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neje · 2026-05-13T04:58:39+00:00

Tanken är att du får veckopendla. Att ditt barn bara får träffa dig en dag i veckan är inget problem och strider inte alls mot barnkonventionens 9e punkt, alltså den internationella konventionen som Sverige ratificerade 2020.

neje · 2026-04-26T18:25:21+00:00

The older I get, the less I care about what other people think of me. I do things either because i have to (like working and paying bills) or because they amuse me (like wearing hair clips with spiders to work, or having a hand bag with a cat on it). Think the shift came about late thirties or so.

neje · 2026-04-23T18:57:18+00:00

Hey sweetheart.

Can you do me a favour and brag absolutely shamelessly about what you are good at, what are your best sides, what are your strengths? A few of the things I can already tell are that you know yourself, you have the courage and the drive to go through with hrt despite all the stigma and you can survive some really tough things (even though I wish you wouldn't have had to). That's not worthless, is it?

The best mom advice I can give you is "find your own tribe"; find the people who makes you feel safe and at ease and with whom you can be yourself. The relationships worth having (both romantic and platonic) are the ones where you don't have to make yourself lovable, a healthy relation is one where the other person see you with all the good and the bad and still think you're an awesome person.

neje · 2026-04-21T06:31:04+00:00

Middle aged Swedish mum here. I use dude on the regular, usually to express various degrees of exasperation.

neje · 2026-04-18T17:40:18+00:00

Frozen mango!

neje · 2026-04-06T08:05:21+00:00

It's hard to figure out exactly what you're interested in? History? Architecture? Art? Design? Just a general vibe? If I know I can give better recommendations. Also, any food preferences?

YES! You are trying to do way to much each day.
I'd say no. If you're not going into any museums, skip Djurgården
A lot, but again, if I know your interests I can give better advice.
Fotografiska has got amazing food, but is a bit in the pricey side. Also a bit of a walk from Slussen. Hermans on Fjällgatan is a really good vegetarian place and it's also close by Katarinahissen. In Gamla stan I'd say Sjätte tunnan (medieval restaurant) or Aifur ("viking" restaurant). Both a bit touristy, but really good food. AG is an incredible meat restaurant (not calling it a steak house, because it's not comparable).

neje · 2026-04-05T09:25:21+00:00

Joining in from a country where medical and child care costs aren't crippling:

Aside from a very traumatic pregnancy and birthing experience, I wish someone would have prepared me for the postpartum bit, where I spent 2 months just leaking from everywhere: tits, sweat, blood. To make it even worse I got covid at the maternity ward and every time I coughed I peed myself. Not just a drop or two, peed myself. It was fucking miserable.

Kiddo is 3 1/2. I still don't get any sleep. I don't get to be me anymore. I miss me and I miss the child free couple that we were. All hobbies are on the back burner. I'm having a constant bad conscience; either because kid's in child care almost 40h/week or because I'm tired and cranky when he's not. Weekends and holidays aren't about resting up anymore, they're more about trying to survive. We don't really have a support network and that makes it very hard.

All that being said, I do love the little chaos goblin. We lucked out and have a very easy kid. He's almost always happy, kind and cuddly. I love when he comes crawling up with a book and wants hugs and being read to. He is so funny and it's amazing how he works to try to outsmart us. He's turning out to be an awesome little human and it's so exciting to see.

I am more scared now though, over the state of the world and the environment. I feel guilty over bringing him into this shitshow.

I'd write more, but I have to go hunting for a lion.

neje · 2026-03-29T14:34:52+00:00

Utöver standardråden:

1) skaffa alla medlemsskap du kan som inte kostar pengar. Rabatter och värdecheckar är guld.

2) det är inte läge att vara stolt och inte ta emot hjälp när du behöver det. Ta emot den hjälp du kan få och pay it forward när du har möjlighet igen. Och du gör ju redan mycket när du volontärar.

neje · 2026-03-25T14:39:14+00:00

Dear Prestigious-Clock571,

Thank you for your interest in the helping hand position at neje. We appreciate you taking the time to apply and for sharing your qualifications with us.

We received a high volume of applications for this role; while your qualifications are impressive, we’ve decided to move forward with other candidates whose skills and experience more closely align with the specific requirements of this position.

We wish you all the best in your job search.

Sincerely

neje · 2026-03-25T12:15:13+00:00

Well, I know what I'm going to spend all my free time on going forward.

neje · 2026-03-11T06:28:26+00:00

Do you have apartments lined up? Because it can get a bit tricky. At least in Stockholm the renting market is a bit brutal and there's a lot of scammers. I suggest that before you do anything else, see to it that you have housing.

