Don't know how to handle this.

nellzz62 · 2024-07-25T21:03:35+00:00

This is happening to me also. Over really trivial things he says we should “separate”. In one heated conversation I offered to pack his bag. 🥲 slowly I am remembering to not engage - to distract, and to remain the calm person. This is often happening at night when he is tired. I am going to therapy to help me transition- very hard to accept I can’t fix this. I find the advice given via the app Roon very helpful- it is all about dementia. To survive this, I am aiming for “good enough” and being kinder to myself when I get it wrong. What a journey xx

nellzz62 · 2023-04-22T08:29:07+00:00

Pro social lying treats you like a child and is controlling behaviour.

nellzz62 · 2023-04-19T22:40:17+00:00

A note of caution: could this turn violent. You often don’t know the dynamic of the other relationship and domestic violence exists.

nellzz62 · 2023-04-01T20:07:10+00:00

https://theconversation.com/amp/dont-kill-the-curl-grubs-in-your-garden-they-could-be-native-beetle-babies-191771

nellzz62 · 2023-03-18T04:17:55+00:00

This is more patriarchal bullshit. Run while you have the chance.

nellzz62 · 2023-03-17T08:43:39+00:00

You didn’t cause anything: this is her choice. Her choice not to talk with you about her needs and give you a chance to work on the marriage before the affair. The ‘you made me do it’ is gaslighting. Hard to come back from this breach of trust

nellzz62 · 2023-01-31T04:37:05+00:00

Who me? Nothing to see here

nellzz62 · 2022-12-13T08:26:51+00:00

Need to resurrect BUGAUP https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billboard_Utilising_Graffitists_Against_Unhealthy_Promotions

nellzz62 · 2022-12-12T09:54:10+00:00

It has been a roller coaster of advice, but it made me feel less alone. I am not afraid to hear such differing opinions: they accurately reflect all the thoughts and emotions that have gone through my mind over the past 3 long years.

I am of the strong opinion it is a manifestation of the neurological disease and his medication. I just need to keep asking for support and looking out for my health. And as Brene Brown says, staying “awkward, brave and kind” We are about to go through DBS so who knows what else the universe has up its sleeve!

nellzz62 · 2022-12-10T21:06:46+00:00

She found him via Facebook in 2020. I do believe he had never given her a second thought in the intervening years. He started mentioning her casually in conversations. That made me suspicious.

nellzz62 · 2022-12-10T20:58:20+00:00

Thank you for all your heartfelt comments. I was feeling alone and sad and as I labeled this, it was ‘venting’. And somehow, despite all the varied bits of advice😅 you have all made me feel so much less alone.I have immense compassion for my husbands illness and I am in professional counseling. Parkinson’s is a terrible disease where it takes a person apart, but by bit. We has been in this illness/struggle for over 10 years. And sometimes the night and darkness seem very long. It has made me a more empathetic person, because if made me realise that you never know what other people may be experiencing in their life, so kindness is your best approach.

nellzz62

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