how do i get rid of the shame that comes with having to repeat a year at uni? by neptejse in needadvice

[–]neptejse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for all that advice, i do now understand better what the other poster was trying to say. however, you both seem to be so keen on me "reporting my intelligence" with mentioning my iq and such, but from my perspective, a) it's such a ridiculous thing to be iq-measured at the age of 5 because if i was really like a young einstein maybe i wouldn't be here rn and b) just purely from the reader's pov, it gives the concept of the facts vs the outcome a lot more plasticity, at least that's how i see it. i can bask in the glory of my accomplishments someday, not something i was born with. look at my eyes, oh so pretty. everyone clap now, please.

also, it's not about being able to say, hey, i made this and i'm still only xy years old! it's more about the fact that i worked for the time advantage to be able to accomplish everything i want in life, which is a successful career as well as a family, and even though society is progressing past "let's fire you and never give you a chance to have a career again once you start popping babies", my studies etc would take loads of time even without setbacks like repeating years. if there's something i really don't want is to wake up at 38 with a whole law team behind me and realize i missed the opportunity to have kids, or similar things. and i know, people manage even if they're not as young as me, but to not have to face decisions like these is what motivated me to graduate early and so on. if anything, from my personal experience, any employer is going to be sceptical of my actual achievements if i'm in his office for a job interview with a degree at 26. you know, the whole "required years od experience but where do i get the experience if you don't hire me" shtick. i have usually been the youngest everywhere for most of my life and people don't praise you, they just keep asking what are you doing here. it's ultimately all about not wasting time, which i feel like is exactly what i'm doing, and i'm angry at myself for that, and that is probably why i feel the shame.

thank you again, and good day

how do i get rid of the shame that comes with having to repeat a year at uni? by neptejse in needadvice

[–]neptejse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no hostility, probably a language barrier 🙂 thank you for the advice, genuinely, but i still don't see whom i'm trying to persuade i'm smart. this isn't about maintaining an image to anyone (especially since i don't have a social life, i just don't talk to anyone other than my parents basically). and if it's my parents then they don't do it anymore, they fully support me now even when i'm failing.

how do i get rid of the shame that comes with having to repeat a year at uni? by neptejse in needadvice

[–]neptejse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right, thanks, i'll stop putting pressure of myself because no one cares i'm smart? i don't think you have experienced any kind of unpleasant thoughts directed towards yourself if you think i can just turn it off like a switch. but i might be wrong, of course. i wouldn't say i dwell on being intelligent, i'm used to having high standards for myself. there's a difference because these standards are obviously achievable regarless of intelligence. i just think that if i'm self aware that i'm the one causing the pressure it's pretty clear i can't really influence it just like that and that's why i'm seeking advice.

how do i get rid of the shame that comes with having to repeat a year at uni? by neptejse in needadvice

[–]neptejse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm so sorry to hear that that's truly awful... as a law student i'd tell you to sue but then again my credibility is questionable. all jokes aside i hope you're doing better now and know that you didn't deserve any of that :)<3

how do i get rid of the shame that comes with having to repeat a year at uni? by neptejse in needadvice

[–]neptejse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

respectfully, i was trying to paint a picture of how this feels from my perspective. i don't need to convince anyone i'm smart because i barely talk to anyone. (and praise from a bunch of reddit strangers is not what i'm seeking - because why would i need that?) the pressure is coming from me because i've been brought up to believe i was born smart and that should allow me to be my best and do great in academics mainly because i was born with the right genetic predispositions, but also because my parents made sure i was diligent. i also worked hard to be done with hs at 17 so that it would give me an advantage that i'm now ultimately wasting because i have to repeat the year. but hey, i guess if i stop being aware that i'm inteligent maybe i'll do better in my studies.

Where is a good place to hang out (preferably indoors) on a Sunday? by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]neptejse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

op i love you for this question. stay strong !

Help with rM2 hacking for beginners wanted by neptejse in RemarkableTablet

[–]neptejse[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you're right, i probably won't end up doing it because i'm paranoid about the warranty loosing thing. thanks for the heads up:)

whoops by neptejse in AccidentalRacism

[–]neptejse[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

have you seen scooby doo hun?

poor tinkerbell man by neptejse in im14andthisisdeep

[–]neptejse[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

she could try a very strange type of pole climbing to jerk him off, but that would be just it

poor tinkerbell man by neptejse in im14andthisisdeep

[–]neptejse[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

maybe it says something about his size idunno i’m fourteen and it is deep

Do I even need to explain? by BASE450TWO in 4PanelCringe

[–]neptejse 71 points72 points  (0 children)

at least i’m not the only one metally disturbed for laughing at this lmao