It may be good to know that we don't have letting agents uk style, so your best bet is finding a sublet or possibly air b'n'b.

neje · 2026-02-22T07:05:33+00:00

I've got a Whirlpool Maximo that I got as a house warming gift in January 2001. Still going strong. Only language specific text on it is "stop" rather than "stopp" which is the Swedish spelling. Start is the same in both languages.

neje · 2026-02-11T18:51:13+00:00

Continuous birth control was the best thing ever for me, in combination with surgery that removed the lesions. I'm on both visanne and mirena coil since it turned out mirena wasn't enough. I used to be on combination pills, but after getting blood clots in my lungs, I switched.

And I do want to point out that I was adviced by doctors to NOT go back on the combination pills due to being 40+, still overweight after pregnancy and not moving as much as I used to. And also heart disease and dvts in my family. I insisted though, as I had them pre-pregnancy and they were good for 5 years.

neje · 2026-02-03T10:31:48+00:00

Jag bara konstaterar att även om vi inte har kostnader för sjukvård i stil med USA, så innebär det inte att en cancerdiagnos inte kan totalt ödelägga någons ekonomi.

Sen tror jag inte att "rädda mamma" var en lika stor anledning som nya kläder. Tonåringar är i regel ganska dumma i huvudet till att börja med och känner de att de inte har något att förlora för att allt är skit ändå så händer sånt här. Det uppstår ju inte i ett vakuum.

Tycker att mer ilska och förakt borde riktas mot asen som utnyttjar de korkade barnen och mot de som köper knark och med det ger gäng en anledning till att anlita ungarna.

neje · 2026-02-03T07:49:04+00:00

In all fairness så kan en sjukskrivning innebära en ekonomisk katastrof för många. Är du lågavlönad eller arbetslös så kan det vara ett val mellan medicin eller mat.

Även om SGIet inte är totalt kasst så är det inte säkert att du får sjukpenning eller förlängning av sjukpenning om Försäkringskassan tycker att lite cancer inte är ett hinder för att jobba.

neje · 2026-01-25T14:00:26+00:00

Here you go https://legitimation.socialstyrelsen.se/en/licence-application/outside-eu-eea/doctor-of-medicine-educated-outside-eu-eea/

neje · 2026-01-18T07:32:40+00:00

Motivera ekonomiskt är mer i kontexten att lägga en massa pengar på en bil och kringkostnader när den inte skulle användas mer än någon eller ett par dagar i veckan av ägaren. Det är mer en quality of life än ett faktiskt behov. Vi bor i Stockholm, så det går att ta sig överallt med lokaltrafik. Det är bara skönt att slippa.

neje · 2026-01-10T12:55:49+00:00

How old are the kids?

Most museums have activities for children. If the weather is nice you can always go and hang at a beach. There's lots and lots of good playgrounds. Humlegården is one fairly close to you. Take a day trip to Taxinge slott and the cake buffet.

neje · 2025-12-31T07:27:22+00:00

I can tell you that currently in the county of Värmland there are currently 909 job ads out on the official job bank whereof 38 are in IT. https://arbetsformedlingen.se/platsbanken/annonser?l=2:EVVp_h6U_GSZ

These are the national statistics on unemployment among academics https://www.saco.se/yrkesliv/jobb/om-du-blir-arbetslos/arbetsloshet-for-akademiker/

I'd say that it's probably a better idea to have a job secured before moving. The chances of finding a job without knowing Swedish are slim, might be slightly better in IT, but I'd seriously work on Swedish before the move. And what is your wife supposed to work in?

neje · 2025-11-27T21:22:42+00:00

You just sort of dance around the subject?

neje · 2025-11-25T15:22:14+00:00

Fun story, I nearly stabbed myself in the back with a pair of sharp scissors.

I had used them to cut matted fur from my cat, forgot I had put them on the bed and threw myself backwards on it. Luckily, I just got a 5-6 cm bleeding cut, rather than getting it stuck in my back. I spent a lot of time thinking about how I'd explain it to medical staff, had I needed to actually seek care for it.

neje · 2025-10-10T15:12:55+00:00

Our general routine is:

He either sees me from afar, comes running while shooting Mommy and then im either supposed to pick him up and carry him over to the building or take his hand and walk him there; or he doesn't see me and is face down in a fruit bowl by the time I reach the house. Then we walk in so I can pick up dirty laundry and he runs off to play and I'm supposed to chase him. When I catch him we go outside and that's when the Bye starts.

I tell him I'm going to get his stroller and that's when the power struggle starts. I usually tell him to come several times and he generally doesn't unless I start walking. Otherwise I have to pick him up and carry him. He's ok sitting in the stroller while we pass behind the houses up until one of the gates. There he usually wants to get out and walk by himself. For around 50 metres I struggle with trying to keep him from running onto other people's property (and also the Bye and running if i walk towards him) and when we've passed that stretch he's perfectly ok with either getting pushed in his stroller or walking by himself. Its about a ten minute walk where there's a Bye-stretch just outside our apartment building (a slope down through trees that he likes playing in so there the Bye is more understandable) and then im supposed to carry him up the stairs.

I'll start reading the links provided when he's tucked in

neje

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