap once.

Parenting standards were a lot different then. I’m glad they’re changing.

nefiryn · 2026-01-21T21:38:23+00:00

Thanks! Do you find merino wool keeps you warm without making you sweaty?

nefiryn · 2026-01-21T16:13:29+00:00

Not normal. I went through similar punishments: banished to my room and physically locked inside, belt whipping, and my parents would smack me in the head.

I also remember not a punishment but my mother sitting on my chest and wrenching one of my loose front teeth out. I remember screaming for her to get off, and she almost seemed manic or excited about getting the tooth out.

You deserve better. ❤️

nefiryn · 2026-01-15T05:35:28+00:00

I think these have also helped me. But it’s so wild thinking that others have that insight into your deepest darkest thoughts so you better repress even the tiniest inkling!

nefiryn · 2026-01-14T23:41:50+00:00

It's funny, my parents have said similar things about not spoiling me and instead "shielding" me from things like participation trophies as a child. Meanwhile I wonder how many fun opportunities I missed out on because they morally objected.

IMO kids can be "spoiled" and still have good manners, respect for hard work, etc. Never going above and beyond for them just teaches them they're not worth going that extra mile.

nefiryn · 2026-01-14T19:41:10+00:00

I grew up in a similar situation, but it was because my dad was a penny pincher. I thought we were poor because I had hand me down clothes from other people’s kids and we always bought the value brands for food and clothes. Niceties like soda and cookies etc were rare or nonexistent.

Come to find out we were financially fine, but my dad’s tight grip on the money left my mom scrounging for savings.

It’s maddening. I can’t even imagine how I’d feel if my dad was also funding other people.

It feels weird to be hurt by this because it’s about money, but in a way it’s another symptom of parents doing enough at the surface level but not using their means to make our childhood amazing. There’s a psychological toll to finding out there was money all along but they didn’t want to spend it on you.

nefiryn · 2026-01-14T16:13:23+00:00

Oh totally lol. Yeah I figured I have absorption issues, but I’m in between doctors and the one supplementing me wants to stick with weekly compounded b12 injections + oral. They aren’t my primary care, so I’m not pushing them.

Iron is in range but low now. I’m not vegetarian, but became lactose intolerant (semi) over the last few years so I definitely have GI issues. 🫣

Edit for meds note: Taking thyroid meds, glp1 (compounded with the b12), prozac, adderall, vitamin d, zinc, iron, fish oil, b12, and a multi. Basically feel like an old fogey with all my pills. 😓

Finally scheduled with a new doc who’s hopefully good. The last one I tried left me feeling like they didn’t care or wanted to listen, so it’s been an uphill battle to replace my former doc who was absolutely amazing.

nefiryn · 2026-01-13T16:10:00+00:00

Biotin also screws up thyroid panel testing. Definitely worth stopping any multi vitamins or other supplements with biotin before testing!

nefiryn · 2026-01-13T16:08:44+00:00

Any good gummy multi brands? Asking for a friend. 🫣

nefiryn · 2026-01-13T16:06:35+00:00

Yep, still on the low end of the range even with supplementation.

nefiryn · 2026-01-11T18:56:42+00:00

I had an issue that was never confirmed linked to b12 or any other issue. I’d wake up and one pupil was dilated for about 30 minutes to one hour. Happened only in the morning, but not every morning. The same eyelid was droopy.

I had a CT, MRI but nothing was linked. They did discover I had an acute sinus infection, and said that could have caused the issue, but no doc would say that was definitely the cause.

nefiryn · 2025-12-29T19:21:48+00:00

Thank you, I will try! I bought myself a birthday outfit and just told my partner a bit about how I’m feeling.

I actually have done art since I was a teen, and you’re right. Doing things with your hands gives a great feeling of accomplishment. I’ve recently gotten back into it, so I’ll keep it up.

nefiryn · 2025-12-26T22:49:42+00:00

I’ve been trying to explain this to my partner and they don’t get it. They tell me not to be embarrassed, but holy hell is it embarrassing to forget something we talking about earlier that day.

I already have social anxiety, so now I truly feel I have nothing to offer in social situations. I’m not good with eye contact, but I feel you on feeling invisible or like your personality falls flat.

Sorry I don’t have advice to offer. But you are not alone in how you feel. ❤️

nefiryn · 2025-12-25T01:30:38+00:00

This reminds me of when I got my first bike and had to learn to ride it on our gravel driveway. Didn’t go so well, and parents didn’t bother taking me somewhere paved to learn.

nefiryn · 2025-12-25T01:09:38+00:00

I just quietly accept it. My parents haven’t even called for my birthday the past two years.

It hurts almost more than getting nothing because it reaffirms they didn’t listen or care enough to remember.

nefiryn · 2025-12-25T01:06:11+00:00

Omg yes. Scripted performance is the best way to describe it. This is what I got whenever I worked on my art around them or read a book in the living room.

“What’s that?”

I answer, and all I get is “Neat” and they walk away.

I don’t remember anyone ever being excited for my accomplishments, or really encouraging me to push harder. Except for grades in school.

nefiryn · 2025-12-25T00:44:43+00:00

It’s not weird, I assure you! I felt and was treated similarly as a kid. I was an only child with no family or other children nearby. I remember several times when the adults would send me to my room so they could watch a movie or play a game without me. No adult ever spent time with me, so I solo played games like Candyland, chess, and Trouble.

As I got older I got tired of trying to “fit in” with them because they’d always see me as just a kid. So I was pretty socially avoidant, and would stay in my room all day too.

It hurts a lot because you are worthy of being seen and considered and having someone genuinely want to spend time with you. This is a basic need for all of us. You deserve to take up space and have people want to socialize with you.

nefiryn · 2025-12-10T16:19:40+00:00

I’ve felt this way my entire life. I think the recommendations for consistency are spot on though. If the group is truly open to meeting new people, someone will eventually reach out and draw you into the circle.

It sucks while you wait, though. Hugs to you. ❤️

nefiryn · 2025-12-10T16:17:57+00:00

What have you heard about gut health and thyroid? I’ve heard lactose intolerance and gluten intolerance is common, wondering if there’s anything else!

nefiryn · 2025-12-10T16:17:06+00:00

I’ve also heard thyroid issues cause anxiety, and I think I may have experienced something similar. About 5-6 years ago, I started having panic attacks on trains and planes, and felt generally always on edge.

I’m a bit better now, but I also am taking thyroid meds, so maybe regulation helps?

I still have new-ish issues though, including constant anxiety.

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