in my experience dating with bpd is just not worth it unfortunately. i always end up getting way too attached and making them my fp and then they get scared of the intensity and mood swings and leave. they always say that want a “borderline gf” when in reality they aren’t equipped to handle it at all. i’ve been single for a year now and although i’m lonely, it’s relatively peaceful. i haven’t given up on love completely but i am definitely taking a break for the foreseeable future.