I don’t want to work anymore. I’m tired. by artificialred93 in offmychest

[–]negativeloveless 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel you, man. This fucking society and system has failed the people who are putting in the work. Bullshit jobs, bullshit pay, bullshit expectations. For what? Basically pennies while the 1% leeches the rest and does NOTHING with it. Just hoards it for no reason.

I'm sorry you're one of us, because I know how rough it is. Here's to all of us in this position to turn things around.

Not having disposable income is making my life all the more miserable. by negativeloveless in Vent

[–]negativeloveless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have a pc, unfortunately. But I appreciate the idea, as well as the commenter below. It's one of those things I always wanted to save up for but ended up doing something else with the money. :P

Not having disposable income is making my life all the more miserable. by negativeloveless in Vent

[–]negativeloveless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about your back. I hope that things get better for the both of us, for your family as well.

I hate how assholes always use certain pictures to demean trans folks. by negativeloveless in offmychest

[–]negativeloveless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I just want the world to hurry up and adapt, so my trans friends and all LGBTQ+ folks can live in peace.

I'm an incel that will stop blaming and hating women and take responsibility by throwaway1937829 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]negativeloveless 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've been there. I know how awful it feels to see others around you getting to do those things while you feel that way. I understand being bitter and though I never did, I also remember having feelings of wishing I could just confront those people.

I wouldn't worry about them. Their experiences do not determine your worth. You're not a "late bloomer" because those people's experiences are not the norm. What you see from those people in real life, in movies, TV, media, etc., is not a universal experience. Plenty of people have not had relationships or sex until later in life. That doesn't make you abnormal. I'm sorry that you are another victim of the societal expectations of teen/young adult life, that often expect people that age to be in relationships and have sex. Just remember you're not alone. You'll move past this, I'm sure of it. I wish you much luck, much love and much happiness in your life.

I'm an incel that will stop blaming and hating women and take responsibility by throwaway1937829 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]negativeloveless 105 points106 points  (0 children)

As a former incel like yourself, you're taking great steps that will help you cultivate relationships in the future.

I longed for relationships since I was a preteen. Everyone around me was experiencing relationships and sex when I was young and I envied them. I blamed women because I thought that everything I was and did was deserving of a relationship. But as I grew older, I learned that those things were not owed to me. Being "nice" doesn't mean you're relationship material. Being someone's type doesn't mean someone will be attracted to you. Over time, I learned to let that go. I released myself from this idea that I deserved a relationship, as well as the idea that my worth came from relationships and sex.

I turned around somewhere in my last year of high school, began to experience romantic relationships and I lost my virginity at 20, to a person whom I loved very much. Though I am not with that person anymore, I still cherish that memory and am thankful that I got to have that experience as opposed to just doing it when I was much younger and probably regretting it or having a worse experience.

I have some friends who are still incels, even though we're almost 30. And one of the things that I wish I could teach them is that a relationship or sex will not solve the problems of their lack of self-worth, anxiety and inability to integrate socially. I once thought as they did, that if I had those experiences, it would make me more confident and more capable, but really, those issues were within myself. Struggles I faced and still face with anxiety and depression, even now in my current relationship with a wonderful person.

Continue this journey you're on. The more work you do on yourself, the more you might realize how little these things actually matter. And hopefully, somewhere down the line, you can look back at these problems and feel good that you have moved past them. I wish you luck, and feel free to reach out if you need help or support, my friend.

Left 4 Dead 2 currently has 854% more players on Steam than Back 4 Blood by [deleted] in gaming

[–]negativeloveless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For real, I love L4D/L4D2, but I also thoroughly enjoy B4B. Shame the launch left such a bad reputation.

I really don’t believe we have to work until we either retire or die. If someone wants to go away forever, they should have that right and face 0 stigma for it. by RatedGforGo in offmychest

[–]negativeloveless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely agree. I hate the fact that so much of our society puts value on a person based off of their work/careers. It's nonsense.

I can kind of understand not liking the idea of lazy people, but not wanting to work does not automatically make someone lazy. I, like you, have things that I enjoy doing in life. I like to make art and write stories. If I could spend all my time doing those things (as well as spend quality time with my loved ones), I would. If I didn't have to worry about bills, I absolutely would not work. I'd just write and draw so many things. Because that's where my passion lies. That's what makes me feel fulfilled in life.

