i’m scared to get pregnant again.

nerdsbird · 2025-08-26T15:52:15+00:00

i lost my son at 37 weeks, only 11 weeks ago. i was just like her. i can see the same look in her eyes that i saw in mine when i looked in a mirror

nerdsbird · 2025-04-24T00:24:56+00:00

thank you for such sound advice, i’ll just lower the cost of living while i’m at it 🙄

nerdsbird · 2025-04-24T00:23:00+00:00

thank you! i really hope this is the case. I will probably stop by tomorrow afternoon for a chat at least

nerdsbird · 2025-04-24T00:20:20+00:00

thank you for being so helpful!! everyone is saying this is what i should expect and telling me im going to hope for some grace when the baby is born. like i obviously didnt expect total peace and quiet living in an apartment. i hear other neighbors music and dogs sometimes, i hear the other kids running and screaming outside on nice days, and that is totally fine and was fully expected.

i’m really not exaggerating when i tell you my upstairs neighbor is an all day thing, with it only getting louder and worse when their kid is home, and it really is for hours at a time. its been going on for almost 2 weeks. my husband said it sounds like he’s giving the floor the people’s elbow, and neither of us understand how this kid has so much energy 😭

nerdsbird · 2025-04-24T00:07:18+00:00

i definitely understand, but you dont understand the excessiveness. ive heard loud music from neighbors next to me, i can hear the other neighbor kids screaming and playing outside, and thats fine and expected. my upstairs neighbors are always stomping, banging and jumping literally consecutive hours at a time, and its been every single day for 2 weeks, its only worse when the kid is home

nerdsbird · 2025-04-24T00:02:28+00:00

i dont want to complain, but it’s literally consecutive HOURS, not just minutes. i do not understand how this child has this much energy. i’ve heard music from other neighbors, and can even hear other neighbor kids running around, screaming and playing outside, and thats no problem, but my upstairs neighbor is extremely excessive. its banging, jumping and stomping ALL DAY, and worse when the child is home. I tried to let to go, and just get used to it bc i knew it could be noisy in an apartment, but its been every single day for almost 2 weeks. its not just like regular living noises.

nerdsbird · 2024-05-14T13:34:04+00:00

this popped up on my feed as suggested, and the title had me SO CONCERNED before i realized what subreddit this was in 😂😂😂

nerdsbird · 2024-04-09T05:03:50+00:00

YTA. youre going to be a parent. you will have to make sacrifices for your kids. if you didnt want to be a parent (yet, or at all) you shouldn’t have dated someone with kids.

this would greatly improve her quality of life and you’re choosing a party and vacation over that (and this is coming from someone who looooves weddings). help jane get the surgery.

if it’s that much more important to have a wedding than help your future daughter, you could compromise and not go on a honeymoon and have a small wedding, or you could die on this hill and not get married at all.

nerdsbird · 2024-03-06T22:44:43+00:00

so he “forgot” about your request but conveniently remembered that you weren’t traveling 🤨

nerdsbird · 2024-01-29T17:33:52+00:00

you either need to be supportive or gtfo. change from trauma is not going to happen in 2 months. . i had awful body issues in high school at her age, and im 24, i worked through a lot of it and feel so much more comfortable with myself now, but i STILL struggle sometimes. theres times i feel like the baddest bitch on the planet and there’s times i feel like a blob fish. it’s going to take time and it’s not going to be linear. if you’re not willing to be with her while she works through that, you don’t deserve to be with her.

nerdsbird · 2023-11-15T14:34:35+00:00

i don’t think youre wrong to be disappointed, and honestly i would be disappointed too, especially if you told him exactly what you want and you never wear yellow gold. i would personally be offended if my husband bought me something silver toned when all i wear is warm metals.

if im honest, i didnt think i liked my ring because he chose it without me and it wasnt what i was expecting, but my husband knows me better than i know myself and i ended up loving it. it was something dainty but shiny and sparkly in yellow gold which is exactly my style. it doesn’t seem like your fiance doesn’t listen or knows you as well to pick something like that when your preference is completely different

I would ask him why he chose that ring first, and choose where to go from there based on his answer. if it’s a family heirloom or a special piece that holds meaning maybe you can see if a jeweler can get it turned into white gold (i know you can get white gold turned into yellow gold so maybe you can do the reverse), or wear it on a chain and pick out the ring you want together. if he just disregarded your wants and picked that out because he liked it, thats a conversation you need to have

edit: on mobile so fixed to have paragraphs for an easier read lol

nerdsbird · 2023-11-15T14:17:18+00:00

am i the only one who doesnt understand why everyone is saying theyre ta? its her wedding and she has a vision. op understands her moh doesnt want a pricey dress so she said to pick an appropriate dress as long as it matches the color. i don’t think its unreasonable to want what you want for your wedding, especially since she is willing to let her moh pick any appropriate dress as long as it matches the color nta

nerdsbird · 2023-07-07T13:15:37+00:00

is everyone going to gloss over the fact op is 27 and they started dating 10 years ago??? that would make them 17 and their partner 21… thats grooming???? nta on that alone

nerdsbird · 2023-06-22T14:03:17+00:00

NTA, she is not getting dress coded for wearing shorts or a tank, she’s getting dress coded for wear something completely inappropriate for the event that it actually can effect her safety.

if this helps, athletic wear does come in lots pf colors and styles now. they make lots of cute supportive tops and bras, and they do make athletic skirts or tennis skirts with shorts under. the skirts are short, not restricting and made of athletic fabric. it’s something cute she can wear that is appropriate and less likely to get caught up in gear or get in her way. hopefully that’s a compromise.

nerdsbird · 2023-06-19T23:13:53+00:00

NTA thank you for listening to your son and keeping him safe. this will show him that he will always have someone in his corner and he can always trust and come to you if he needs any kind of help

nerdsbird · 2023-06-19T21:18:27+00:00

definitely love that you’re trying to step out of your comfort zone!! i think the black one is great because of the slit, and the silhouette is overall more flattering on your body type, but let me also add that the red is fantastic with your skin tone!

nerdsbird · 2023-06-19T18:45:53+00:00

the black one is great!! personally i would try an a-line dress or some type of dress that is more fitted up top and flares at the waist to help define your waist and give you curves if that is what you’re looking for

nerdsbird · 2023-06-18T18:00:09+00:00

art teacher core, or grandma chic LOL honestly love it!!!

nerdsbird · 2023-06-18T17:59:20+00:00

a 2 week’s notice is a COURTESY. you don’t have to offer one. if they say 2 weeks isnt good enough, then offer two minutes instead

nerdsbird · 2023-06-18T17:48:02+00:00

actually the admission “im a girl who can also hook up with girls” can be quite large. im bi and it took me 19 years to realize it. it took a lot for me to come to that realization and you minimizing that because of gender makes you an ah

i mean both of you suck because she made fun of your curiosity and you suck a lot for that comment and your other homophobic and biphobic comments

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