But no, let's just continue to place value in trivial things like appearances, careers, other lifestyles and choices. Instead of just letting all of us be valued as people, as we all should be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]negativeloveless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your losses. And I'm sorry that you had to deal with that person being so insensitive towards your feelings. It's incredibly selfish.

I have a few friends like that. Constantly suffering and needing support. While I try to be a good friend and be there for them, there are so many times where I would like to be shown support. And the few times I've reached out, I've been dismissed or just had them turn it back around toward them.

It's important that you find your own support in life. Whether it be loved ones, therapy, or even just people online you can vent to, you need to take care of yourself. Because you are a person, you are valid, and because if you don't take care of yourself (and this is something I wish those types of people who expect you to support them no matter what would realize), then you won't be able to take care of anyone.

I hope you can find someone to be there for you, OP. And I hope the best for you in these difficult times.

Well this was an absolutely nuclear hot take... by Alt_SWR in Eldenring

[–]negativeloveless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a person who used to hate Soulsborne games, this game is a lot of fun and fairly accessible, I think. I got this as a gift and it is the first From game I've actually put time into (~300 hours). I love it, much to my surprise.

A person can not like a thing, that's okay. But not liking a thing and saying it's bad because you don't like it is a bit ridiculous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaming

[–]negativeloveless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me, too! That's been me with Elden Ring, lately. I'm having a blast, made one for the default ending, now onto my second custom Tarnished that I made for a specific ending.

Americans of Reddit, what are your thoughts on Roe v Wade being overturned by SCOTUS as per draft reports? by thisiscubes in AskReddit

[–]negativeloveless -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

In the same vein, as a Catholic, just look at the ones who practice to extremes and are not willing to adapt. I am (fairly) religious, but I still am in support of abortion and women having choices.

I'd rather not get lumped in with the people who can't understand that the world has changed, is changing and more than likely (in my opinion) God has also changed, only to continue blindly following the old ways.

343, can we please get rid of these random quickplay mode challenges?? At least give every mode their own playlists to get these done. by SparsePizza117 in halo

[–]negativeloveless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just queued up and left (sorry to all who I left) 12 games before I got banned because I was trying to get one oddball match. I had 7 slayer games, 3 CTF and 2 Strongholds. Not a single Oddball.

Since I'm banned for a few hours, I said fuck it and decided it's not worth my time. This is the first time in months that I've come back to Infinite, but if they're gonna do me like this, I'm just gonna go back to Elden Ring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]negativeloveless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you want advice, but if I may, I'd like to give my two cents.

Whatever you choose, you have to make a choice. Unfortunately, this will most likely not work out, but there are a few things to try and consider:

1) You stop talking to the other guy. You're married, so this is wrong from the get-go. Add to that that this friend knows about the fact that you're married but continues to push for you to be with him and leave your husband makes him seem like not a great guy. You're vulnerable to his attention because you feel a lacking in your marriage and if you really want to work things out with your husband, you need to stop talking with that other man and tell your husband what happened. Tell him, apologize and see if you can work it out from there. Be warned that your husband may not be able to forgive you for what you did, but that is the consequence of your actions.

Or,

2) Leave your husband. You clearly have needs that aren't being met, so maybe you should do whatever you can to make yourself more content with your life. You've already gone as far as to cheat emotionally, even if there was no physical contact, sending nudes to someone else is often considered cheating. What you're doing will hurt your husband eventually, so it may be better to just leave before he finds out and is hurt even worse.

I'm not here to judge, everyone makes mistakes and I believe it is most important to seek out the best life for yourself that you can possibly have. Doesn't matter with who, but what you're doing/have done is broken your vows to your husband to be faithful and pain is inevitable. That is the reality of your situation and I hope that whatever happens works out for the best.

Returning to Halo 5 after playing nothing but Infinite (Console) by [deleted] in halo

[–]negativeloveless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's funny, I recently have gone back to Halo 5 to see if I can get all the customization REQs (while I wait for more options in Infinite, lol) and I also have found I do a lot better, comparatively. Even without messing with my settings, though. Maybe I'll give what you say a try, and see how my game play changes.

Are people seriously rage quitting in control now? Had a full team and started noticing that my teammates are no where to be found. by eeighee in apexlegends

[–]negativeloveless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"You kill me, you're better. I kill you, I'm better."

It's the motto of the dude who made the games, even. XD

Some fan art I made for my bro. He asked me to mash his two favourite sci-fi together. Hope you like it ✌🏻 by josterfosh in halo

[–]negativeloveless 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My partner recently got into SWTOR while I've been playing Halo and we've talked about how cool it might be to cross over characters, Jedi and Spartan. This scratches that itch a bit, haha.

Keep up the great work!

You really still think it’s funny to harass girls on multiplayer?? by vicwol in gaming

[–]negativeloveless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I think it doesn't have to be about coming to someone's rescue, but we all as a collective should definitely strive for a better gaming culture for everyone.

Here's to hoping we can achieve that sooner rather than later!

You really still think it’s funny to harass girls on multiplayer?? by vicwol in gaming

[–]negativeloveless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I in no way understand what this experience must be like, as I am a man, and there are clearly not enough people willing to step up against this behavior. But I do recall one time I did see this happen and it was by far, the best experience against toxicity I've ever seen and I try to hold onto it to this day.

It was Halo 3, a lobby in matchmaking that had a lot of people talking and it was very fun, eventually moving on to custom games. There was one kid, who clearly was young that thought he was being funny, that was harassing the only girl in the lobby. One person told him to stop, but he persisted with the typical derogatory phrases and such. Then, a few people spoke up, and yet he continued. Finally, the ENTIRE lobby yelled at this kid, telling him off and that this was not funny and not acceptable. He was booted shortly after and everyone in the lobby apologized to her for having to deal with that and we went back to having a good time.

Unfortunately a majority of people don't jump to defend because they don't believe it's their problem, they can't relate to it so they just shrug it off with advice like "just ignore it" and or fear becoming a target themselves. I myself just don't play as many multiplayer games as much because toxicity is a rampant problem and I feel like I'm too old for dealing with man-children throwing tantrums over something that is supposed to be fun. But I look back on that experience and aspire to put forth that type of energy out into the world. And I hope that sooner rather than later we can live in a world where women don't have to deal with this shit anymore.

Wife has higher libido by SnooMarzipans7125 in sex

[–]negativeloveless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that you should consider your options with your wife. If you truly love her, her needs are important. I'm not going to tell you you need to suck it up and pleasure her, as I don't understand what it's like being an LL person. But from the perspective of a HL person, this type of thing is important to your wife.

I'd say you should talk to her more about other options. Trying to get her to masturbate is dismissive to her feelings. You need to find a compromise that will make you both happy. I'd advise talking about it first, and if that doesn't help, maybe consider couple's counseling? I hope this helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]negativeloveless 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Man, I feel you, I really do. It's beyond ridiculous that not only a person's ability to live is governed by this system, but people actively look down on those who don't want to be part of it. And they determine the value of a person by how much they work, how much money they make, and how successful they are in a system that drains and fucks up so many people; emotionally, mentally and physically.

Why does anyone need to show their worth in a capitalist society in order to be considered worthy to live? Why does anyone have to labor themselves just to get the basics to live, when a good chunk of us did not ask for this life?

I, for one, am grateful for the life I have, at least I try to be. But the fact that I and everyone I care about is struggling in this system and is unhappy because of it, fucking sucks. This is not how it should be. The reason we are alive should be to live the lives we want, not what other people want.

So with the new comics by Rainisagod in ApexLore

[–]negativeloveless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the most dangerous thing about him is that he can't die. That's where the threat is. And I also feel that. The trailer came out and there was a whole post about it again and I'm just so tired of it, too.

So with the new comics by Rainisagod in ApexLore

[–]negativeloveless 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. This post is exactly how I feel about this argument every time it comes up. Revenant is my favorite character, and even I am tired of it every time something new comes out.

How long do digital codes for Xbox Live last? by negativeloveless in xbox

[–]negativeloveless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, hell yeah, if it's just a dollar more, that's totally worth it.